Re: Second C-Section... VBAC too risky?
posted at 10/21/2011 10:02 PM EDT
jcoastiegirl, I totally get it. I had an unplanned emergency c-section when my son was born 4 months early. On top of all the worry that went along with the baby's health, I really beat myself up over what, at the time, felt like a "failed" pregnancy and delivery.
Eventually, I realized I was mourning the loss of the "conventional" birth story, with the sitcom style mad dash to the delivery room, and imagined natural delivery. I had an idealized image of what it "should" look like, which probably wasn't even realistic. Still, it took a while to let it go. In defense of SomeGuy, my husband's ability to process these decisions rationally and clinically really helped me make peace with it.
It took some time (and hormone stabilization) for me to realize that the every birth story is unique and special, and extraordinary, just like the children they create. Be proud of yourself, and your story, no matter how it ends.
By the way, I also had a vertical c-section and recently delivered my second child, via planned c-section. For what it's worth, it was kind of awesome. Very calm, no hysteria, the recovery was a breeze, and I got to stay in the hospital with my baby and husband for 4 days. We had TV, room service, and quality quiet time with the newest member of our family. After chasing a toddler for two years straight, it felt like a little vacation.
I'm not advocating either way, everyone has to make their own choices, and the universe is full of surprises. I just think we should spend a little more time celebrating ourselves, and encouraging each other. Anything we can do to make happy, healthy children is a good thing.