Re: July 2013 Pregnancy
posted at 7/29/2013 10:41 AM EDT
Wow, Northern, that's a big moment! I hope you can get the CVS done asap and you get news that'll put you more at ease. That nutrition study sounds awesome. I feel like everyone could benefit from it. My problem has always been putting meals together--I mean, sure, you know what the good foods are, but going grocery shopping and planning the week's meals is more difficult than just eating fruit and nuts for snacks.
DH and I got some news on Friday and are feeling kind of blindsided. It's all still very raw, but....DH's parents are about 45 min away and we see them a lot. They're really awesome and we've been excited about our incoming DD having a close relationship with grandparents, aunt & uncle & cousin, who are farther but we all meet at DH's parents for a home base. They told us Friday that MIL/FIL are selling their house, giving the everything they get (there's no mortgage) to SIL/BIL, and then they're moving 2 hours away with SIL/BIL into the ginormous house that SIL/BIL buy.
Pregnancy hormones are probably taking over, but I'm just so upset. They've been planning for awhile but just told us Friday and then gave us garbage bags and we spent a few hours throwing things out and cleaning for the listing agent to take photos the next day.
So we're on our own now. We really don't know many people here--especially under an hour away--and I'm really nervous about having a newborn and then raising a child without a support system. Has anyone done that? I'm going to look into mom's groups....but I'm just sad that DD won't have that relationship with family. We'll see them for holidays and events, but they don't like traveling to Boston to begin with and even with good intentions of getting together, driving 2 hours one way with 2 dogs and a newborn just won't be a day trip anymore and realistically, it just won't happen a lot.
We'll have about 4 years before DD will start school and we'll need to decide where to be. Maybe we'll move back to upstate NY where I'm from--DH isn't thrilled about that idea because of job prospects--or follow his family and really start over with everything. We just don't know what to do. His family doesn't know we're upset and we don't want them to...maybe we're just being selfish, but we just need a plan now.