November 2012 TTC

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from SSBride09. Show SSBride09's posts

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    Thanks everyone for all the congrats!  Welcome wedoct!  Your in the right place for moral support.  This group has been such an amazing source of encouragement over the past year.

     
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    Congratulations SS!! That is great news!

     
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    I've been a lurker here, but now I'm starting on my own journey and I am so depressed and uneasy.

    This is a case of secondary infertility for me. I'm extremely lucky - I have a three year old son who lights me up, I love him so much.  And the only thing in the world he wants (besides a tuba) is a sibling.  My husband and I did two rounds of clomid in 2008, got pregnant, and thought that was it.  Flash forward four years.  Now I'm thirty-five, we've been trying since March, and nothing.  For the first time in my life, my periods were regular so I figured everything was working.  But after six months (and I am *kicking* myself for not going sooner), I went to my ob (whom I adore) and she pretty much straight out told me we weren't going to have a baby without help.

    I just finished my last round of non intervention clomid and I'm not hopeful.  I've met with a fertility specialist and they're prepping me for IUI.  I can't figure out if it's my anxiety over this whole thing making me a mess, stress at work that's making me a bigger mess, or my husband telling me he has a concussion that finally put me over the edge.  I just want to go under the covers and sleep for a week.

    The people at the IVF center have been amazing and helpful and so kind and for some reason that makes me want to cry even more.

     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from MissWolff. Show MissWolff's posts

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    Hi KMMZ-  I'm sorry your having such a tough go!  You are still young and it sounds like you are in good hands at the fertility center.  I don't know much about any of the procedures you are going through but I'm sure other ladies have some words of wisdom on those.

    I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone and that this TTC road can be a really bumpy one.  Try to take a deep breath and know that you are not at the end of the road!  Can you do something nice for yourself this weekend?  Maybe take a long walk, get some Ben and Jerry's, get your nails done. Whatever is your thing.  Sometimes the small stuff helps I find.

    I hope you turn a corner soon and we are here to support you.

     
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    Hi KMMZ1012,

    I haven't posted on this board yet but I had to after reading your comment. My situation is actually pretty much the same as yours. I have a son who's 2 who we conceived after 3 rounds of clomid. I am 35 and we have been trying since last January with no success. My OB referred me to a fertility place and we just completed our first round of IVF (waiting for results next week-fingers crossed :) (I didn't have any IUI's- they just jumped to IVF since my insurance paid for it).

    Just wanted to say you're not alone and they may have you do IVF if the IUI's don't work. Don't panic and good luck! It can be overwhelming just try to take it one day at a time.

     

     

     

     
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    KMMZ and Sally - Welcome and best of luck.  I remember how devastating and overwhelming the news was that ivf was our only option to have a family.  Looking back now though the process was totally worth it and overall not as awful as I expected.  What fertility clinics are you using?  I went to RSC and they were amazing.

    Sally, hoping you get a BFP next week!!! 

     
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    Thanks so much!

    I'm using Fertility Centers of New England (they have branches all over MA and NH).

    I'm keeping my fingers crossed :) If we aren't successful this time we're going to try another round....I'm hoping we don't have to though.

     
  8. You have chosen to ignore posts from KMMZ1012. Show KMMZ1012's posts

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    Thanks for the encouragement.  It's been a whirlwind the last few days, that's for sure, and it's been so nice to talk to people who truly understand.

     

    We're using Boston IVF - one of my dearest friends in the world had great success with them and my own ob used them as well.

     

    I've been reading the stories on the pages for months and you ladies have awed me with the way you cope.  The only thing I'm grateful for about not being pregnant is that glass of wine (or four) every now and then as I consider all of these things.

     
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    KMMZ - I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. You're entitled to feel like a complete mess right now. Your hormones are all over the place with the Clomid and this is a stressful time of year. You add the news about your DH to that and I would absolutely want to crawl into bed with a gallon of ice cream. (I hope he's okay!) MW is right, you need to take some time for yourself. I think I got a pedicure every single month I was on Clomid because it was the only thing that made me feel halfway normal. The whole infertility workup is a process that can really mess you up. You'll get through it. Hugs!

    Sally - I hope you get your BFP! 

     
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    I have to say I never thought TTC would be like this.  I also was very ignorant of the process in general (didn't know anything about ovulation, etc). 

    I find that all I can do is keep moving forward every day.  Sounds cliche but it's true.  Each day hopefully being a step in the right direction.

    For me I found that I prefer to talk about my m/c's if asked what is going on with me. (I mean not to a stranger in the elevator but...)  I've found that most people don't understand m/c's unless they have had one.  For lot of people (even with my first one) they were asking me "Do the doctor's know what's wrong?".  Um, no, there isn't necessarily a problem here.  So I've been educating close friends and family and for some reason that feels good. 

    Sorry, side ramble.  Anyhow, we are all going through different facets of this but we are certainly not alone. Sometimes I look at women around me on the street or the train and wonder if they are in the same boat...you never know.

     
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    Sally and KMMZ - welcome.  I wish you both the very best.  As someone with a very similar situation, except just add a few more years to my age (38), it is so daunting when it sounds like we all got PG the first time fairly uneventfully (mine was 6 months of TTC the old fashioned way!).  I had always thought that its easier the second time around.  How many people have you heard of that had such a hard time the first time, needed all kinds of intervention, and even went about with adoption, and then boom.. got PG for #2 (my friend's college roommate adopted 2 girls after 5 years of unsuccessful attempts and as paperwork for #2 was in the works... she got PG!).  I find secondary infertility is not often talked about.  I do know there are some groups that focus on this - a good friend tried to get me into her group, but it was just logistically too far from my house (its in Arlington if either of you are near there, I'm happy to refer you to the therapist).  My RE is ready to try IUI with us.  My FSH is 21 (i.e. hardly any and/or bad eggs) and my DH has low-almost-everything in the swimmers department.  Originally she wanted to go straight to IVF with ICSI, but she said since she is sensing I'm starting to waiver, she'd like to try IUI with injectibles.  Honestly, if I'm going to stick those needles in for 14 days... I think I'd rather just do the IVF (and my insurance also pays for it up to a certain amt per year).

    I'm still very much on the fence.  We have a very healthy and happy little 25 mth old boy.  I just turned 38.  My DH is getting busier and busier at work and I just started a new job 2 weeks ago.  I'm an only.  So I am still struggling with the whole idea of #2... in addition to the work we'll need to do to have one.  Sounds like both of you are commited, which I strongly commend you for!  I wish I could get to that place where I really, really want #2... I'm still just not certain.  Kinda decisions that I wish fate would just make for me (we had a loss several months ago, so I thought that was fate's way of saying 'stick with what you've got girl.') Sorry I just got so into the weeds... I wish you both the very best, and Sally really hope to hear good news for you next week!

     
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    Sally, I hope you get your BFP! 

    KMMZ, I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. I hope your IUI works. Do your doctors know what the problem is? And what is "non-intervention clomid"? I don't know what I would have done the past year without this board. It's really a great community and it's like there's a force field around it that Internet crazies can't access. :) 

    Got my blood work on Friday (late in the afternoon) and I'm waiting for them to call me Monday to tell me a) I'm not pregnant b) I didn't ovulate and c) they're increasing my clomid dose. If only I could predict lottery numbers with such certainty.

     
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    The nonintervention just means clomid and then letting nature take its course when/if I ovulate.  Like I said, I'm totally not counting on that.

     

    I was able to spend some time with good friends this weekend, which always makes me feel better.  And I go drinking once a month with the other moms from my son's preschool class.  They've been amazingly supportive and one of them has been a particularly good source of information since she's been through this, too.  And you ladies have been wonderfully kind since I spoke up.

     
  14. You have chosen to ignore posts from Sally2340. Show Sally2340's posts

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    Hey ladies,

    So I'm not pregnant :(

    Hopefully we'll have better luck with Round 2 after the holidays...

     

     
  15. You have chosen to ignore posts from SSBride09. Show SSBride09's posts

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    Sally, I'm so sorry.  The whole process can really suck sometimes.  Be kind to yourself and try to enjoy the holidays while your waiting for your next round.  Fingers crossed thats the successful one!

     
  16. You have chosen to ignore posts from WhirledPeasPlease. Show WhirledPeasPlease's posts

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    Sorry, Sally. :(

    How was everyone's Thanksgiving? Anyone do crazy Black Friday shopping?

    I think I'll start my second round of clomid this week. Also have a job interview Friday....I like to pack all of my crazy things into one week. :)

     
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    Thanksgiving was good, DH having a small family when it comes to the holidays because we just take his parents with us to my parents. Had to work Black Friday so my shoping was just stoping by Target for bread, tortilla chips and a pyrex container. Good luck in your interview! Is it someplace closer to home?

     
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    Aw, no day off after Thanksgiving? 

    The interview is near both of my current jobs, but it's not a bad commute. It's actually pretty convenient for going to and from both jobs, so I'd be happy with the location.

     
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    Hi all- Hope everyone had a great Turkey Day.  So we got some bad news on Friday.  DH has been diagnosed with a balanced translocation of chromosomes 7 & 14.  So basically when his chromosome goes to get together with mine it goes kaput. They don't match up. So now we know why I had the m/c's...

    We have to meet with a geneticist and are not sure how many of his swimmers are impacted.  (Most likely at least half.) It seems like depending on the location of the translocation they can tell us the odds of continuing m/c's, if a baby would have developmental issues, or if we could produce a healthy baby.

    From what I've read it seems like depending on your chances you *may* be able to TTC naturally but know that you are rolling the dice m/c wise OR you would need to pursue IVF with PGD.  It can be tough to get a take home baby either way.

    Has anyone dealt with this?  We haven't heard from genetics yet and I have no idea how long it takes to get an appt with them...

     
  20. You have chosen to ignore posts from SSBride09. Show SSBride09's posts

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    MissWolf - Sorry for the bad news but at least you now have some more information that will hopefully help get you that take home baby soon.  I actually had lunch with a really nice couple at the Resolve conference last month and the husband had the same issue (it was the first I had hear of it so it stands out).  They ended up doing ivf with PGD and it worked the first try for them.  They had a 2 year old DS already and were planning on a 2nd child which is why they were there.  So have faith it will work out.

     
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    Thanks SS. That is nice to hear a positive outcome.

    So genetics called and they had a cancellation TOMM! So we get to go in right away. Yay for the small victories.

     
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    That's amazing!  Hopefully its just the first in a new string of great luck.  Good luck tomorrow!

     
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    MW--I'm so sorry about the balanced translocation news. That is really crummy. I don't have any information to add--I've heard the same thing you heard that the chances of an embryo with a healthy set of chromosomes depends on the type and location of the translocation and that IVF with PGD may help the chances, depending. I hope the geneticists are able to advise you tomorrow on a good path forward.  

    WPP-GL with your job interview and the new clomid cycle! I'll keep my fingers crossed for lots of good news from you. 

     
  24. You have chosen to ignore posts from MissWolff. Show MissWolff's posts

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    SS and Siena- How are you guys doing btw??

    So we talked with genetics. They didn't tell me much I hadn't figured out on my own but I think we will TTC on our own for a bit. The IVF with PGD offers a guarantee of nothing and it's $$$.  The bad part is I have a 50% chance of getting the incorrect chromosomal makeup- so a 50% m/c chance every time.

    If we get a pregnancy that progresses we'd have to do CVS or amnio to ensure that there wasn't a fetus with severe birth defects.  The good part (?) is that the particular chromosomes and breaks are normally incompatible with life so it's much more likely that I would miscarry.

    If we can't get a take home baby in some amount of time we'd look at the IVF or adoption.

    Who'd of thought this was how TTC would go?  Crazy.  I am doing pretty well, oddly enough. I think DH is taking it harder.

     
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    MW--it sounds like your plan to TTC on your own and see what comes is a good and reasonable one.  I know that my odds of a healthy pregnancy were only around 60-65% each time given my elevated ectopic risk + risk of miscarriage, so that isn't so crazy different than 50%.  We all have to take our chances in some way with this process, but it's no fun to learn that they are worse than one may have expected.  Still in some small way I find it empowering to know what my risks are and what I can rationally expect. Anyway, I'm sure this news is really a lot to process, and I'm sending you a virtual hug.   I hope you guys have the chance to do something really fun & distracting & not TTC-related over the holidays.  Ski trip? weekend away? 

    You're so sweet to ask about me. Things are going well so far, and I am grateful for that. I try to take it one day at a time.

     

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