April Pregnancy

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    Lissa - I'm 31 weeks so looks like I'm right on schedule.  I will add in a few extra pillows and see if that helps.  If I need to give in and sleep on the couch I will but it's going to be tough not being next to DH.  He offered to sleep on the floor next to the couch last night which was just the most adorable thing.  He also suggested that we could go sleep in our guest bed and see if that helps.  The guest bed is a full so I'm not sure both of us in that bed would be more comfortable but it was sweet of him to offer.
     
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    Liz, thinking of you and hoping you will check in and give us an update on how you are feeling!!

     
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    CLC - I am 31 wks as well and having the same issue.  I am sleeping on about 4 pillows now to prop myself up as I feel more comfy in an angle rather than right on my back or side.  My dh says it is creepy as he feels like he is sleeping next to someone who is sitting up. 
    As for the sheets/mattress pad - yes have at least one extra mattress pad but I have a son and only had to do the quick sheet change 2x and both for getting sick...but once he threw up once I laid down layers of towels and would remove a layer everytime he got sick.  The towels cover way more and are much easier to remove.
    As for me going into week 31 and here is hoping all my doctors appts go well.  I ended up out on high blood pressure about 3 weeks early last time and I am so nervous that is going to happen again.  I really dont want to do that.  I am also having pretty bad pregnancy incontinance and that only occurred post baby last time so this is not fun.  Finally still not having fun with the matrimonial activities have tried a few different positions and just not doing it for me.  I feel so bad for dh he is trying not to be hurt by it but it is such a blow to a man's ego.
     
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    [QUOTE]Just wanted to post about the sheets discussion. I would definitely have 2 mattress pads on hand, plus several fitted sheets. This weekend my 17 mth threw up so much that it went through fitted AND mattress pad. Yes, mattress is plastic coated so just needed a quick wipe down thank goodness. But it was 11pm so I needed to remake the bed immediately. I did not have an extra mattress pad so had to use just the fitted sheet...and on top of plastic, well, DS sweated ridiculously. (BTW, if they use a binky, have an extra, same with blanket and/or lovey if possible. Everything was covered and needed to go in the wash and he took the backup binky and lovey like a champ!) As for changing the mattresses. It is by no means a picnic, and probably could easily break a nail, but it's not too bad and you'll get the hang of it pretty quick. I wanted DS back in bed ASAP and I did the whole remake in about a minute. That ultimate sheet is probably nice, but not a necessity. The biggest trick for me is just taking the whole mattress out and perching diagonal across the crib. It's super light weight and then just pull those sheets with all your might :-)
    Posted by IPWBride[/QUOTE]

    Yes, yes, yes to this whole post!  I love how you describe the changing of the sheet - everytime I do it I curse how to position it in order to get the sheet on most effectively, and am always sure I'm going to break a nail. :)  And I never thought about the higher liklihood of the baby sweating without the mattress pad.  I need to invest in a 2nd one.

    Just an aside, something I recently found out: DD chose a blanket as her favorite from among the slew of baby blankets we have had since she was born.  The one she decided was "her" blanket is one I got for my baby shower.  Well, I finally thought it was time to get a second one and looked it up online.  $50!!  I really hope the person who gave it to us did not pay that much!  Now I'm thinking of cutting it in half and adding satin to the cut ends.  Presto, 2 blankets.
     
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    CLC, I can't remember exactly how the mini Snoogle works, but have you tried also putting a pillow behind your back?  (Yes, I know, it makes for lots of pillows) That helped me a lot during my first pregnancy.  So, how I did it was: pillow between my knees, pillow under my belly, pillow behind my back, so I was sort of propped up on my left or right side.
     
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    [QUOTE]Now I'm thinking of cutting it in half and adding satin to the cut ends.  Presto, 2 blankets.
    Posted by poppy609[/QUOTE]
    Poppy, that's a great idea!  My mom did that when I was little, except it was big enough to be made into four.  I stlll have 3 pieces.  :)

    I have never seen that ultimate crib sheet before, but that would have been great for us when DD was little because she spit up so much in her crib.  But if you don't have a spitter, not needed.
    It took me forever to realize that lifting out the whole mattress was the way to go for changing sheets!
     
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    Just checking in on Liz...I was thinking about you this weekend!  I spoke to an old friend over the weekend - someone I haven't talked to on the phone in at least a year - and we were catching up on babies, etc.  I mentioned my ultrasound and that I'm 19 weeks and she reminded me that when she was pregnant with her first, right around this time was when she got SEVERE anxiety, and ended up back on meds.  She never had any PPD, since she was already in good care and on meds, and the anxiety, off meds, didn't repeat with #2. 

    There is definitely light at the end of the tunnerl!  Hope you're feeling like you're on the road to feeling better. 

    AFM...had OB app't this morning and am going to see a perinatologist next week for a consult.  Since I had an elevated BP and low amniotic fluid last time, they suggested the consult to see if there's anything we can do to ensure that doesn't happen again.  They said it's about a 30 minute consult...and that other care would probably include an extra ultrasound at 28 weeks and 34 weeks, just to make sure things are still good.  Anyone else have experience with this to allay my anxiety?  I'm still not classified as high-risk, but it does make me feel like I am a bit!
     
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    Thanks, guys :) I am doing a little better. I have been back on 50mg of Zoloft for about a week now and tomorrow night I have an appointment with a therapist who is an expert in this. She went and got her degree because she suffered from sever postpartum depression. So, it is still one day at a time for me. I appreciate all of your concern.
     
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    Wish I could "like" some of our posts!  Glad you're seeing an expert and taking care of yourself.  Good luck tomorrow and keep us posted!!
     
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    As far as the sleeping goes, I can't commiserate with the aches and pains since (knock on wood!) I've been ok in that department so far minus my one major back spasm. At 30 weeks sleeping is only a little uncomfortable. My issue is that I still find myself waking up on my back, despite sleeping with the BIG snoogle and 2 pillows under my head to be propped up a bit. I find that when I wake up like this, my abdominal muscles hurt, which I know probably isn't good, but I literally can't think of anything else I can do to prevent myself from rolling over. My major sleep complaint is my near constant stuffy nose which causes me to mouth-breathe all night, resulting in dry mouth/nose/throat and sometimes a sore throat in the AM.

    Anyways I guess the point of that is don't waste money on a full size snoogle, it hasn't stopped my back-sleeping.

    For those with leg cramps, my prenatal yoga instructor has us to LOTS of leg stretches and says it keeps the cramps away. Things like sitting on the floor with your legs out straight and reaching for your toes, or standing facing a wall with your hands against the wall and alternate stretching your calf muscles out behind you...hard to describe but it really helps, I've only had like 2 muscle cramps so far.
     
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    [QUOTE]Wish I could "like" some of our posts!  Glad you're seeing an expert and taking care of yourself.  Good luck tomorrow and keep us posted!!
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    Luv, you said your friend took meds during her second half of her pregnancy? Is her baby healthy? I can't help but worry a little about taking an SSRI during pregnancy. I try not to google anything because it's a lot of negative mixed with positive. Although one thing that is said time and time again is that it is potentially more harmful to baby with depressive symptoms than being on an SSRI.
     
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    Liz, one more week 'til it kicks in.  You're 1/2 way there - like you say, one day at a time.  The studies must not show a link between SSRIs during pregnancy and problems with the baby or they wouldn't be approved for pregnancy.
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: April Pregnancy : Luv, you said your friend took meds during her second half of her pregnancy? Is her baby healthy? I can't help but worry a little about taking an SSRI during pregnancy. I try not to google anything because it's a lot of negative mixed with positive. Although one thing that is said time and time again is that it is potentially more harmful to baby with depressive symptoms than being on an SSRI.
    Posted by lizinboston[/QUOTE]
    I took Zoloft throughout my whole pregnancy.  I know it's a really hard decision.
    To sum up everything I ever googled, there are a couple of problems that seem to have slightly higher risks if you use an SSRI.  BUT, the overall chance of problems is still very, very low.

    So.  No doctor is ever going to tell you anything is totally okay, because that's just how they roll.  However, a doctor who is understanding and up to date will tell you what you already read: depression and anxiety are probably worse for you and the baby than the medication is.  My OB and our pediatrician were always really supportive about this and they also said it's extremely common (that helped alleviate some of the little last bit of guilt I had!)
    I'll be thinking of you and your appointment.  You are already a great mom for facing up to your difficulties and taking action right away.
     
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    Liz, she did...she had a rough pregnancy all around...terrible morning sickness, then as soon as that subsided, got terrible anxiety.  From what I remember, the potential side effects of untreated depression/anxiety (weight loss, lack of appetite, too much or too little sleep, etc) are potentially much worse for baby than the meds.  Also, looking to when baby comes, there are studies about how depression in parents can effect children...I went to testimony at the state house two years ago about the Postpartum Depression Screening/AWareness bill (trying to mandate screening for new moms by both OBs and pediatricians, as well as do a huge PSA campaign) and watched one video from a researcher at Children's, which showed that in as little as 2 minutes, a baby can be effected by a parent with no affect/emotion.  Scary, but more evidence about how important it is to be treated and treated early! 

    What's especially incredible to me is that 35 years ago, when I was born, they didn't even have a name for this...it was brushed under the rug and not validated in women at all.  Now we're so much more fortunate in that we can talk about depression/anxiety openly, and see that there are biological reasons for this, it's not just "women's stuff".  There are also a spectrum of perinatal and postpartum anxiety/depressive disorders...so they're not just trying to fit one diagnosis to everyone. 

    Sorry!  I get a little soapbox-y about PPD and women's mental health...spent my whole life surrounded by my mom's work in this field.  Sometimes I feel like I know more about it than some physicians (which I probably do!!), and now that I have been through pregnancy and postpartum, as well as have friends who have gone through it, it's even more important to me that we stand up for ourselves and take care of ourselves and our kids. 

     
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    Also, another reason I'm glad you're going to see someone who specializes in this...there's lots of good research out there, lots of good outcomes, and lots of positive stories...but there are also a lot of people who aren't women's mental health specialists who prescribe anti-anxiety and anti-depressive meds.

    To me, I want a psychiatrist/psychiatric nurse who sees this every day to prescribe these to me, not an OB or PCP, or even a general practice psychiatrist.  It's a very specialized field.  Kind of like I wouldn't want my OB doing heart surgery on me...one doctor doesn't fit all!

    (sorry...more soapboxing...again, have been around this my whole life, so it always amazes me that people don't show the same respect to their brains that they do their lungs or heart!)
     
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    Luv, soapbox away! I have done SO much research on this all to prevent PPD. I know I may not be able to 100% prevent it, but I am doing everything I can do be happier and and less anxious in this pregnancy. The psychiatrist I am seeing tonight (can't wait), told me over the phone that Zoloft is one of the SSRI's that has been studied most and she has had patients on it for over 15 years with wonderful results.

    I think what upsets me the most are the women who suffer in silence. I know some people aren't like myself, where if and when I have any sort of issues, mental or physical, I put my shyness and sometimes embarrassment aside in order for me to get help. In fact, everyone in my OB's office was really impressed with my actions and said that by taking action now, I am preventing months of what could be severe anxiety/depression.

    I won't lie, the mornings are still a little hard. I have to force myself to eat sometimes and get geared up for the drive to work. But once I am there and settled, I seem to be ok. I also have a really hard time being away from DH right now, but he is an amazing support system and always a phone call away. I called him this morning on the way to work when I was feeling sort of panicky, and he really helped me get in tune with my emotions.

    The funny thing is, I have never met anyone (in person) who has dealt with this before, or at least they are not admitting to it. Most of my friends rave about their pregnancies, but whose to know who really had problems and who didn't.

    Again, thank you for all of the support on these boards. I feel like I am sort of taking over, and I definitely don't want to do that! But the outpouring of support and love is really helping me. I also want to thank you all for not judging or pouring your opinions out about medication and pregnancy, because there is a lot of judgement and opinions out there!
     
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    Given the rate of anxiety and depression in the general population, it must be prevelant in pregnancy, liz.  But, pregnant women especially fear being judged harshly as parents before the baby even comes for so many reasons.  You are to be commended for speaking up, getting professional help, and friend/family support.  Not only did you risk judgment and misunderstanding, you broke through the vise grip of anxiety to do it.
     
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    Liz - good luck with tonight's appointment.  I hope you get the support that you need.  One thing that stuck out to me from your last post was mentioning that you have trouble getting yourself geared up to go to work in the morning.  I believe a few months ago that you said that you weren't very happy in your job.  Could this be a contributing factor in your anxiety?  Unlike Luv, I've done no research so I'm just throwing that out there because I thought I remembered you posting about it before.  Again, I really hope for the best for you.  I think you're doing an amazing thing by recognizing that you need help and making sure that you're getting the best care for your and your baby girl.

    Summer - as for breathing issues, have you tried nasal strips?  My OB recommended them because of all of the fluid in my ears.  They seem to work great for me. I now have myself convinced I can't sleep without them!

    AFM - thanks for all of the recommendations yesterday.  Last night I added another pillow so I was really propped up and I slept great.  I'm not sure if it was due to the extra pillow or because I was so exhausted but I hope it continues!
     
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    Liz - so glad you are seeing that dr tonight, and glad you are feeling better about your decisions!  I hope that very soon you're saying that you feel GREAT!
     
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    clc- DH and I bought some breathe-right strips, for a combo of his snoring and  my stuffiness...he used them once and that was it. I haven't tried them, but maybe I really should...

    Liz- good luck at the appt tonight. I suffer from anxiety too and know how difficult it is, so I hope that the person you see can help you to feel better very soon.

    AFM, I just got my dvd and book copies of Happiest Baby on the Block! Can't wait to start reading it...it was very highly recommended at DH's "daddy boot camp" class, and gets great reviews on Amazon...DH says we need to watch/read it a few times before the baby arrives. That's the one thing he's insisted on so far during the entire pregnancy...go figure Tongue Out
     
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    Summer - the breathe-right strips worked well for me, but I will warn you: one time I pressed one on too hard and the next day my nose was all bruised!  Embarassing! So be careful. :)

    Happiest Baby on the Block saved us the first 3 months.
     
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    Looks like I'm pulling out my copy of Happiest Baby when I get home.  I bought all of the books commonly mentioned on here in an effort to be ahead of the game and read them all before the baby's born but I still haven't cracked any of them.  With only 9 weeks left to go I might want to get on that!
     
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    Hi ladies,

    I'm sure I'm missing a bunch of updates...but liz, I'm so glad you're getting the support you need, and I hope tonight's appointment goes well. You are definitely a great mom to be taking care of this now.


    Poppy - congrats on the house! Very exciting.


    To those with leg cramps - my understanding is that they're also related to dehydration. Maybe it would help to chug a glass of water before bedtime? (I know, more peeing...but I've had those cramps only twice and they were terrible!!).


    Re: Happiest Baby on the Block - I've heard this is amazing, but a friend told me you can get away with looking up videos on Youtube, so I haven't bought the book/DVD. Does that sound right? I haven't searched for the videos yet. Wondering if I should maybe pull the trigger and just order it from Amazon.

    So I am 40 weeks today - can't believe it! After a very healthy and uneventful pregnancy, my doctor's appointment yesterday was a little stressful. My BP was elevated, so I had a non-stress test, urine test, and bloodwork. Everything was fine except for some protein in my urine, so I'm now on modified bed rest and am going back tomorrow for more testing (another non-stress, biophysical profile, etc). The doc wants the baby to be born sooner rather than later - I'm hoping to avoid induction if possible.

    Question for you ladies - my in-laws and BIL/SIL, who live out of town, all want to come visit/stay with us this weekend. At this point it seems somewhat likely that we'll have a baby at that point, but who knows. We might still be at the hospital, or we might be home with the little guy by then. I adore the in-laws, but the thought of all 4 of them staying with us in our little house, plus my parents and others wanting to be around, is overwhelming me. I couldn't deny them the chance to meet their first grandson right away, and I know they'll help however they can - but I just haven't been in this situation before and can imagine that between sleep deprivation, physical recovery, figuring out nursing, and sharing one bathroom among 6-8 people, this could be...interesting. What would you do?

     
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    Tang - congrats on making it to 40 weeks!  Perhaps you should start looking up all  of the techniques to jump start labor so you can avoid an induction. 

    As for your inlaws and BIL/SIL, I personally would be more comfortable with them staying somewhere else.  I actually already skirted this issue with my ILs because I know they live 4 hours away and will need a place to stay so my mom has invited them to stay with them for a few days after the baby is born.  Do you have anyone in the area that would be willing to house them for you?  Otherwise I would recommend they get a hotel.  Just my two cents :)
     
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    Tang - definitely suggest they get a hotel. You need to feel comfortable in your house the first few nights home with your new baby and having house guests is stressful even in the best circumstances. I'd just send them an email including a link to a few local hotels and say something like: "I'm sure you'd feel more comfortable sleeping somewhere where you are guaranteed a full nights sleep, here's a link to some great hotels! We can't wait for you to meet our new baby!!".
     

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