question for all of you "die-hards"

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    question for all of you "die-hards"

    I've been a life long Bruins fan now for 30 years plus, they are one of two real passions I have in life (not to say I just like 2 things, the B's just get me going like few things can!). I play league hockey when I can, I own several pieces of Bruins merchandise, I watch probably about 90% of the regular season games and all of the playoffs. I consider myself a pretty hard core fan...

    I've been with my girl for 2 1/2 years, we've been living together for about 1 1/2 years, and I even moved from the Boston area to Northern VA for her and her job. Naturally, I bought the NHL package so I could follow them (I didnt see any other choice) so I always have the option to watch them.

    During the season, I would normally DVR the games so I could watch them when she was busy or not around, as she is definitely NOT a fan. Whatever, I know some people arent into hockey and I can respect that, so for her, I tried to be accommodating. But now that the playoffs are here and in full swing, I try to watch the games real-time. This has started many fights between us, for example, last night, she wanted to watch TV at 9:30, and the game was still going on (I believe it ended at 9:37), and I told her "just a few more minutes". She saw the score and said the B's were going to win and basically said I was being selfish (because I wouldnt give her the tv) and pretty much blew up at me. She doesnt understand my passion for the B's, even if they are up and going to win, I need to finish watching it.

    With all that said, its not like I dont return the favor. Other nights that she wants to watch TV, I'll let her, knowing I'll want to watch the B's the nights they're on. Give and take, make a compromise, all that jazz, but she thinks its unbalanced and that I'm selfish and dont spend enough time with her (which is BS, IMO, I make the weekends all about her).

    So my question to all of you die-hards out there with significant others who don't like hockey, how do you all work it out so that you dont end up in the penalty box?

    Cheers
    Josh

     
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    Re: question for all of you "die-hards"

    Easy..get another TV.
     
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    we have a small one in the bedroom, and occasionally I'll actually watch some of the games in there. of course, she wont
     
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    exchange the girlfriend for a dog

     
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    The bruin would smash something and tell you not to date a hockey-hater.  But seriously, I feel your pain.  Women are emotional.  The solution is to keep things factual.  I would keep a journal (something real simple so it doesn't look obnoxious) of how often you watch hockey, how often you watch other stuff that she likes.  Don't track your special time with her, that makes it look like it's work to be with her.  Then you say, look, I've watched 20 hours of hockey, we've watched 36 hours of desperate housewives.  Plus, the playoffs are only on for two months and they're on when all your favorite shows are in reruns.  Then you say all of this TV time is seperate from our special time on weekends which is my favorite time of all.  You love your hockey and you only want what's fair.  It's your passion, and you've been waiting 30 years for the team to make it this far.  If she doesn't accept that, kick her to the curb.  But don't give in, sometimes women just pick fights on stuff like this to see if you'll stick by your passion.  Girls like men that are passionate about stuff.  Another option is to make it more fun for her.  I did this with an ex-.  Hockey night was wings, beer and tunes night.  Turn the volume down low ( you don't need Jack Edwards, but you should still be able to hear the roar of a goal).  Then put on tunes she likes and have some drinks.  Maybe some good munchies she likes.  Watch the game but also hang out with her and have some beers.  When it's all over you can celebrate the sweep in a special way.  She'll start to like hockey night.
     
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    Sounds like a lesbian bro.
     
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    Tell her "the Bruins are on, make yourself useful and cook me some nachos."  Works with my babe all the time
     
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    Doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship.  She is willing to take; but not to give. 
     
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    in any solid relationship there is a need for flexibility. Love means to give, and it also means to understand what is important to the partner. I went to the Boston Symphony, and 25 years ago My Sweetheart went to a Bruins pre-season, Gordie was a stud on defense, at the Worcester Auditorium where the bombastic drunks made it a very unpleasant experience. Since that time we have always had two TVs available. That's called compromise and love.
     
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    In Response to question for all of you "die-hards":
    I've been a life long Bruins fan now for 30 years plus, they are one of two real passions I have in life (not to say I just like 2 things, the B's just get me going like few things can!). I play league hockey when I can, I own several pieces of Bruins merchandise, I watch probably about 90% of the regular season games and all of the playoffs. I consider myself a pretty hard core fan... I've been with my girl for 2 1/2 years, we've been living together for about 1 1/2 years, and I even moved from the Boston area to Northern VA for her and her job. Naturally, I bought the NHL package so I could follow them (I didnt see any other choice) so I always have the option to watch them. During the season, I would normally DVR the games so I could watch them when she was busy or not around, as she is definitely NOT a fan. Whatever, I know some people arent into hockey and I can respect that, so for her, I tried to be accommodating. But now that the playoffs are here and in full swing, I try to watch the games real-time. This has started many fights between us, for example, last night, she wanted to watch TV at 9:30, and the game was still going on (I believe it ended at 9:37), and I told her "just a few more minutes". She saw the score and said the B's were going to win and basically said I was being selfish (because I wouldnt give her the tv) and pretty much blew up at me. She doesnt understand my passion for the B's, even if they are up and going to win, I need to finish watching it. With all that said, its not like I dont return the favor. Other nights that she wants to watch TV, I'll let her, knowing I'll want to watch the B's the nights they're on. Give and take, make a compromise, all that jazz, but she thinks its unbalanced and that I'm selfish and dont spend enough time with her (which is BS, IMO, I make the weekends all about her). So my question to all of you die-hards out there with significant others who don't like hockey, how do you all work it out so that you dont end up in the penalty box? Cheers Josh
    Posted by bigMonty
    Trade her in for a big screen.
     
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    Dear Dating Hockey Hater,

    Sounds to me like you're already doing everything you should be.  You have your hobbies, she had hers.  As long as you both have time for your interests everything is fair and balanced.  If you have a dozen hobbies, that's one thing.  But if the Bruins are the only big hobby that doesn't involve her, then she needs to expect that your going to be occupied during Bruins playoff games and deal with it.  Tell her that if you can't watch hockey, you'll have to turn to porn.
     
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    If she "can't handle the truth" that hockey is part of you and in no way undermines your love for her. You need to sit down and do the "discussion" thing and let her know playoffs are in the blood and you will be watching and would prefer she joined you, and if this is too big a deal for her, sounds like you are fooling yourself, because do you want the next 25 years to be a fight every April for 3 months. Kick her to the curb.

    So options
    Buy huge TV for bedroom.(not bad)
    Make it a night with music on instead of sound(while wearing her underwear sounds like to me, not really an option).
    Leave her tv and head to pub and watch it with loud obnoxious buddies(not bad)
    Discussion thing (hateful but advised if you want this to work)
    Continue doing nothing(just give her your pants already)
    Kick her stupid a$s$ to the curb.

    My wife doesn't always like it that hockey is on so much, she gets the TV pretty much all season, most games aren't televised here so I watch them on the internet.
           We have 3 receivers for dish, 1 back and forth to bedroom and living room, 1 each to our 2 sons rooms. Come playoffs, I watch all the games on one of the receivers, the others 2 are shared.  Noone watches the habnots with me very often, but sometimes they will all gather with me.  
           Wife is a Joe Sakic and Nordiques fan, is now cheering for SJ and Clowe, eldest is Leafs fan, youngest is TB fan. They all watch the odd game but are not diehards.
           Wife understands, does not always like it, but understands to most part. She knows if something absolutely important comes up I will take care of it (take eldest to airport or pick him up, but donot interupt for a dinner party or garbage or anything else as stupid.

    I have had a few relationships(so I know), but the only way it is going to work, is a bit of "give and take", but if DR Phil were to tell you to "take" her to the opera and "give" up the hockey, that is just too far. Kick her and Phil to the curb, put the wobblies in the fridge and get ready for the game, enuf said.
     
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    Oh yeah
    No trade in for a dog, beastiality is not good.
    TV screen and a Personal Ad looking for 'sporting companionship' could work tho.lol
     
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    @adkbeesfan - already have 2 dogs, and a cat, so thats not an option :)

    @pauly - already got one :)

    @oatscam - sounds like a good idea, in theory, but I know she wouldnt go for it. anyways, i have pointed out the things I do for her, and that just pisses her off even more

    @RidingWithTheKing - Just one clarification, she didnt expect me to move down here with her, she was actually genuinely surprised when i said yes. but yes she can be dominating at times, and i dont know if this is just a control thing or not, but it just reenforces to me this may not be the healthiest relationships for me (and not because i cant watch tv when i want to, but more along the lines of she doesnt respect my passions, which in turn leads to she doesnt respect me)

     
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    In Response to Re: question for all of you "die-hards" :

    we have a small one in the bedroom
    Posted by bigMonty

    Speak for yourself. hehe
    Posted by RidingWithTheKing



    LOL, I was waiting for someone to hit that hanging curve...
     
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    In Response to Re: question for all of you "die-hards" : LOL, I was waiting for someone to hit that hanging curve...
    Posted by Fletcher1


    ya ya i left that one right over the plate, didnt I? :)
     
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    Re: question for all of you "die-hards"

    I dont get the people in relationships that dont "give and take".  I dont argue with my wife (been together for 13 years now) about anything except her shoes being a mess and sometimes when she is reading she isnt listening.  Other than that, no issues. 

    If you dont watch hockey during the regular season except on DVR, and she has an issue with you watching the whole playoff game in real time, THAT is a REAL problem. 

    Personally I dont have that problem because I played hockey, met my wife in college and she thought hockey players were hot and hockey was awesome.  She watches every game with him no matter what time, how long, etc.

    I cant really help you because my wife is like a sexy, woman version of me and we are completely inseparable.
     
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    In Response to Re: question for all of you "die-hards":
    In Response to Re: question for all of you "die-hards" : Speak for yourself. hehe
    Posted by RidingWithTheKing


    Too funny, King.
     
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    Re: question for all of you "die-hards"

    It's every OTHER night. That's EXACTLY equal.
     
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    Re: question for all of you "die-hards"

    Not to sound all knowing, because I'm not, but I've been married for 22 years to a woman who doesn't care about sports at all and I wouldn't choose to be married to anyone else.  It's who she is - I knew it when we first met and I know it now.  I watch every Bruins game and I'm particularly glued to the playoffs - my wife knows that's what I do and she knows that if the season were to end (especially as it has the last two years) I'll be left feeling like I lost my best friend ever.  So ... she agrees that I'll watch most of the games live and I agree that I'll DVR them (I used to record on VHS) and watch some of them after start time - win, win.  I spend time with her around the dinner hour (with my kids too, which I think is so, so important to us as a family) and then I watch the game from the beginning later on (I get to ignore all the ads and silliness between periods that way too).  Never to tell anyone how to do things, but that's what we do and it's worked in 22 years of marriage and 3 years prior. 

     
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    Re: question for all of you "die-hards"

    She's a woman. Can't live with 'em....the end.
     
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