posted at 7/28/2012 7:19 PM EDT
I know you want to help, and your advice is good if it weren't stuff we were already doing! But your post also suggests that we are not taking our kids out to socialize and so their shyness is a result of something we're doing wrong. In fact, that's just the way they are sometimes. We are who we are! :)
Yup, Roger jumped to a conclusion but I'll bet he's going on some actual examples--because I've seen them too, the kids who are tethered to Mom and hardly every get out of the house, or never have an un-mediated moment.
Roger - the OP works full time and her son goes to daycare.
purplecow, I wasn't saying Roger's comments would never be valid, and I don't doubt the case study you cite as a cautionary tale.
My apologies if any offence.
Here's what I meant by my post.
It's simply based on my best "guess".....it's not the antidote!
WE - poppy609, medfordcc, purplecow89, et al - all got the same instruction manual with our kids! You will find under the chapter of "Shyness" a series of blank pages.....just like the rest of the book!
NOBODY has the answer you (LW) is looking for, just a "guess" - IMHO
You/We - don't have to agree.....
Is it shyness or separation anxiety???