Re: May Infants and Toddlers
posted at 5/20/2013 11:09 AM EDT
Arcain, I can not recall how old your LO is... but it depends on the age and the child's personality from what I seen with mine and with other kids... DS would cry at drop off from around 8-12 months unless I found some toys for him that he really liked, or passed him to his favorite teacher (he had two teachers and only one that he really liked). Around 12 months, he moved to a new room, and loved it, so then the only time drop off got difficult was if we had to drop him off in his old room and it was a teacher he did not like as much. And I recall pickup was very challenging... sometimes I had to nurse him before I could collect his stuff and get him into the car. When he was older, we started to bring a pouch for the ride home, and that helped a lot.
DD is almost 9 months, and she used to be really easy to drop off but in the last few weeks, she has suddenly started to burst into tears if she thinks I am leaving, so I put her stuff away while I hold her, then nurse her and fill out her sheet - and last, wait until her teacher is not busy and then pass her to her teacher. Luckily, they have a camera in her room so I can see how quickly she settles down and plays. DH does the pickup, and he says he has to pick her up immediately and put her into the ergo before collecting her stuff, or she will cry (sometimes even do the pitiful crawl of tears over to DH if he does not move fast enough in her direction). I know it will probably last for a few months then get easier.
I can not recall if you are at a home daycare or daycare center, but most centers usually will have a video camera in the room and screen to watch from outside the room (which I used with both kids to see how they are doing after I leave).
The most important thing I found with both of the kids is to have the same good bye routine "Bye-Bye <name>" and leave (and don't come back in - if I forgot something like diapers, I would ask the staff to go into the room), and never "sneak" out - that makes them paranoid. I know it is tempting to leave them when they are not thinking of you leaving, but I found if I do the same routine and they know I am leaving, they don't spend a lot of time waiting or hoping I am just around the corner. They know once I am out the door, I am out, and that someone (usually DH) will be back to pick them up at the end of the day, and from watching the cameras, I can see that they would settle down into their school routines quickly.