September 2012 TTC

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from MissWolff. Show MissWolff's posts

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    Ugh Hib that sounds so frustrating. Seems like good news and bad news at the same time.

    Not sure if you are looking for an in person or online support group but I would recommend joining www.tcoyf.com. It's an incredibly supportive and well informed community. There is an entire forum for Repeat Pregnancy Loss. There is a whole thread in there about conceiving after RPL. I actually just read through it the other night for some reason.

    So just a thought...
     
  2. You have chosen to ignore posts from SSBride09. Show SSBride09's posts

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    Hib - That is so frustrating and it must be so difficult to not get the answers you were looking for.  On the positive side, if the docs can't find any reason for the miscarriages, maybe it is just a fluke and 4th time will be the charm for you.  If you're looking for another online forum I've found fertilethoughts.com very helpful lately.  I love this board and you ladies but its been very educational for me in getting answers to my ivf questions since there are so many more people on there going through the same thing at the same time.  As I post this looks like there are over 30 people on the pregnancy loss and miscarriage board.
     
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    I'm SO relieved!!!  Ever since I got my ivf cycle calendar I've been completely stressed about my upcoming trip to San Diego conflicting with my monitoring tests.  I googled ivf centers out there and found the San Diego Fertility Center and gave them a call.  Turns out they do outside monitoring for out of staters all the time and can get same day results to my RE.  All I need to do is get my RE to send them a work order.

    I can finally breathe easy for the rest of the month that I've crossed the first hurdle to not having this cycle cancelled.
     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from MissWolff. Show MissWolff's posts

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    SSBride that is great news.  I'm sure you didn't need any extra stress right now!

    And sorry for the multiple posts- BDC and my computer must have had a fight!
     
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    That's great SSBride!!  Enjoy San Diego!! =)
     
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    Hib - my story is somewhat different, in that my first pregnancy was blissfully uneventful, but I have had 3 losses in the almost 2 years we've been trying for #2. Nothing definitive was found in the workup I had either, although I was indepently diagnosed with borderline low thyroid by my primary care physician, so that  might be a factor. I started seeing a therapist after the second loss, and it has helped immensely. It can be such a lonely, frustrating, difficult time, and I have gone back and forth on whether I could put myself through the rollercoaster again, right now we are still trying, but I know how terrifying it can be to contemplate another potential loss. Just because you can try again doesn't mean you are ready to try again. Be patient with yourself, but keep you DH in the loop as to what you are feeling. Best of luck in your journey.
     
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    Hib -- I'm glad to hear that you and DH still have a shot at having a healthy pregnancy, but I'm sorry it's been emotionally tough. Your insurance company's take on IVF seems so wrong to me-- actually getting pg is only half the battle, and if ensuring viability from the start could help sustain the pregnancy, then why wouldn't that be covered?! So frustrating. I hope you're able to find a helpful support group.

    SS -- So glad to hear you can get the testing done in SD! I actually live in SD (DH is stationed here), so if you want any restaurant recommendations or anything, just let me know.

    Chiclet -- Congrats on graduating to an OB and the pregnancy boards.

    AFM, I had my ultrasound today. We were able to see the fetal pole and yolk sack and hear the heartbeat (129 bpm). Now they're sending me to an OB b/c everything looks good. My doctor said the m/c risk is like 5% now, but I'm still nervous. We probably won't tell anyone, including our parents, until 12-14 weeks (assuming it lasts that long).
     
  8. You have chosen to ignore posts from WhirledPeasPlease. Show WhirledPeasPlease's posts

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    Ah, stupid BDC not letting me sign in for about a week. 

    Congrats on the BFPs!!!

    Hib, I'm sorry that they're not giving you any useful information. That helpless feeling is the worst. I hope taking a break will rejuvenate you and your DH.

    SS, that's great that you can get the testing done in San Diego!

    jl, that's so fantastic that you have a super sticky bean. I hope you'll feel less worried about m/c risk and the pregnancy continues to go well!

    We have our appointment with the infertility specialist tomorrow. I'm 50% terrified and 50% experiencing that day-before-Christmas feeling.
     
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    Hi Everyone! I'm trying for #2 and am on month 3 (about to be 4). I got pregnant really fast with my son but nothing so far. My question is - do any of you use ovulation predictor kits? If so, which do you like and why? Thanks a million and happy thoughts to all, Sunny-Day
     
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    Welcome, Sunny!  Yes, I use the cheapie dip strips from amazon in the 50 pack because there's no guarantee you'll get pg right away, again, and the digital smiley faces can make your wallet frown.  These work fine, you just have to get used to reading them and interpreting a positive.  Some women see the test line EXACTLY equal, and others see it NEARLY  equal for a positive, but you'll know a positive by using a couple after thlatest line looks its darkest.  I haven't gotten pregnant, but I do know for a fact the ovulation strips gave me the correct day because I got my period exactly 15 days after the positive, incidating I ovulated the day after my positive, and I have irregular cycle times.  So, even though I haven't gotten pg by them I at least know exactly when to expect my period.  I wish I'd known about these a long time ago for just that reason!

    Good luck!
     
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    http://www.amazon.com/Wondfo-Step-Ovulation-Strips-50-Count/dp/B004IJHDN6/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1347410940&sr=8-4&keywords=Ovulation
     
  12. You have chosen to ignore posts from siena09. Show siena09's posts

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    Sunny-Day--welcome! Yup, those cheap dip strip OPKs work well!  And you don't have to worry about "wasting" them.  It's normal for TTC time to vary...  I got pg in 1 cycle the first time, then it took 6 cycles.  Now I'm on cycle 3 of TTC for take 3.  Anyway, hope you don't have to stick around here too long! :p  I buy the pack of 40 that comes with 10 pg tests.  Although, having pg tests around can be dangerous.

    I think I missed my LH surge this mont bc I kept forgetting not to drink a lot of water in the afternoons...  And my temping got screwed up too due to sleep disruptions.  So this month's chart is pretty useless.  Oh well.  I think we had good coverage for the range of dates that I have o'd in the past (CD11-CD15), so it doesn't really matter.  I guess this month can be my test of "relax and it will happen" bc I was so distracted with other things, my OCD TTC tendencies were not indulged as much as usual.  

    I have an explicit plan to test early this month, bc I want to try to have an answer a few days before some scheduled travel, in case I need to get betas drawn (wishful thinking, I suppose).

    WPP--hope your appt tomorrow goes great!

    Amy--I'm glad the therapist has been helpful for you.  It is something I have been keeping in mind.  I was surprised how long it took for a doctor to offer the resource to me (not until my 4th followup appointment after my 2nd loss) so it's good to remember you don't have to wait for someone to suggest it...  
     
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    SS - Great news about getting your testing done in SD! At least now you can enjoy your mini-vacation.

    WPP - Good luck tomorrow! Fingers crossed for you! Don't be too terrified (I know, easier said than done.) You'll probably just get some blood work and maybe an ultrasound. Is DH going with you?

    JL - I'm glad you had a good appointment! I forget - how far along are you? 129 is a great heartbeat (from everything I've read)! I can understand your apprehension, but it sounds really positive. I'm psyched for you!

    Sunny - Welcome! I actually had better luck with the ClearBlue Easy digital predictor kits. They're more expensive for sure but I found them easier to read. I was never good at interpreting the lines on the other tests. That said, my RE told me to give my OPK strips to someone I don't like because they can just drive you crazy. Also, the first month (since starting Clomid anyway) that I didn't get a positive OPK was the month I got pregnant, so go figure! I got mine from Amazon using their Subscribe and Save program. A box lasted me two or three months. Also, if you have an FSA, the kits are an elligible expense. Good luck!

    Siena - Try not to worry too much about not catching your LH surge. Babies are born every day to mothers who have no clue what LH surges even are! :-)


     
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    In response to siena09's comment:


    Kar--I know early pregnancy loss can be undetectable without HCG testing, but it's not necessarily relevant for Hibernian--I don't know her precise history.  I will just say that even if I had failed to notice the lack of AF for 3 months, I definitely would never have confused my natural m/c with AF.  It was a way different experience--the most physically traumatic thing I've ever been through.

    Chiclet--congrats on "graduating" to an OB!  FX for you and JL and SAW, and congrats to MissWolff!



    I was obviously referring to the general population having many, many miscarriages and going on to have healthy pregnancies and not even knowing it because chemical pregnancy mimics a period.  She is concerned that she's had three miscarriages so wonders if hope is reasonable.  I believe it is in large part because I believe most women have had them many of whom don't even know it.  So, my comment is perfectly relevant to her situation especially since she has had testingrand her mc are for unknown reasons just like chemical ones.  Hw far along she was is irrelevant with respect to my comment because testing revealed its a mystery why she miscarried.  She should be able to get pg and stay pg as easily as anyone else in the dark about whatever might or might not contribute to their chances of success.
     
  15. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Wish we could edit pospointy my point was one of great hope for Hib...or, at least I think it should be.  The bottom line is that mostly likely anyone having unprotected sex including mothers of 10 healthy kids have probably had numerous miscarriages whether they werpeso early as to be undetected or later and recognized as mc.
     
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    In response to kargiver's comment:
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    Wish we could edit pospointy my point was one of great hope for Hib...or, at least I think it should be.  The bottom line is that mostly likely anyone having unprotected sex including mothers of 10 healthy kids have probably had numerous miscarriages whether they werpeso early as to be undetected or later and recognized as mc.

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    Sorry kar.  I didn't mean to suggest that Hib doesn't have real, concrete reasons to hope.  The majority of women with 3+ losses will go on to have a healthy pregnancy, and I dearly hope that Hib is among them.  

    I realize that I'm hyper-sensitive.  I've been told one too many times, in a "no big deal" tone, that my m/c was "so early" and reminded more that m/c rates are so high now bc of early pregnancy testing. It makes me irrationally angry, bc it was a big deal to me and while it did just meet the mark of being a 1st tri loss, it didn't feel "so early".  But anyway, that wasn't want you were trying to say...  It's just a loop my mind gets stuck on.  Sorry.

    Speaking of which, stupid preschool contacted me to see if we were ready to place our infant from their waiting list.  I know DH called them months ago and told them about our loss. [And yes, waitlists really are that long in our neighborhood that we were urged to get on them by more than one person even during the first trimester of pregnancy.]  

     
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    Siena, I'm sorry that the idiots at the preschool couldn't get their information right and re-opened wounds for you. :( 

    Hi Sunny, and good luck with your OPKs. I also like the cheap Amazon strips because they come with cheap pregnancy tests so when you start getting really obsessive and and want to test every other day, at least you're not spending a ton of money. 

    DH and I had our appointment with the fertility specialist yesterday. It went really well! I finally got the PCOS diagnosis--she said I'm textbook and was surprised that previous doctors were reluctant to diagnose it--and I'm going to start provera to bring on my period and then clomid. That's going to take longer than I hoped, though, because first I need a rubella immunization. I called my PCP to get in ASAP and they need to forward a message to her, then to whoever gets the vials, then call me back to schedule an appointment. So that means I'll have to call them back and beg them to do it ASAP. That part is annoying, but whatever, I guess. At least there's a plan.

    How have you ladies figured out getting the ultrasounds for clomid monitoring? My job's tough because I'm either in class teaching or alone in a room with clients. I don't really have lunch breaks or the ability to duck out for an hour unnoticed. I hope ultrasound days fall on convenient work days!

     
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    WPP - I think most places do bloodwork and ultrasounds in the early morning, like before 8. Maybe that will work out with your schedule a little better? At least, I should say that both REs I went to did their monitoring in the early morning. I only had one monitoring ultrasound in 3 rounds of clomid (because I basically begged). I'm glad your appointment went so well though!  I'm glad you're finally on your way (as soon as you get your immunization out of the way)!

    Siena, I can't believe the daycare called you! (I also can't believe that you had to get on the waiting list so early!) That must have been a hard conversation to have to have.

     
  19. You have chosen to ignore posts from siena09. Show siena09's posts

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    Chiclet--yes, I know! If we did have that baby it would be 5 months old by now, so those daycare waitlists truly take forever!  And we got on the list when I was like 10 or 11 weeks pregnant.

     
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    My early mc was a real loss, too, Siena.  If people pooh poohed yours, that's terrible.  And, you're right, I didn't even come close to saying that any loss at any stage is no big deal.  I said that just about everyone who's ever tried to conceive and even those who have children have very likely had numerous losses, though, and often don't know it.  If there is no assigned cause post testing to mc, like in hubs case,, she's very likely to statistically be in the group of women who have kids that never even know they had a mc or more.  Inferring "so early mc is no big deal" from that is not reasonable, and I accept your apology.

     
  21. You have chosen to ignore posts from IPWBride. Show IPWBride's posts

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    WPP - excellent news for your great appointment.  Finally!!  I also have a lab at my doctor's office that opens at 7am.  There is usually a line out the door starting at 6:45am :-)  A lot of us need that early morning u/s or blood draw apparently.  Definitely worth asking!

    Why is it that office buildings are either freezing or sweltering.  This has been the most uncomfortable week in my office.  Sorry... off topic...

     
  22. You have chosen to ignore posts from SSBride09. Show SSBride09's posts

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    Just when I think our ttc situation can't get any worse I get more bad news.  I had an AMH test done (which was not done in our initial work up for infertility diagnosis) and got the results yesterday.  The test measures ovarian reserve or egg quantity and quality.  My test came back at a .2 which is SOOO low its almost undetectable.  At 31 years old most women over 40 have much better ovarian reserves.  Obviously this is awful news since we were already dealing with DH's low sperm count issues.  Seriously... what are the chances that two people with such extreme infertility issues fall in love and try to start a family?  Apparently not incomprehensible in our case.

     
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    Oh, SSBride, I'm so sorry.

     
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    SSBride--I'm really sorry.  Hugs.

    WPP--I'm glad your RE appt went well!  Scheduling appts can be such a time sink.  I don't really have a great solution.  I do try to go for the first appointment of the day or the shift if possible to minimize wait times. 

     
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    SS - so sorry!  Testing and getting results can really stink and just make you feel dreadful!  At 37 yrs, my AMH is .5, and my DH has low count. My FSH is 21 - my 65 year old mom probably has better!  And we somehow managed to get PG on our own 2 years ago (the numbers may have been slightly better but doctors doubt by much).  We did get PG a few months ago (didn't stay that way) so it is possible.  Just wanted to shout this out that sometimes numbers don't mean everything (I know they do right now because you just got them, and that is exactly how I felt too, so don't feel bad about feeling bad right now).  HOWEVER, you are already getting help, in an active IVF plan and schedule, and they will be able to adjust the medications well enough to find that one egg and that one swimmer that will come together!!  I just know it!  Try to stay positive for your next round!

     

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