Re: October Infants and Toddlers
posted at 10/4/2012 8:26 AM EDT
ml - That is awful, but others are right that it probably reflects some worry you're having. This is my total pop psychology, but I wonder if it somehow symbolizes you being worried about her going into something new that she might not be able to handle. Any big transitions looming for your DD?
I can't comment with authority on the daycare center issues, since mine is a home one, but I would hope they would have SOME way of keeping parents apprised of staff changes -- maybe a newsletter or something?
I did talk to my provider yesterday about the smoking and I feel better. She assured me that it is only 2 people (her daughter and son-in-law), and that they smoke exclusively outside, which I had guessed given that I can't smell it anywhere inside. Neither she nor her other daughter (who works as her assistant) smokes, and she went on to tell me how much she hates it. Unprompted, she did bring up the state regs and said that they have to smoke outside. Not sure about that given the discussion on here (does the outside count as the daycare "premises" -- maybe not since it's totally separate from the kids' outside play space? I guess we'll find out if she's right on that, since she mentioned she has her state inspection today.
I am going to give it a few days, since I sometimes tend to get so relieved once I've garnered the courage to bring up an issue like this that I lose sight of whether it's actually resolved, but I'm confident in the important stuff -- no one is smoking around DS or in the rooms he plays/sleeps in, and no one who handles him there smokes either.
In other news, maybe it's all this thinking about daycare, but I'm feeling down about not being at home anymore. I love my job, but I was just thinking about the time DS spends with his daycare provider during the days I work and it adds up to so much more time than I see him (he's been sleeping past when I leave in the morning, and I get home around 5 and he goes to bed by 7). I do wish I could have another day, so work 3 days and be home with him for 4. Overall, though, I think I'm having a hard time admitting that I want to work, even if it does mean giving up a few days with him. I comfort myself constantly that DH and I need to both be working right now, but why should I have to say that? I know there's a LOT of talk out there about this lately, but I just needed to vent a little :-).
FWIW, this has nothing to do with the quality of care he receives when I work -- recent issues aside, I love his daycare and my dad and MIL are wonderful on the other days. Not to mention the fact that DH, who saw him less than I do now when he was going through the insanity of his old job, now gets to spend every morning before daycare with him.