In response to red75's comment:
In response to kelvana33's comment:
Nice, but I've never understood the whole bullying thing. From my experience with these little all-stars theres 2 types of bullies.
1. The bully comes from a broken home. No father, or dad is a drunk, or has a general hard time at home and takes out his/her anger on what they perceive a weaker child at school.
2. The kid is just an a hole. Some are.
I have three daughters and one son. if they are ever bullied, it wont last long becuase of my Kelvana Bullyproof plan.
1. Tell your teacher, coach, or whatever adult is in charge to please address this issue and also tell the bully to knock it off or he/she will be sorry.
If that doesnt end it, and we give 24 hours for them to see the error in their ways. We now go to step 2.
2. Find the bully in an unsespecting moment, i.e walking to class, sitting at lunch table..Come up from behind them and clock them right in the face. This sends a clear message that you will not be bullied. When at the principles office, inform him/her that you spoke to teacher or coach so and so and they failed to remedy the situation. if they had, this could have been avoided. Put the onus on them. By this time, i should be pulling up to the school with questions I need answered. i guarantee my kid doesnt miss and ounce of class. Trust me, last thing any school wants is a bully situation where there is a kid hurt and faculty member dropped the ball.
3. Probably not going to get to this. But, if theres one thing I've learned in my 15 years on the job it's this. Never underestimate the stupidity of people. Bully might be mad about being coldcocked and looking for some retribution. So we step it up a notch. Now, I consider myself a nice guy who would do anything for anyone. But dont ever mess with my kids. I dont care if your 12 or 72. If we are now at step 3 of the Kelvana Bullyproof plan, we are here because this the path the bully chose. Bully will be told where we are in this situation and why we are here but he/she will be gasping for air in some form. See to me, when one has to choose between continuing to bully or continue to breathe, they always choose breathing. It's weird. And in the Kelvana Bullyproof plan, they have the option. It's 100% up to them.
So, there you have it. For those of you that have kids, I hope you find this useful. Just make sure your kid is not the bully. cause if he is, and he's gasping for air, you dropped the ball.
Kel, as I am older now with the benefit of hindsight I understand and agree with everything you just said. It's what I tell myself I'll do with my own kid some day. It's exactly the response I'd hope to have. But that's my response as an adult who has been around the block a lot.
As a closeted, but pretty obvious, LGBT teen? Not one of your suggestions was an option for me - I couldn't go to my teachers or coaches or parents (this in retrospect is wrong, but this is the mindset of a teen) because they would have asked me why I was being bullied and I would have either have had to lie or out myself. And I tried number 2 of your suggestions - and I was bootf***ed by five girls. I was so frightened of my parents learning I was gay (again, unbelieveably idiotic in retrospect) I invented a story about a bike accident, going to the point of taking a hammer to my bike. I smashed the rims to crap, just to avoid telling my parents the truth.
Kel, To be extraordinarily blunt - when I was 15 I considered that the best of the three options between telling my family/ teachers, or continue being bullied, or killing myself, I was seriously leaning towards suicide. Far far closer than I care to admit.
I thought and fought through it, thanks to my cat (I mean it - I was worried what would happen to her if I was gone) and Punk Rock (it was my escape) I survived, but luck/fate/God/whatever had a hand in that.
Your ideas are great in theory, and likely great in practice for parents who know what's going on, but for kids who are that fearful - and it goes far beyond just LBGT kids - look at Rehtaeh Parsons for a different example - sometimes your strategy, though it's the one I myself may try to use, just won't work.
Sorry folks if that made anyone uncomfortable - that was pretty much heart on sleeve, but I feel comfortable saying that here (despite the trolls). At least partial anonymity can be a good thing sometimes, but I also respect the vast majority of the people I chat with here daily, so some blunt honesty, especially given a post like kel's that may need a rebut, seems fine to me.
The Parsons case has so many twists but two were charged today. She was a beautiful girl with a lot of issues. Sad.
I am also sorry for your bad yrs and am one of many that are happy ypu are still here.
social media is the worst invention ever. Back in the day you actually had to talk to people. Social media in bullying cases is soething most crown attorneys wont touch.
I see it a lot in schools, the schools have their hads tied in most cases. Rich post above is so accurate. If i ever went to the principles office i was scared to death. Now most think its a fun break and bond with the vp's. the vp's in my experience are the fall guy/girl and usually run the school. they bond with the bad ones to keep them in check. With the amount of guns and violence combined with social media and bullying you can bet your bottom dollar another massive school shooting will happen. The rcmp train for these events annually as part of manditory training. IARD training. Immediate action rapid deployment for an active threat. ie school shootings.
The world isnt getting better. If i could spend every day with my yellow lab Bruin, my 5 year old and wife and avoid the rest id be a happy man. I wish people were more like dogs.