Re: Morning routines?
posted at 1/9/2013 10:28 PM EST
other than what you're already doing (humor works wonders and usually also keeps you from wringing his neck), can I suggest two things:
1. get him up 15 minutes earlier, so that mornings aren't too hectic and you have more time to manage him to success.
2. create a list of "things he does in the morning" that has about 3 or 4 things on it. write it together, using symbols as well as words. something like:
1. Pee in the toilet (picture of toilet)
2. Have breakfast (picture of food)
3. Get dressed (picture of socks, pants, shirt, shoes)
4. Get in car (pic of car)
then you give him a tiny (cool) clipboard and pen and hand him a new checklist every morning on this clipboard. he does the thing, then crosses it off, then moves on to the next thing. The idea is that YOU aren't the one managing/telling/reminding/arguing/yelling/cajoling, etc him to do the next thing and the LIST is the BOSS vs. Mom and Dad being the boss.
Sometimes this works on kids who get off purpose and are dawdling over in the corner, sans clothing, breakfast, etc. I used this with a child in preschool - it was a constant battle to do the after lunch/before nap routine of clean up lunch box, brush teeth, put blanket on mat, get book, get onto mat. So all I had to say was "Daniel, check your list, what's next?" when he was off purpose, and he'd get right back on task. Otherwise, you have to ask a zillion questions to find out where he is in the routine (did you put your lunchbox away? have you brushed your teeth and used the potty? where is your blanket, on your mat? blah blah. Given we had 21 preschoolers, I could tell when someone was off purpose, but not necessarily know what they needed to be doing. Other kids you could say "what do you need to do?" and they'd know, but he needed more direction. (funny, he's graduated from college by now, I wonder what he's doing?)