February TTC

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Great advice, siena - the best way to avoid peeing money down the drain is to give yourself plenty of obstacles to testing.  No paper cups in the bathroom (I didn't care for actually peeing on the stick) and NO TESTS hanging around.  I've wasted my share of extras.  I wish I'd known about the cheap dip strips from Amazon when I first started TTC.
     
  2. You have chosen to ignore posts from Chiclet831. Show Chiclet831's posts

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    Thank you everyone for your support. I don't really have anyone else to confide in. DH is typically a pessimistic person except when it comes to things that I'm worried about too. I guess that's one of the things that makes him a good match for me. I pretty much just stared at the RE's website yesterday, but I did contact them today for a consultation appointment. I'm only punishing myself by waiting. The med. asst. at my doctor's yesterday made me feel like the biggest hypocondriac for rushing in being only a week late. Not that I pushed for the ultrasound or anything. The doctor is the one that wanted me in that day! I figured I'd maybe get a lab test and an appointment sometime next week.

    WPP - I didn't have any indication of any problems. I'd been on the Nuvaring for about 4 years, but prior to that, I'd always been pretty regular. You couldn't set your watch to it or anything, but I'd never been more than a couple days off in either direction. Even last month when I had the 37 day cycle, I chalked it up to stress. Good luck at your appointment on Thursday!

    GL to everyone in the 2WW!
     
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    Chicklet, so sorry you're dealing with this scary setback.  I suffered from major depression a few years ago and had to literally just turn off my brain and force myself to put one foot in front of the other to get help and suddenly, I was through it.  I think if you just make yourself do it as soon as possible, you'll feel so much better for having the stress of it behind you and the knowledge you need to move forward in the best possible way.  GL!!
     
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    BFN again today.  Feeling defeated.  I never would have imagined 8 months ago that I would find this process so frustrating.  Now I just want AF to come and get it over with, so I can move on to the next thing.  Don't know why my cycle has suddenly reversed its shrinking pattern and is now stretching a few days longer than anticipated, but I don't like it!!  I'm glad I charted this cycle--at least I figured that part out, so it doesn't feel like a total waste.  But I think the charting also got my hopes up, because I know we had the timing quite right, and AF didn't come, and my temps have stayed up and...  Bah.
     
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    Don't despair until AF actually comes especially if your cycle lengths vary.  You can easily be off on what day to expect her.
     
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    Don't despair siena, it could still happen. My early pg symptoms were so similar to pms that I was completely surprised when I found out I was pregnant intially. I was so convinced AF was due any second.

    Sorry Chiclet. Having had a miscarriage, I can totally relate to the feeling that your body is letting you down. Just try to see the specialist with an open mind. It's tough not to be hard on yourself, but it's early in this process for you. Try not to give up. It sounds like you have options.
     
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    chiclet - hang in there!  you have lots of options - not worth despairing yet.  i was diagnosed w/ PCOS and went on clomid - got PG the 2nd round.  keep us posted.
     
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    Yup, this cycle is over, as I predicted yesterday.  Temperature came down today and AF began.  Oh well. I processed with the emotional blow yesterday, so today I "just" have to slog through the physical pain. (This is no small feat for me. Does anyone else here suffer with dysmenorrhea? It has made this TTC process so much worse for me--all those days completely wasted in excruciating pain. I'm worried that if I don't get pregnant in the next several months I am going to really struggle with the evolving demands of my career if I'm still TTC and so not on BCPs.  I can't afford to be out of commission for one unschedulable day each month.  I have come within a hair of passing out before from sheer pain, trying to stand and make a presentation through it.  I had to cut short my presentation. I'm worried that I can't afford to repeat that...)
     
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    Siena,
    You should give your doctor a call. You shouldn't have to suffer through the pain.  They can give meds or recommendations to make it better.  I'm so sorry, you have to go through this.

    I also wanted to add that I have invested alot in the Thermacare (back & menstrual) products which helped me get through the work day.  Plus, extra strength midol!

    I also suffer form IBS, which would get worse with AF arrival.
     
  10. You have chosen to ignore posts from luckinlife. Show luckinlife's posts

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    siena - so sorry for your BFN.  Are you taking meds for the cramping?

    Chiclet - polycystic ovaries definitely does not mean that you will not get pregnant.  You may need a little help in the future but my experience is that people do really well with getting pregnant.  Better to have many follies than none at all. 

    For both Siena and Chiclet - although this is difficult to do it helped me to see TTC as a marathon. I never found that getting my hopes up in the 2 ww was helpful - in fact, I did better with healthy pessimism.  Otherwise I would feel so shot down every month. 

    Kar - this is a late response but I bet the fertility test is checking day 3 FSH.  Studies show that day 3 FSH is somewhat predictive of ovarian reserve but, in particular, is predictive of how you will respond to IVF.  My RE has told me it doesn't have as much weight with regards to getting pregnant naturally (whatever that means!).
     
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    tomarra and luckinlife--yes, I have a prescription drug for cramps.  They are a godsend in reducing the pain that NSAIDs can't touch, and so I use them.  However, they don't solve my work productivity problems because even the single low dose that I take has serious side effects for me (severe drowsiness, difficulty with concentration/focus, sudden vomiting).  I have talked that over with my PCP too, and tried a couple different options, but that seems to be the best we can do here.  It is a significant improvement, but not a solution, so the situation remains frustrating for me.

    LIL, I'm sure some healthy pessimism is useful.  Perhaps the last few rough months will help me cultivate some this time.  I began somewhat optimistically since it took only 1 cycle to conceive last time for me, and my doctors seemed optimistic that it would happen quickly again. It seems that was sort of a fluke though.  There is a fine balance here between unproductive despair and unhealthy optimism.  Marathon might be the right metaphor.
     
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    thanks, lil - I'll see how it looks and take a wild guess at my ovarian reserve.  More money poorly spent on this process, I guess.  Oh, well.  Thanks for the heads up.
     
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    Siena, I'm sorry AF has reared her ugly head. I have a friend with dysmenorrhea and I couldn't imagine being so incapacitated every month. Good luck!

    I just wanted to thank everyone again for their support and advice. I have an appointment with the RE for next Thursday. LIL, I appreciate what you said about TTC being a marathon. I think I was okay with not getting pregnant through my own fault (missed timing, etc). I really wasn't ready for not being able to get pregnant on my own. I also didn't have any indication that there was a problem until last month, so I feel like I missed my window. I spent all of 2011 getting my life together to have a baby and now my body has other plans. Funny how that works. I also feel like everything is happening so fast. I never thought I'd be making an appointment with an RE after trying for a month. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful that my doctor's aren't wasting time, it's just not what I expected. I know it could be a lot worse, so I'm trying to just be patient with where I am today.
     
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    I remember early on in the beginning of TTC seeing posts on other sites about people going through endless IUIs and IVF cycles.  I could NEVER imagine having to do all that.  Then, somehow, I found myself doing all that and more!!  It is disappointing to say the least but for me, having a plan of attack was the key.  If this doesn't work what is my next step. This always helped so that when AF came (and she always did) I would not be in despair and wondering what next!
     
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    Sorry to hear that, Siena. I dreaded going off BCP because I have awful cramps and nausea if I don't take it. Accupunture has helped me. It's not a quick fix, but it has helped make each month bearable. Some people have also used it for fertility, but my main concern was getting some relief from AF without having to take heavy duty meds. Just wanted to put it out there.
     
  16. You have chosen to ignore posts from siena09. Show siena09's posts

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    Hibernian--hmm, that's interesting.  Thanks for sharing your experience! I've never thought of acupuncture for that before. Honestly, I'd be willing to try pretty much anything at this point.  My initial strategy was just to hope I get pregnant quickly, but that's not working out so well for me, and the grumpy miserable days are beginning to pile up.  It definitely adds pressure to this process, and has me longing for the days of BCPs.
     
  17. You have chosen to ignore posts from Tangerine5. Show Tangerine5's posts

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    Chiclet, I wish I could give you a big hug. It's so hard to get news like that. I completely understand the feeling that your body has failed you, especially when you're young and otherwise in good health. And sometimes you just want DH to hug you and listen and understand, instead of trying to cheer you up or put a positive spin on everything. My DH was the same way, and it was frustrating, even though he was doing it out of love. I just wanted to say that the fact that you have lots of nice, healthy follicles is a GREAT sign - your body probably just needs a little help releasing them. There are so many amazing treatments available - I bet that you'll have success much more quickly than you think (like stefani!). Not sure if you want to share who your RE is, but I absolutely adored mine - in fact, her entire practice was wonderful, and they made the IF process SO much more bearable. I'd be happy to "chat" if you have questions or just need to spill to someone. I also didn't have many people to talk to - my mom just made me more anxious, and all my friends were pregnant/had babies - so these boards were invaluable. Anyway, good luck - great news that you have an appointment next week - and hugs to you! You will get your bfp!
     
  18. You have chosen to ignore posts from Chiclet831. Show Chiclet831's posts

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    Thanks Tang! I really appreciate it. I'm going to see Dr. Hardy at Fertility Centers of New England. I kind of want to tell my mom, but I don't want her to worry. I hadn't wanted to tell any of our friends that we were TTC, so now I definitely don't want to tell them that PLUS there are issues. 

    Now if I could just stay off of Google!

    How's everyone else doing?
     
  19. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    If you and your mom are close adult friends, I think she would choose to worry and be your friend through this rather than be sheltered.  My mom would be upset if I made that decision for her.
     
  20. You have chosen to ignore posts from Tangerine5. Show Tangerine5's posts

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    Chiclet, that's great - I'm sure you'll be well-cared-for there. I think if you feel that your mom will be supportive and helpful, and you want to tell her, you should go for it. I confided in a few close friends, all of whom were supportive even though they couldn't really relate, and I wound up inadvertently telling my mom at the very beginning b/c I wanted to know if she'd ever had similar issues (she hadn't). She is a total worrier by nature, and wound up sort of bugging out, hitting Google, and coming up with all these terrifying diagnoses that she thought I might have. It turned into a full-on sobbing meltdown on my part, and after that I pretty much cut her off in terms of info. In hindsight I wish I hadn't told her, more for my OWN sake than hers. But if you think your mom can keep her head on straight and just support you, I'm sure it'd be great to have her in the loop. I'm sending lots of good luck vibes for your appointment next week!
     
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    Oh, goodness, I forget there are some over the top moms out there.  I'm blessed with a level headed one. :)
     
  22. You have chosen to ignore posts from Chiclet831. Show Chiclet831's posts

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    On the one hand, my mom is a nurse, so just having her medical perspective would be worth it. But on the other hand, she can be kind of smother-ish, especially when it comes to her kids. My brother and I usually make it our business to protect her from things that might upset her. I'm sure she's not as fragile as we think she is, we just don't like her to worry about us. She also REALLY wants grandchildren, so I'm sure this will upset her that much more.
     
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    Chiclet, good luck at your appointment. Really glad you are seeing someone so quickly. That is very comforting because, who knows, they may have something very simple to start with. And as LIL says, nice to have a plan. I'm of course freaking out and just going to have a bad night, and hopefully wake up better tomorrow. My FSH test came back and according to the report, it is "slightly elevated" and I need to see an RE. According to Google (I know, I know) I'm practically in complete ovarian failure. The number is 16, and some sites are saying an RE won't even do an IVF cycle over 12. I know, cart way before the horse. But, just hard to digest and think about this new possibility. I just need one little egg, just one please. According to the O strips last month, sporadic temping (doing it daily this cycle) and 6 months of regular AFs... I am Oing. Maybe they are just crappy, 37 year old eggs. I'll call the RE tomorrow and hope I can get an appointment somewhat quickly to get some more info.
     
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    Chicklet, if your decision to withhold this from your mom is for you, I'd say keep it to yourself.  If it's for her, though, like you say, she's tougher than you think and would probably want the opportunity to be there for you.

    IPW, so sorry you got scary news from your FSH test!  But, there's obviously a difference between "slightly elevated" and "nearly complete failure."  Make your appointment and try not to stress too much before you really know too much about what's going on and what it means.  

    AFM, I haven't taken the FR FSH test yet; AF isn't even due for a few more days...maybe longer.
     
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    IPW, sorry about the FSH news! WebMD and Google always make everything sound so much worse. There are so many complexities to these things and I think in the effort to distill the information for non-doctor consumption these sites make it black-and-white, while in reality there are so many variables. It sounds like "slightly elevated" means that you'll be okay! And seeing an RE means that you're one step closer to the result you want. I hope the RE has effective plans and good things to tell you. 

    Chiclet, I can understand not wanting to tell your mom. My mom is great, but definitely an expert at panicking about everything. I've had to filter information to her for my own sanity. I don't think there's anything wrong with hanging onto your info and maybe telling her when/if you feel ready. 

    AFM, I went to the doctor today. (Apparently I have high cholesterol and I feel stupid that I don't really know what not to eat for that. I thought I was eating pretty well....) I'm on CD56 after coming off BC and he said that I should continue monitoring and we'll talk again in two or three months. He said if I don't get a period by then that we'll talk about clomid. I've seen people mention it on here but I'm not really sure what it is. He was talking about different causes for amenorrhea and wants to rule out PCOS and some others that I'll probably vociferously google tonight. 
     
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