Re: Pre-nap/bedtime routine for 4-6 month old.
posted at 10/13/2011 10:51 PM EDT
In Response to Re: Pre-nap/bedtime routine for 4-6 month old.
[QUOTE]Can you try to tweak your son's afternoon routine so he is hungry at 1:30pm so you can feed him and then he's either tired or so darn full he'll just lie and look at his gym toys while you get your daughter to sleep?
Congrats on sleep training your daughter! That is so huge!! I'm sure that took lots of willpower on your part, but you did it, and you can now finish the job by getting her to go to sleep on her own, without needing you there. Remember, you could also start shortening the 'have to' 15 minutes of getting her to sleep, by telling her from now on you will read two books (SHORT of YOUR choosing - like board books) books (they like TWO of anything vs. only ONE) and then she goes to her crib/bed, and you simply sit with her vs. rocking and singing. THEN after 3 days of you sitting by her crib/bed (not touching her) for 3 days, move your sitting chair 1/2 way across the room for 3 days, then into the doorway for 3 days, then outside the room, then gone.
That way she learns to go to sleep by herself and you decrease the rocking, singing, etc. as a NECESSARY part of her routine. I know you love to rock and sing to her, but those things can be done throughout the day, and you will be very happy to free yourself from this so she can just 'Go the $&*# to sleep" as that fun book says. And you'll be sitting in the rocking chair together during the two short books anyway. Seriously, don't let her choose the books unless you put out 3 acceptables and she chooses 2 because they ALWAYS pick the dictionary-like books to read before bed, and if you let them choose, you have to stick to it, so make sure you offer only good (short) choices.
And once you do that (it would take about 7 days) you would be free to have her go to sleep when she really NEEDS to - at 2pm - vs. having to wait for her brother. Because you're right, if she goes down too late then she isn't going to get good sleep and might wake up and be a BEAR!
honestly, it won't kill him to chill out in his swing for the 15 mins it takes to get DD down when she needs to - she's had to alter her life to his schedule the rest of the day, so he can do it once each day. But if he's really full-one crying/screaming, that is hard on him (and you).
Congrats on sleep training her! I'm sure that took lots of willpower, but you did it, and you can now finish the job by getting her to go to sleep on her own, without needing you there.