January TTC

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    January TTC

    Thought I would start this month's post.  Nothing much to report on my part: CD27 and what I think is AF showing her uninvited face.  Sigh.  

    I've been away/swamped so I'm not entirely caught up on what's going on with everyone, but I wanted to say Happy New Year to all you ladies!  
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Hi IPW.  A little, but I usually spot around CD28 or so, then the Main Event occurs around Day34, but only lasts a few days.  Still -- bites.  

    Flax, I just read that too ... I am so, so sorry to hear your news.  Here's to a better 2010!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    My AF arrived this morning too IPW.  While I knew it was coming (normal signs), it was still dissappointing, as we did the OPK's for the first time and thought I knew what was going on with my body.  I understand how you feel and not knowing what to do next. I feel like that too.
    Keep your head up!

     
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    Re: January TTC

    IPW - You are not freaking out.  I think you can find a happy middle ground by meeting with an RE for the limited purpose of doing initial testing to find out if there are any problems (thyroid, hormones, etc.). Then, once these are ruled out, you guys can really relax and BD for fun and let things happen normally.  There's no need to start thinking about anything too complicated beyond some initial testing.

    These are simple blood tests for the most part, and take only a few minutes of your time during a single visit.  You might decide you want an HSG too, which is about a 10-15 minute proceedure at most.  Also, for your DH, an RE will want your DH to give a sample for an analysis of count, quality and motility, but he sounds like the reluctant type. 

    I'm sure everything is fine, but it would be a shame if you had a problem you didn't know about - all the relaxing and BD'ing in the world won't help if that is the case.  That was what my situation was - bloodwork was great, but a follow-up HSG showed a blocked tube.  Surprise!  And I wish I had known that sooner than age 37. 

    Good luck!  And thanks for your kind words.  I just had another blood test and my fingers are crossed that the HCG levels are dropping.
     
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    Re: January TTC

    IPW, you don't even need to see an RE if you think your DH is going to get upset thinking you are getting too into the whole BD thing. I had a slew of tests done w/ just a referral to an OB/GYN - blood tests, hormone tests, HSG, vaginal ultrasound, etc.  DH had a SA done w/ just a referral from a dr.  You can get an initial workup done at the OB/GYN and then, if they find any hormonal or physical issue, can determine if you want to go the whole 9 yards w/ a RE. 

    My DH was totally not into the whole SA thing, but he really wants a family, so he was motivated enough to do it, even though I know it sleazed him out.  lol. I'm sure your DH will comply w/ doing a SA. Most OB/GYNs are willing to work around your schedule too [more so than what I've heard about REs].  Good luck. 
     
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    Re: January TTC

    If you go the OB/gyn route for a work up, just be aware that some of the levels they consider "normal" wouldn't be considered "normal" by an RE when looking at the different possibilities for things that could be wrong.  My OB told me that as long as I had 4 periods a year, there really wasn't much she could do besides give me provera to induce a period--and she knew I was TTC!  That's all well and good, but if I'm not ovulating, taking provera isn't going to solve that problem.  Needless to say, I ultimately switched OBs AFTER an RE diagnosed me with PCOS.  And under the RE's care, I got pregnant with twins.

    Also, my experience with RE's is that they are more or less open 24/7/365 (at least in the Boston area) since people don't necessarily reach certain points in their cycles b/t 9 and 5 during the work week.  The doctors themselves may not be available after hours or on weekends, but if  you need blood drawn or labs done, there is almost always someone there.  So, you could use your precious little vacation or sick time for seeing the doctor and get tests done after hours.  You can also try to get the first or last appt. of the day with the doc and then, depending on your job, go in early or stay late to make up the time.  Anyway...just some ideas to make it work.
     
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    Re: January TTC

    I'm day 82 of my second cycle off the pill (first cycle was 146 days)... and nothing to report.
    Trying to not think negative thoughts and telling myself it will happen, when it happens.  It is just so annoying though!

    Happy New year everyone!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Prill--have you been tested for PCOS?  what about thyroid problems?
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Happy New Year Everyone!
    I am so sorry to hear about the arrival of AF for you ladies.  Flax - my heart is with you as I wrote in your post.

    IPW - I have to chime in here. The only time I have ever taken off work was for egg retrieval.  Just make sure you find a very convenient RE.  I second that if you are going to get an eval and I think at 6 months it is reasonable, I would go to an RE.  I have found that sometimes when people go to gyn, they get mixed info, a lot of wait and see and sometimes just wrong answers b/c that is not their specialty.  I think some gyns are perfectly fine - but if you don't have a relationship with anyone, I would start with an RE.

    AFM - We need to thaw already!  After an unsuccessful donor cycle, I am back on ocps (which by the way I hate more than any of the fertility meds) and hopefully will start lupron/estrogen soon so we can thaw some embryos.  This time I am going to insist on waiting for the blastocyst stage.  We have lots of numbers on our side but clearly pregnancy in any form has eluded me.
    You know RHM, would 19 be so bad, really??
    Just kidding! 

    Hugs to all you ladies out there.  I hope 2010 is our year!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    just replied on another post - flax, if you are reading this, i need some support! I am going through the same thing you have been dealing with...ectopic.  I will go in tomorrow for bw and us and, if ultrasound shows ep, then they will most likely give me the shot.  i am so scared!

    hello everyone else and happy new year! sorry i have a one track mind with this post, but i just got the news and i am a little out of it...hope you are all well! ;)
     
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    Re: January TTC

    I am so sorry to hear about this Cookies!  Ugh! My thoughts are with you both.
     
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    Re: January TTC

    cookies - sorry to hear about the possible ep. Please keep us updated!

    lil - trying to remember how many eggs you put in the last go round. Would you be able to put in 3 this time? I know...less than the whole shebang of 19, but still ;-)

    IPW - good ideas for lil's 19 at once - lol! Btw, I didn't have an OB/GYN before any of this either. I had my PCP who specialized in women's health do my paps every year. I picked an OB/GYN and saw them once or twice and then was sent up to the RE who did all the testing for us. I think it's worth going to the RE for all the testing they can do. You can always decide from there how aggressive you want to be. And I, like lil, did not need to take much time off work for the RE stuff - just for the day of IUI or ER/ET. When I did the b/w and u/s's, I scheduled them early in the morning before work so I was still able to make it on time.

    flaxen - glad to hear your numbers are going down. Hope they get to 0 soon and that you and DH are doing okay.

    big hellos to eoe-
     
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    Re: January TTC

    hi prill - i have a similar problem (long cycles, ranging from 50 to 90-ish days) and just had another appt with a specialist (i've been diagnosed wtih PCOS even though the only symptom i have is the long periods - no abnormal levels of male hormones, etc.).  he told me something i had not thought of before, but that sort of makes intuitive sense.  he said that even though i was ovulating (as evidenced by taking my temps), because i was ovulating so late in my cycle my egg(s) had likely gone through a tumultuous hormonal process and were probably not as fresh/viable as they would be if i was ovulating at a more normal time (14-20 days after my cycle started or whatever) - so the probability of conceiving was low(er).  granted, he wants me to go on clomid, which is what i'm going to do after 8 months of trying to circumvent it, but still - i think that makes sense b/c we have tried timing intercourse for 3 cycles (and i'm a type A person - we've been diligent, and we've done it for days right before my temp spike so i feel like we covered the bases!) and it hasn't worked (and for us with long cycles we have fewer chances than others to start with, just due to the cycle length!).  just food for thought.  if i were you, i'd consider seeing someone.  good luck.
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Stefani--good to hear your update and I'm glad that you're moving on to clomid.  It would've been nice if the metformin worked, of course, but at least you have a "plan" for trying something else.  I just want to share with you from a "been there, done that" perspective:  don't get discouraged if clomid doesn't work on the first cycle or the second cycle.  When it didn't work for me on the first cycle, I was SO discouraged, and when it didn't work on the 2nd cycle, I was in tears and convinced I would never get pregnant, but it worked VERY well on the 3rd cycle (ovulated 2ce).  Your doc may need to tweak the cycle days you take it a couple of times before getting it right, so just try to remember that there is a good chance it will work, but it may not work immediately. 

    I remember that your DH was reluctant about clomid.  If you don't mind me asking, what changed his mind?

    LIL--I disagree.  I think you should only do half of them now and then do the other half later on when you want "just one more."  That will ensure that you have several kids that are still "cute" for a much longer period of time and guarantee a TV show and freebies for much longer.  Best of luck to you!

    Thinking good thoughts for eoe!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    hi daisy and IPW - thanks for the words of advice and support.  the dr. said a "normal" young couple with no fertility problems has a 20% chance of conceiving in a cycle - and on the first round of clomid the chances are 15%, second 30%, third 45%, and then it tapers off.  so - i'm trying to keep this in mind.  :)  we're going right for IUI just because, why not grab the bull by the horns so to speak.  neither DH or i wanted to do clomid or any sort of fertility but, if that's what it takes we're both willing to do it.  i brought DH to the appt. with the specialist and he and i are pretty convinced this is the inevitable next step.  took my first pill this am - day 5 and all.  eek!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Hi all,

     

    Flaxen and Cookies – I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with such an upsetting situation.  Flaxen, I’m glad to hear your numbers dropped and Cookies I hope you got some answers at your ultrasound today.

     

    LIL – hoping your screen name gives you a little boost this next cycle!

     

    Prill – Ugh, stinks to have to wait so long!!  It’s already hard enough to have a small window of opportunity.  Hope you get some answers soon.

     

    Stefani – good luck with the clomid; I don’t know much about it but from what I read on these boards it sounds like it can provide some exciting results!

     

    IPW – great news about the appointment tomorrow!  Good luck!

     

    AFM, like many of you, AF has shown up again, a bit disappointingly.  I actually thought I was on CD28 but apparently it's CD1 for me today!  I am disappointed, but trying not to let it take over my brain.  We’ve only been trying for 3 months, so I really can’t complain.  Being over 35, though, there’s always that nagging wonder!

     

    Positive thoughts for everyone in the upcoming months!

     
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    Re: January TTC

    One more thing - this might seem like a very dumb question, but do you all count it as CD1 when you begin to see even the slightest amount of pinkness?  It usually seems to take a day for AF to really kick in, and I"m wondering if I should be counting that as CD1... I'm thinking I should?
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Poppy:  I asked a nurse at the RE office about that (in reference to how to know to come in for CD3 blood tests).  She said any color/spotting counts as day 1.  In theory by the time you see any color on toilet paper or panty liner, it has already had to work it's way down from the cervix, so the cycle has already started and the lining is shedding. I had seen a rule once that said if it starts after 9:00 pm at night that you should not count that as day 1, but the nurse said no...and reiterated that any spotting is considered CD1.
     
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    Notanewbie - thanks for the confirmation.  CD1 it is!  I think I've been a little off in my CD counting in the past couple of months.  Good to know for O-time!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    IPW - you should be excited!!! It's a great feeling to know that you will be in good hands and that you will start to get some answers! Yay...so happy for you! I know exactly how that feels and it's a good thing!

    speaking of making appointments, I am thinking of changing doctors - my insurance covers RSC (where I go now), MGH and Brigham and Women's...do any of you have experience with the mgh or b&W? favorite doctors? I will be dealing with the aftermath of the ectopic for just a little bit longer (that's my positive way of looking at it!) and then we may look for another clinic.  rsc is kind of a commute for us and it's just a little dry in my opinion - but, maybe all clinics are!? hopefully not...we'll just have to do some exploring! :) if you have any suggestions, i am so open and so interested to hear your experiences at other places.

    not for nothing, but everyone is sounding so strong and positive this month! i think the new year will bring great things for us! it's really nice to read all of the warm support that is going around...this is a hard situation to be in, but this board makes it just a little bit easier!
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Whoa, whoa, whoa -- you're supposed to start counting from first spot, not from the first day of real "flow"?  My MD told me differently, that it was from that first day.  I literally spot for almost a week, starting on day 28(ish) and the Main Event starting on Day34.  So maybe I've been timing this completely wrong. 

    This is so frustrating. 
     
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    I just looked all over the web for "cycle day 1" info, and both answers are prevalent, so that wasn't much help!  I don't have the kind of OBGYN I can just "call" (never available and doesn't return phone calls, which is why I'll probably switch when I do get pg), so I guess I'll just wing it!  :)
     
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    Well, I doubt DH would want to be anywhere near me on CD7 or so if we're taking the first hint-of-a-spot day as CD1; things aren't, um, done, if you catch my drift.  We'll just extend the BD window a few days on either end and hope for the best, I guess! 
     
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    Re: January TTC

    Thanks for the suggestions ladies!  We have to keep things light around here or we will go crazy.  Yes, and thank God I didn't pick the screen name luck in TTC. :)

    Cookies - I really like Dr. Toth at MGH .  He is not my doctor but I know him well, a lot of my patients have gone to him and really like him.

    I was always told that CD1 was the first day of normal flow for what that is worth.

    Good luck at your appt IPW!  I think it always helps to have some sort of plan in place.

    Sorry about AF Poppy!

     
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    Re: January TTC

    FWIW, I always counted the first day of full flow/red as CD1 - that's what fertilityfriend.com counts it as (if it's spotting/brown, there's a separate entry for that and they count it as part of the last cycle).

    cookies - I went to MGH FC and used Dr. Styer. I liked him - direct with questions, honest and friendly. We saw him for all appointments where you need to meet for discussions, but when it came to u/s, ER, ET, we had whoever was on that week (sometimes it was him, but many times it was not). I liked most of the other docs there except for Dr. McGuinness (I think that's how you spell his name). He was the doc who was there for both of my IVF ER and ET's and I didn't like his style at all (and Dr. Styer totally "got it" when we gave him that feedback).

    Good luck to all of you ladies!
     

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