October 2009 TTC

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    October 2009 TTC

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    Thanks for starting the new thread, Flaxen.

    My u/s went well today and I go back Saturday. I'm starting to feel a little uncomfortable though..like full and crampy. I assume it's normal, but by the time I got home from work today all I wanted to do was lay in bed. Think I overdid it today.
     
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    Thanks for the new thread.  Warm wishes to all those out their TTC, and Blush I do hope that you receive better news in your near future.  I think everyone on this board has seen miracles with either friends or family (or themselves) who have struggled... and I think you are very deserving!

    AFM, as of tomorrow, I am officially AMA (35!).  We are in that lovely "fertile window" so we are BDing every other... DH is enjoying, as am I.  Would put us around Oct 17th for either testing or AF... so we'll see.

    Happy October everyone.
     
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    I guess it's time to come out of the closet and post. I've been lurking for a long, long time - not ready to admit we were TTC, and not succeeding.

    DH and I have been TTC for 13 cycles now. On Monday we have our first appointment at the FCNE in Reading with Dr. Hardy for an evaluation and next steps.

    It's been hard admitting we are having a problem conceiving to ourselves and to others. I'm pretty emotional about it. I have two friends also TTC and find I've isolated myself from them a little bit - I'm afraid of my reaction when they succeed. I guess it's time to reach out to others going through the same thing!

    This sounds like a depressing "first post" (BDC wedding board "graduate", class of Summer, 2007) - I am excited to finally be on the road to motherhood, it's been a long, long wait!

     
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    welcome ml! I remember you posting here before. Don't feel badly - many of us have been in your shoes. We only started telling our parents after we did IUI's and were on our first IVF. I totally understand the feelings about being around other people ttc, too. In the time that we were ttc, all of our sibs had gotten pregnant and had kids, along with several friends. And there's us ttc'ers just struggling in silence. Please know that you are among friends and a great support here! Best of luck at the RE.
     
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    hi ml - I justed wanted to echo the others and say welcome.  I know the feelings.  I was on the wedding boards around the same time as you (different name) but didn't post very often.  but through all the TTC ups and downs since, this board has been a great source of support.  There is alot about TTC that is a 'secret' and I also found myself feeling isolated from friends.  and I went to FCNE too (my issue was multiple miscarriages, so I didn't go through any treatments, but alot of testing)  I saw both Dr Hardy and Hill and I have only good things to say about them and everyone else there.  I agree with flaxen too, even though it's hard to accept that you may need to learn about all these fertility-related terms and procedures - you will feel better after you start seeing your doctor.  Their whole purpose is to work aggressively to get you a healthy pregnancy and for some reason it's just a good feeling.  like it takes the pressure off you and DH, and I found myself thinking - well, he's the expert, it's his problem now to figure out what's going on here.  and I accepted that it was truly out of my hands.  it was a relief actually.  so good luck with everything, and this is a wonderful, supportive and knowledgable group of people to have in your corner.
     
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    Hi ml,
    You know, it is hard admitting the whole TTC thing.  I have taken a completely open approach which for me has been great.  Everyone in our family, friends and at work know that we are struggling with TTC.
    Half the people at my work have known my cycles, when I was going for IUI (now seems like very long time ago) and when I go for egg retrievals.   While I realize that this may not be the way to go for some, it has taken all the secrecy out of it for me and that has been great. Not one person, and I mean not one, has ever asked me if I was pregnant because they all get that when we are struggling, we will let them know if anything comes up. (However, I have heard some nightmare stories about insensitive families/friends on this board so I may be the exception).

     I also have refused to take any responsibility for our infertility.  I am in good health and for some reason we can't conceive.  It stinks but it is not my or my husbands doing.  Surely, if TTC was about being fair, well, I know a whole lot of people out there who perhaps should not have conceived :).  And for that matter, Blushing, RHM, OCC, Lesal and all you other great ladies would have 6 kids by now.

    Anyway, this plus a little humor is all I could do to keep sane during the TTC process.  Also, the lovely girls on this board have helped tremendously!

    AFM - Donor is on board, passed antral follicle count with flying colors and we are just waiting for some more tests and should be good to go.  Bless her heart for what she is doing for us!!
     
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    Ml - Unfortunately this is great board to discuss your TTC issues.  There are alot of women here who have ttc problems.  It's a great place to get advice, throw out ideas, and vent.  Good luck at your appt. today like everyone else said after you will have a plan and sense of direction.  I am currently 21 weeks along from my second round of IUI.  There are many success stories on the pregnant board we hope to see you soon. 

    I handled my ttc issues like lil people knew we were having difficulties and it definitely curbed the are you pregnant every month.  I also tried very hard not to take my issues out on others.  We have very close friends that got pregnant and I was happy for them and made an effort not to withdraw from people because it was not their fault I wasn't pregnant. 

    Lil - Great news!  You are on your way and I agree what an unbelievable gift the donor is giving.  I look forward to your updates.

     
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    lil - great news on progress! Let's get this party started. What are the next steps?
     
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    ml- welcome to the boards!  I hope your appointment goes well today.  I also go to FCNE and have seen Dr. Hill and Dr. Weiss, both are really nice, I have also heard nice things about Dr. Hardy.  I found the initial consultation to be overwhelming, but at the same time it was almost peaceful knowing that now we had a "plan" and that there was someone who was going to help us get there.

    I feel like I've been in a sort of waiting pattern for the past couple months and haven't been posting, but tomorrow I go in for my CD22 bloodwork and will hopefully get the green light to start the suppression phase of our IVF cycle. It felt like it was so far away, but here we are!  Mary I'll probably start picking your brain :).
     
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    ML - Welcome to the boards! Thanks for reaching out. I've found the close family and friends I've shared our situation with very supportive. I keep things pretty matter of fact and joke around a lot about defective body parts, which helps keeps things light that can get super heavy. You'll find the best way that works for you. There are some people I absolutely haven't and won't tell.

    Antimony - I don't know if I'm an expert quite yet, but I sure am in the throw of things. All of it's fresh in my mind! Ask away if you have questions when you start. I'm not a sugar coater, so I'll tell you the good and the bad.

    AFM - My ovaries are feeling heavy, I've cried twice in the last couple of nights after shots - I'm just sick of being poked:( - and I am scared about the retrieval, but also ready to get these eggs out of me. I'm waiting to hear when I'm going in for the retrieval...should be either Wed. or Thurs. Have a good amount of "14s" and "15s" already. I'm at a high risk for that over stimulation thing, so I'm trying to drink plenty of fluids and take it easy. I will not miss the morning and night-time shots once this part of it is done. How are the HCG and progesterone shots? Hurt much? Any wisdom is appreciated as usual. I am staying positive, but with all of the stories I hear on this board I know that I'm not in the clear even if it takes. Thank you for all of your support.
     
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    Hello ladies,
    I found my way into this forum after a friend recommended it. I have been reading thru some of the posts and it sure feels good to see there is so much support all around. We have been TTC for almost 2.5 years now - with an ectopic that ruined the only natural pregnancy I had - things started going downhill.
    I have been thru a series of tests from my ob-gyn - and the infertility is unexplained. I go to RSC now - to see Dr. Pang - he said it could be tubal disease. Who knows!
    I went thru 2 IVfs one fresh and one frozen. I also had 1 IUI - all of the above with no luck. The IVFs faile implantation. There is no explanation yet.
    Pang said - it could be chromosomal. How does one verify that? Lots of questions ... not too many answers. I am hoping to find some soon and get some closure.


     
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    [QUOTE]ML - Welcome to the boards! Thanks for reaching out. I've found the close family and friends I've shared our situation with very supportive. I keep things pretty matter of fact and joke around a lot about defective body parts, which helps keeps things light that can get super heavy. You'll find the best way that works for you. There are some people I absolutely haven't and won't tell. Antimony - I don't know if I'm an expert quite yet, but I sure am in the throw of things. All of it's fresh in my mind! Ask away if you have questions when you start. I'm not a sugar coater, so I'll tell you the good and the bad. AFM - My ovaries are feeling heavy, I've cried twice in the last couple of nights after shots - I'm just sick of being poked:( - and I am scared about the retrieval, but also ready to get these eggs out of me. I'm waiting to hear when I'm going in for the retrieval...should be either Wed. or Thurs. Have a good amount of "14s" and "15s" already. I'm at a high risk for that over stimulation thing, so I'm trying to drink plenty of fluids and take it easy. I will not miss the morning and night-time shots once this part of it is done. How are the HCG and progesterone shots? Hurt much? Any wisdom is appreciated as usual. I am staying positive, but with all of the stories I hear on this board I know that I'm not in the clear even if it takes. Thank you for all of your support.
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    Mary - the best advice I have for you on the HCG and the progesterone shots is to ice the area you're injecting for about 15 minutes ahead. That usually helps. It's not too bad, but for me, it was hard to not do that for myself and to rely on DH to do the injection, especially since it's not an area you can look at easily (if you know what I mean!). However, I tried to see it as DH getting a chance to be a partner in the process instead of just watching me do everything. Keep us updated!
     
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    Mary - I'm so excited for you! You might be having your retrieval as I type.  Good luck and keep us posted.  Do I understand correctly that you are doing the daily Progesterone shots during your 2WW?  They are not so bad.  Don't worry - its worth it.  I agree with RHM - it does get DH involved on a more direct level. I think it was good for him to have to deal with that. 

    Relatedly, AFM, we just got another round of IVF drugs delivered yesterday for a new round, which we are probably not starting until November.  I actually had them switch from the Crinone suppositories to the progesterone shots for my 2WW.  I just hated the Crinone, as apparently many women do. 

    LIL:  "I also have refused to take any responsibility for our infertility.  I am in good health and for some reason we can't conceive.  It stinks but it is not my or my husbands doing. "  Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant.  That comment made my day.
     
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    Well, no start up for me yet.  My progesterone level was still too high.  I wasn't surprised, because I figured a CD22 start was based on a 28 day cycle and 95% of the time that is not me.  I go back in on the 12th to be checked again.  Although I am having doubts about it already because I feel like I'm having eggwhite today.  I decided not to temp this cycle because I figured they would have me go in for bloodwork regardless, but now I wish I did temp so I could know what was going on and when I could expect to start!!
     
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    Sorry, ladies. I was too tired to write yesterday. I had my retrieval and they got 14 eggs. I'm waiting anxiously for my call about fertilization. I had a minor complication with the retrieval where they sent me to my PCP to check out (heart rate/blood pressure through the roof). Went today and she thinks I'm fine and that it was nerves, but scheduled me for a few follow-up tests. Also waiting to hear about transfer date. Should be this weekend. Starting progesterone shots tonight. I'll let you all know when I hear more. Thanks for your enthusiasm!
     
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    Wow Mary 14 eggs that is great.  Sorry to hear about your incident during the retrieval.  When will you get the call about ferilization?  Good luck with the ET!

     
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    Mary - 14 eggs is freakin' fantastic! Don't fret if they don't all fertilize. Remember...all it takes is one (but it sounds like you'll have more). Scary with the heart rate/bp, but glad you're okay. Keep us updated!!
     
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    10 fertilized!!
     
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    Congrats!!!
     
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    Holy Smokes - send an egg this way!!   Congrats Mary!!
     
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    mary - congrats!  so for those of us not up to speed on the process, what's the next step?  what do they do with TEN fertilized eggs???!!!  :) 
     
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    Wow, I hadn't checked this board in a week or so, thank you all SO much for your warm wishes, advice and warm welcomes. I think you are right about being more open about the TTC issue, the challenges are medical, not sexual and it's not a big deal. I'm just so thankful for the technology and options we have now.

    We had our initial consult at FCNE with Dr. Hardy on Monday, DH went for his semen analysis Thursday, and I have my HSG 10 test tomorrow. I really hope this will be smooth sailing for us!

    A cousin and friend had told me about "the magic room" they had for guys at the fertility clinic - tons of porn, leather recliners, super wonderful (all women telling me this). I told my husband all about it, so he took pictures while he was there, but it's not that great. It's a bathroom with a leather recliner jammed in there, and three videos. DH found the selection really odd - very mild, very hard core, and very young. Ah, too much info, but I was very curious and thought you might be too.

    So we are anxious to get the initial testing done. It sucked to hear the RE say "there's definitely a problem." - I'm almost curious to see what they see tomorrow. Any idea what I can expect? I should probably post that in a separate post.

    Now I have to catch up on all your posts! Mary, congrats on all those lovely eggs!
     
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    Ml - I didn't find the HSG bad at all.  I would suggest that you take a couple of advil before as they suggest.  I wouldn't be too concerned about the "there's definitely a problem" comment.  We went through all the tests and got the old "unexplained" infertility diagnosis.  My DH told me about the room too and wasn't impressed either.  Good luck!
     

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