January TTC

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    [QUOTE]Kar - Thanks for your timing details. I'm not expecting my smiley face until Friday at the earliest, more likely next week. Do you think that we should not BD until then? I hadn't really put any thought into what we should or shouldn't be doing this week.
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    Hi, Chicket, thanks for the birthday well wishes!

    If you have sex the day before you get the smiley face, the sperm from that time can still be alive and well by the time you ovulate (which, if you do get a smiley the next day could be as late as 3 days after we're talking about).  And, if you have no reason to think your husband has a lower sperm count than average it shouldn't be an issue, anyway.  

    Given the facts of conception, average sperm count, and the longevity of eggs and sperm, I'd say you shouldn't preclude having sex before you get a positive LH surge unless a doctor has specifically told you not to based on your husband's sperm count.

     
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    ML - sorry that the visit didn't have a more positive vibe...but as others have said, it's not a closed book on potentially having a second, just not as easy as you'd hoped.  Definitely go to the specialist and keep gathering information; you and your husband can make the decision that is right for you, and in the end, it will be one that will likely come as much from your heart and your gut as it does from all the research and medical opinions you get.  Sending hugs your way! 

    On the only child/parenting thing: if your daughter is an only child, that doesn't mean that she will not have a full life with many friends and relatives and people who love her!  That circle of family is many things, not just the nuclear family.  I have one sibling, but count several of my cousins and dear family friends as close to me as I do my sister, and sometimes closer! 

    ALS, I'm glad to hear your news was a little brighter and wish you luck on the next step! 
     
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    ML - I am so sorry the appt didn't go better and that you have to go through this.  I hope it works out!  I just wanted to say that we too may have only one child (as you know) and I definitely struggle with concerns similar to what you expressed.  You're not alone!
     
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    Thanks so much ladies, sorry to be a downer. But you are right, it was not an absolute no, and no doctor is going to say go forth and procreate!

    I told a couple of people at work about it, and one of my friends at work's wife actually works in Dr. Roque's office believe it or not. I got an opening for Jan. 31st and we will take it from there! Hope is alive, and yes, Kar, the therapist is still receiving her weekly copays!
     
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    Awesome - I know if it were me I'd need that kind of help to navigate this in a healthy way, non-detrimental way.  Just thought I'd make sure you have the professional support anyone would need going through something like this.
     
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    ml that is awesome! so happy for you.
     
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    ML, good news on getting in to see the specialist so soon.  Everything happens as it's supposed to...I have to believe that. 
     
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    I'm an only child, and I have always had a very rewarding life when it comes to peer relationships.  When I was 16 I acquired 4 step-brothers (ages 12, 17, 21, 22), but we were all too old to have them become like real siblings, just friends.  The older 2 weren't even living in that household anymore.
     
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    ml, sorry about the news from your appointment. You sound like a great mom--your DD is lucky that she has a mom who obviously cares so much about her. 

    Like Kar and IPW, I'm an only child too because my mom had medical issues (and in the late 70s and early 80s they knew practically nothing compared to today!). I've always been close to my parents and I don't feel like I *missed* out on anything or am annoyed at my parents for not having siblings. I hope your end of Jan. appointment is better, though, and you get the outcome you want!

    AFM, AF would normally come this weekend. The last time I went off BC it took 60 days for AF to return so I'm kind of hoping to see it this weekend just so I know everything is normal! I've never had a regular period before BC so I'm a little worried. Undecided
     
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    ML - I'm so glad that you're able to get in to the specialist soon. Hopefully that means your luck with doctors is turning around.

    WPP - It took me a long time to get regulated after bc. Charting might be useful to you to see what is going on with your cycle if it looks like things might not be normal. It could also help if you need or decide to see a doctor about it.

     
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    ML--hope your next appt goes well.  Glad you don't have to wait too long.

    ALS--glad your appt went well!

    This wasn't my month either; for some undefinable reason I thought it might be. Oh well. I guess since we were pg on our 1st cycle of TTC last time, I wouldn't have guessed that I still wouldn't be pg after 4 cycles of trying this time around.  Not that it is an abnormally long time to try, and I know patience is in order.  

    I think I've decided to start charting.  Maybe it will help me regain some sense of control and help me feel like I am being proactive--I guess that's the hope! I'm going to try temping and using OPKs to see if I can figure this out.  
     
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    ml, I am so sorry about your appointment.

    I wanted to let you know that I am high-risk because of my heart, as well. The doctors at Brigham and Women in the high-risk fetal development department are amazing. I not only see an OB who is an expert in high risk women with cardiac abnormalities, but I see their cardiologist as well.

    Just wanted to share that, because it might be worth meeting with them.

    ETA: Just saw you said Beth Israel, sorry! But, I am sure they are just as good.
     
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    Ml - here is hoping for a good appointment.  I think as doctors we definitely tend to be on the very cautious side and hesitate is saying everything is ok.  I think seeing the specialist will get you much closer to where you need to be.  I also think having had a pregnancy already seems to be great thing in  your favor.

    As an aside about only children.  I heard a recent study on NPR that only children do not tend to regret being only children.  I guess it is like IPW said.

    All that being said I totallly understand wanting to have another sibling for your little one and I am wishing you the best!!
     
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    Siena, sorry this wasn't your month. I hope charting will provide you with the sense of control you are looking for. I only did it for a short period of time but actually found it very useful and reassuring. It helped me realize that I could listen to my body and figure out what it was doing. Good luck and I hope February is the month for you! 

    How is everyone else doing? Making it through the TWW?

    AFM, I'm officially "late" now so the bfp is really starting to sink in. Thank you so much everyone for putting up with my neuroses earlier this month!
     
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    cici, that's great news that it's sticking!  Woo hoo, more sticky thoughts coming your way.  
     
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    To those who know O strips well... here is my (first) experience so far this week:
    Day 8 - Dark Reference Line, light Test line
    Day 9 - Dark Reference, light Test line
    Day 10 - Dark Reference, no Test line
    Day 11 - Dark Reference, much darker Test line... but not equal.

    I'm thinking maybe tomorrow will be the surge??  But just curious about that day in the middle where there was no test line.  Is that odd?  And do the test lines get darker and darker until they are equal or darker than the Reference... or are they supposed to just show up when they sense the surge?

    Thanks!
     
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    I NEVER got a 100% perfectly equal test line - what you got on Day 11 was my positive.  I am positively sure mine were my positives because even though my cycles were of irregular length, I was one of the many, many women who have lueteal phases of the exact same length, 15 days EXACTLY every single time after I got what you saw on Day 11.  This is it, I betcha.

    ETA:  The day that there was no test line was a defective test, I think.  I get at least very faint lines on every test on any day from 8 - 18.
     
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    This is how my positives always looked.  I absolutely never got a darker test line than this, and 15 days later I always got AF whether my whole cycle was 25 or 35 days.
     
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    Oh, and to answer your question, the LH surge is an exponential curve like this.  So, you'll see none, light, light,..., then when the curve takes off, DARK (if not exactly equal).
     
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    IPW, I think sometimes they can darken a little each day and others you can just get a positive. I think what is normal is what is consistent for you, if that makes sense. Also, the darkness can depend on how much you drink before testing.

    When I used them, they would get darker and then I would have 2 days of definite positives. The day before mine turned positive, it looked like Kar's photo. I always tested in the morning rather than the afternoon since I drink a lot of water during the day. Because I had to do that, I always O'd on the first positive day - probably because I missed the surge by not testing the afternoon before. I thought it was weird that I could have a positive after O'ing but Dr. Google says that also is normal. I really think how they work has to do with your personal body chemistry and it may take time to figure it out.
     
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    IPW - I never had the gradual increase to a positive that some people see, I couldn't identify any pattern in them.  Although, I only did the OPK's for two months so that could be why.  Either way it seems that you caught your surge so enjoy this long weekend!
     
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    The LH surge is what stimulates the follicles to cause ovulation so the surge always preceeds ovulation, otherwise ovulation doesn't happen.  It's always an exponential release, as well.  How those facts translate to your urinary levels of LH, though, might vary.
     
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    I've been following the conversation on OPKs.  One question: did most of you find that testing 1 time/day was enough to catch the surge?  Or did you need to test more than once?

    Cici--my fingers are crossed that you have a healthy 9 months. 


     
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    It depends on what you mean by "catch" - I found that I'd get a test result pictured above if I tested once a day.  If I were trying to get the promised result of exactly equal lines I think I'd have to test again the morning I got the nearly equal lines, but I never bothered because I figured out that that was my positive day without doing so.
     
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    makes sense--thanks kar! 
     

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