Resume & Parenting

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    Resume & Parenting

    I'm starting the process of job seeking  and I have a question about updating my resume.  In addition to my standard professional experience, I'm considering adding an additional section including my current activities - Volunteer work, a small jewelry business, and parenting.

    My thinking is to use a very polished, professional tone, highlighting the relevant skills (project management, communication, finance, logistics).

    On the one hand, I know that even mentioning parenting can be unappealing to potential employers.  On the other hand, I think that there is some relevance, and an indication of initiative.  I'd be seeking a part time position, if that's relevant.

    Thoughts or opinions?

     

     
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    I'd consider doing a skills based resume that includes these accomplishments - with a small section that might mention parenting.

    There are definitely excellent skills developed as a parent, but I've looked at alot of resumes in my position and highlighting parenting experience is a red flag for many, it screams if you hire me, I'll ask you to be making accomodations for my family all the time because I'm the primary care parent.

    Just being honest, I work in a pretty-intense financial industry where there are no part time employees, and this is what I hear behind closed doors. Part time work is really designed for parents, so for you it will be less of an issue.

     
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    I'm not sure I would mention parenting on your resume. Like ml said it could let them know ahead of time you might need more time off then other applicants. 

     
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    I couldn't be more against the idea of mentioning parenting on a resume in any capacity.  It would be against the law for them to discriminate outright because of it, but they would and would claim another (legal) reason you were not called.  Leave it out of any interview, as well.  I'm not an advocate of secrecy, but that is YOUR BUSINESS that is absolutely irrelevant to your job performance and potentially harmful for your ever even getting hired.  Employers are not allowed by law to ask if you have kids for a good reason - they use that information against you!

    Yes, parenthood is a huge job that requires organization, leadership, etc., ect.  I totally get why you think it would be helpful to mention.  Please trust me, it is not.  It is hard enough "out there." Don't shoot yourself in the foot.

    best wishes!

     
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    Volunteer work related to parenting--say, if you ran the toddler Sunday school at your church or the Daisy Scouts--sure.  Describing your housekeeping and child care as work skills, no.

     
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    maybe you could spin it to talk about what skills you have (from parenting) that are relevant to the job, but not directly reference parenting.  like for example say you have excellent time management skills or whatever - which maybe came out of your parenting skills but it's not directly related to parenting.

     
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    Some-guy, very well said.  It's essentially asking to be passed over.

     
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    Agree with some-guy, unless you're applying to a family centric business - childrens museum, pre-school, nanny - don't bring it up OR put in your resume.  There was a story on 60 minutes with an HR director who had no children but had pics of kid's on her desk. If the interviewee commented on the pictures and talked about thier kids they got passed over. The HR person also escorted the applicant out to the car. If the HR person saw the car seat in the vehicle - the applicant got passed over - ALL LEGAL! They NEVER have to tell you the reason you didn't get the job.  Good Luck!

     
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    I third some-guy.  Any experience on your resume should be applicable to the position you are applying for. If you are not applying for a position as a nanny, childcare experience is not applicable. I am sure most people can find a more traditional example of time managment and logistical ability - most hiring managers [even if they have kids] are going to give the hairy eyeball to an example on a resume or cover letter that cites to how being a parent helped you develop marketable skills for X job.  

    I'd leave volunteer activities out as well, unless they very specifically apply to your desired position - ie, you are applying for a CPA position and you donate your time to keep the books at your church.  Applications are coming in in droves for each position advertised - no one is going to be going over your resume w/ a fine tooth comb to see if you have a gap. If it's obvious, address it in the cover letter or in the interview.  Otherwise, just put down skills and experience that you have that are specifically pertinent to the desired position.

     
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    In fact I wouldn't *gratuituously* include anything that smacks of affiliation or identity politics, unless you intend to work for an advocacy organization on that topic.  Parenting, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, disease survivorship...nothing.  Nobody wants to work with someone who is always saying "As a Mom I...." or "As a member of Group X I..."  when 99% of the time it's not relevant.

    You especially don't want to come off as one of those gals who's got a chip on her shoulder about how Mommying isn't respected as real work even though it's the hardest job on the planet, wah wah.  I presume you aren't one but they do exist and you don't want to be mistaken for one because they are a pain in the neck.

    As others have said, only include it if there is real work experience involved and it's worth the chance that someone may not like your affiliation.

     
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    "You especially don't want to come off as one of those gals who's got a chip on her shoulder about how Mommying isn't respected as real work even though it's the hardest job on the planet, wah wah.  I presume you aren't one but they do exist and you don't want to be mistaken for one because they are a pain in the neck."  purplecow

    Omg, that's exactly what I was really thinking but was afraid to say it In so many words.

     
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    In response to purplecow89's comment:

    In fact I wouldn't *gratuituously* include anything that smacks of affiliation or identity politics, unless you intend to work for an advocacy organization on that topic.  Parenting, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, disease survivorship...nothing.  Nobody wants to work with someone who is always saying "As a Mom I...." or "As a member of Group X I..."  when 99% of the time it's not relevant.

    You especially don't want to come off as one of those gals who's got a chip on her shoulder about how Mommying isn't respected as real work even though it's the hardest job on the planet, wah wah.  I presume you aren't one but they do exist and you don't want to be mistaken for one because they are a pain in the neck.

    As others have said, only include it if there is real work experience involved and it's worth the chance that someone may not like your affiliation.




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    Interviewing is no different than any other social get together - you NEVER! discuss religion, sex or polotics! EVER!

    Oh yah! Facebook?LinkedIN? Yah if you posted your political affiliation and your potential employer doesn't agree - your not getting the job! Pics of you drunk and in that bikini showing how much fun you had at a pool party with a bottle of Jack Daniels in your hand on Facebook...not gonna fly to a potential employer that has been sober for the past 8 years!

    My point is that it's a mindfield out there - be VERY - careful!

     
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    The last thing I am afraid of is sanctimommies complaining... 

     
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    I interview a lot of people, and I am so absolutely pro moms working and child raising etc.  Furthermore, I fully believe women can do both - but...if it were on a resume, especially for a job I was hiring for to work for me, I would not hire her (or him if a dad put the same thing down).  

    Parenting, as challenging as it is (probably the ultimate life challenge in truth), is something that millions of people do without recognition as a job skill and let's face it, that is what nature intended of us.  Many people get hired without ever mentioning the fact that they have cared for their children and have risen to the top - in some cases - without people even aware that they have children.  Depending on the position, unfortunately, that's how it has to be.

    When I put things on my resume, I make sure each statement shows why I am better than the next candidate.  I can't say that a parent is better than a non parent...just because...but there are learned skills from parenting that may highlight your abilities such as multitasking, skilled at conflict resolution etc.  However, you then must be prepared for a question regarding how/why/examples behind those skill sets - in which case I would use those assets behind how you started your jewelry business etc as your example, not your children.

    So I second, third and fourth everyone - unless you are going for a position where parenting is actually a skill you need for the position, I would certainly not put that on there.  Not even as an interest.   And, I also read about the study done that Roger Taylor mentions...it's true and legal.

     
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