Re: October Infants and Toddlers
posted at 10/22/2012 8:21 PM EDT
Trouble NO PULLUPS!!!!!
They are a scam from the huggies and pampers people for you to purchase (much more expensive, I might add) more of their stuff for many more years.
Keep her in diapers now, but start acting like she's in underpants, which means that you take her to the potty (and it's NOT asking 'do you have to use the potty?' because she'll say no because she's busy, doesn't wanna, is 2 yrs old, etc. You say "when you finish this puzzle, before snack, before we go in the car, etc. it's time to go potty" and then you follow through. and since there is a younger sibling, move the puzzle to a safe place during the potty visit so she doesn't have to worry that baby is getting the thing she had to leave.
And then you start going at all these times:
as soon as she gets up in the morning, before all meals and snacks, 30 minutes after meals and snacks, before you get in the car, the second you get to someone's house or get home from being out, before you go play outside, immediately after you get in from being outside, and then about every 2 or 21/2 hours when you're just hanging around in the house. the point is to get in the potty frame of mind (for you and her) because at some point when she's in underpants you are going to REALLY CARE that she tries at all these times (and produces) so you feel confident about going for a walk, in the car, blah blah. so you get used to the concept now, when she's in diapers. when she's got a dry diaper at any point, ever, you try on the potty, too.
and when she does pee, it's woo hoo, what a big girl, good job! when her diaper is wet, it's fine, I wouldn't say anything now.
then, when she's dry more often than not you take a deep breath and you use UNDERPANTS. not pullups. (if it feels like a diaper, looks more like one than not, is very absorbent like a diaper, it must be.... a DIAPER!) and kids will use their pullups as diapers, and don't keep them dry (despite what those stupid marketing commercials say on tv....) BUT when you pee in your underpants, it goes through to your pants, your socks, and it's really squishy and yucky and you.... learn! You learn that if you don't want that feelinga gain, that when you have the other feeling of needing to go, you GO! and then you're dry!
so when you do bite the bullet and use underpants, use them all day, every day, and start on a weekend and just plan to have a home weekend - no going to the mall, being at the grocery store forever, etc. because it's hard for new pottiers to hold it, and mall bathrooms are very far away and rather icky. so just stay home that weekend, and make lots of visits to the potty. and use a diaper (not a a pullup) at naptime and at bedtime for a long, long time until she's dry after every nap and then you'll stop using the nap diaper. And you may use the bedtime diaper for another year or so (or maybe not, all kids are different) because children sleep so deeply and some just can't be dry at night for a longer time.
And really, while everyone talks about the horrors, I think it really should take about 2 weeks in underpants to really get it. And then, even when she's dry more than she's not, you still have to tell her to go potty at all those times (as listed before) because being able to hold it until you get to the potty is one skill, noticing your body, holding it, then thinking "I have to pee, let me go to the potty and put this puzzle down, etc." is yet another skill.... But still, if you go full bore potty training in underpants and lots of visits to the potty and she's not done in 2 weeks, then you'd reassess whether she's really ready, and rethink your plan. But if she's talking about it so much, I'd buy a potty (or seat, or whatever it is) - and make sure there is one on each level of the house, kids can't necessarily hold it while you race them up the stairs... many a child has peed as they are entering the bathroom at the beginning).
Oh, and get the really thick training underpants, not the thin ones like what we wear. the thicker training underpants still have cool designs on them, they aren't just white anymore. And get about 20 pairs right now so when you have to do mucho laundry those first few days you won't be drying that last pair with a hair dryer!
Have fun, this is very exciting, and believe me, if she trains now, by Christmas or at least January you can go places sans diaper bag, very freeing! (of course, because you have a baby you'll still have a diaper bag, but think about it when it's just you and your daughter at the park.... sans heavy diaper bag?)