Re: November 2011 TTC
posted at 11/3/2011 5:17 PM EDT
Hey, liz, long time no see! Welcome to TTC.
You can say sex first of all. :)
Assuming a 28 day cycle, you'll ovlulate around the middle (although it varies woman to woman, sometimes month to month), say day 14 (day 1 is the first day of your period). If you get pregnant that cycle, you won't get your period on day 1 (day 29) because pregnancy hormones will prevent it. So, at that time, you can test for pregnancy. Technically, home pregnancy tests say you can test up to 6 days before that, but don't waste your money - not everyone who is pregnant will test positive that early, and they are too expensive to waste. Wait until you're at least a day late for your period to test to not pee money down the drain; that's when the hCG (the pregnancy hormone the home pg tests look for) is very likely to be high enough to be caught by the test if you are pregnant.
Many people have expressed jealousy and sadness here over the years at others' "happy news." Crying in closets at baby showers is a common theme. I don't know what you mean by "normal" - you feel how you feel.
Ovulation kits work to tell you when you'll ovulate in the month you use one. The day you get a positive means you'll ovulate in the next 48 hours. Since sperm live for up to 5 days and eggs live for 12 hours, you can do the math as to when to have sex. If you can figure out what a positive looks like (takes a few months of practice) on the cheap "dip strips" from Amazon, you'll save a lot of money. Some people give up on figuring out a positive ("equally dark lines" is more relative than absolute than you might think) and get the expensive kits which give you a smiley face when they are positive. Before you know generally when in your cycle you ovulate (most people are in the middle, but some are often a week earlier or later than average), you need to start testing earlier in your cycle and test until you see the "equal" lines (mine were never 100% equal, but I figured out how dark it had to be to be postive by testing past that point and seeing the test lines getting lighter, again).
Temping, by the way, only tells you AFTER you've ovulated...too late to have sex to make a baby that month. It's useful if you have very regular cycles and find by charting for 6 months that you ovulate every month on cycle day (CD) 13, for instance.
HTH. Ask away.
P.S. We say "BD" for "baby dance" for sex, but it's always bugged me a little, lol.