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    New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    Hi Ladies - I've been lurking for a while, it's funny/wonderful  to see so many names from the wedding boards! I was a fellow 2007 bride (ml2620 - Hi ALF!)

    DH and I have been "letting nature take it's course" since October, and tracking my ovulation online for about 4 months, still nothing. I'm starting to freak out. I turn 36 this month and my periods come every month but they are anywhere between 22 and 32 days!People have stopped asking me when we are having kids, now they just whisper to my husband (who is also getting very upset about it). I see pregnant women or people being lousy to their children and I just lose it.

    At what point did you say "OK, I'm going to have to go see a specialist about this." I am wondering if I should go now, or wait until December and hope something happens by then.

    I know we don't want to do IVF or other treatments, but if natural birth isn't what's in the cards for us, I at least want to know why my body isn't working properly. We'd absolutely love to adopt and planned on doing it anyway after a pregnancy.

    If you sought out a doctor regarding trouble trying to conceive, when did you decide you needed to take the next step?
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    ML - I think the rule of the thumb is a year of trying.  I say make an appt. with your regular OB/Gyn if you have one.  They can start some routine tests.  The usual first step is to take Clomid.  I am not sure if that is something you are willing to try.  It helps with regulating periods.  Start with making an appt and take it from there.

     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    definitely make an appt. to get some tests done.  i did this when i noticed my periods were out of whack - before even starting 'trying' - and my dr. was able to refer me to a specialist without waiting at all.

    also, how often are you bd-ing?  are you 'seeing what happens' vs. doing the deed on a schedule to get PG - and if the former, have you tried the latter?  (if you're intersted in taking ALL of the fun/romance out of it like me :)  )
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    The general rule is to see a doctor after trying for a year, but if you are over 35, then it changes to 6 months.  You say that you've been letting "nature take its course", but it really sounds like at some point it changed to actively trying.  Are you BDing at the right time? How often are you BDing during the time frame.  The new advice is that unless there is a sperm quality or quantity issue, you should do it everyday during your fertile phase (rather than the old advice of every other day).

    Have you seen a doctor for a pre-conception visit? To get on prenatals and have a general physical?  If not, I'd start there and see what they suggest regarding an RE. It's always easiest to rule out a problem with your husband first anyway.  Just an easy sample, right? :-)
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    Hey ML!  How are you?

    I waited 6 or 7 months before I went to see a dr.  Once you are of "advanced maternal age" [35 and above - doesn't that make you feel ancient?!], they recommend going to see a specialist after 6 months of  trying if nothing is happening.  I did.  I don't know how helpful they are going to be. If you don't want to use drugs or alternative methods [I don't either], they pretty much wash their hands of you after they do a hormone screen and run an HSG exam.  But it's possible that the hormone screen and HSG exam will tell you what's going on.  It didn't help me when I had it done about 15 months ago, so they are sending me in for a new workup this week.

    The HSG [in case you don't know] is a dye  test w/ an ultrasound where they check to make sure your Falliopian tubes are not blocked.  My test came back normal, so there is no physical impediment to me getting pg.  It's either hormonal or the fact that I am apparently as old as dirt at 37.  lol.

    They will also send your DH for a SA [s*perm analysis].  DH's came back normal, despite the fact that he works w/ nuclear material.  So who the heck knows what our problem is.  I still think it's him b/c according to his mom, his dad had a low s*perm count and it took a while for her to have DH and his brother. 

    Anyway, make the call to the dr and get an appt scheduled.  Good luck!!  Also, be prepared for them to try to force clomid on you.  Even if your cycle is regular [mine was and still mostly is], they are obsessed w/ Clomid and want to give it to anyone over the age of 35.  It mystifies me why this is the case if you are clearly ovulating.  Oh well.  Doctors.....
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    Thanks everyone, I guess we might as well both go and get ourselves checked out. I'll ask for a hormone screen and HSG, whatever that is. Like I said, I'd just like to know what the problem is.

    I was hoping I wouldn't have to learn this new language of SAs and HSG and IVFs and BFNs and all that. Ugh, it's so upsetting to me, made worse by the fact that all my friends are trying now too, it's like a race. :(

    Notanewbie, it's only in the last 4 months that I've been saying, OK I'm ovulating it's showtime. Before that, we just had sex whenever and we thought a baby would magically appear just by doing that.  I had my pre-conception physical about a year ago, and have been taking the prenatals since then.
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    ML, we're in almost the same boat - I'm 37 and we've been TTC since November.  We're going to see the doc at the year mark.  Well, actually, a few months after that because there have been a few times where DH was out of town at the target time so those don't count as attempts.  We're going after 12 failed attempts, let's say.
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    Hi ML - I dont really have any advice other than that given but just wanted to say Good Luck with this - I remember you from the 2007 wedding boards as well!
     
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    Thanks everyone, I guess we might as well both go and get ourselves checked out. I'll ask for a hormone screen and HSG, whatever that is. Like I said, I'd just like to know what the problem is. I was hoping I wouldn't have to learn this new language of SAs and HSG and IVFs and BFNs and all that. Ugh, it's so upsetting to me, made worse by the fact that all my friends are trying now too, it's like a race. :( Notanewbie, it's only in the last 4 months that I've been saying, OK I'm ovulating it's showtime. Before that, we just had sex whenever and we thought a baby would magically appear just by doing that.  I had my pre-conception physical about a year ago, and have been taking the prenatals since then.
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    I'd say you've only been trying 4 months, then.
     
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    Re: New - When did you call the doctor RE: TTC?

    See, I'd say they've been trying since October.  Everything I've read said that if you are over 35 and have had unprotected sex for 6 months and still aren't pg, that you should consult a doctor.  It says nothing about charting or using fertility monitors for 6 months.  If she tells the dr she's been trying for 4 months, they are going to tell her to call back for an appt in 2 months.  I say go now and tell them you've been having unprotected sex since October. 
     
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