Re: Hernandez arraigned on multiple charges including Murder
posted at 6/26/2013 4:50 PM EDT
In response to ATJ's comment:
In response to tanbass' comment:
In response to IrishMob7's comment:
Not disagreeing with you one bit on your take of my generation. It's sick. However, some blame lies in the upbringing by today's parents. So many parents today coddle and worship their kids like they're the next coming of Jesus. Every team gets trophies at tournaments just for "participation." Every time a kid gets in trouble, the parents make sure their feelings aren't hurt and that they're okay. Instead of getting a boot in the azz when a kid gets in trouble, most of today's parents look to blame somebody else for their child's behavior. It's so true.
I agree with a lot of this. I see a ton of parents that simply aren't involved (enough) with their kids upbringing. Most of us who have kids, don't have the luxury that our parents did when we were growing up of leaving 1 parent home to take care of the kids, while the other earned a living. Today economy has both parents working to survive, leaving our kids in the hands of daycare. I do it myself, as I don't have a choice.
I do however try and spend a lot of time trying to teach core values to my boys (9 & 10). I hate punks with the "entitled" attitude...I see it every day. I'm tough with my boys, and have zero tolerance for any type of rudeness, back talk, etc. I teach them to respect others, and I teach them proper manners. I'm sure they will make some mistakes in life, but I'm confident that the core values I teach them today will help them through the bad decisions they might make in the future.
We have too many "kids raising kids" and the values aren't there anymore. That, IMO, is the real problem.
You don't need me to tell you this but it's clear that you are making the kind of personal and emotional investments in your boys that will pay enormous dividends. Anyone with an average sperm count can be a biological father. Only someone who is prepared to invest of themselves can be a Dad.
well said. The only problem/difficutly is you can be the best parents in the world, but sometimes your kids are only as good as their peers. The average working parents spend maybe 4 to 5 hours a day with their kids if lucky and school is like 8 huors of interaction with every kid who may not have parents, let alone good ones. This is more of a demographic problem that some cant relate too, but just trying to provide perspective to it. Not having a father figure is the biggest issue, and then when you do a good job, have to retrain or unbrainwash stuff they learn at school. This is why im involved with community, sports ,etc to try to teach these kids when I can cuz in its all our best interest. Your kid may have beef with mine one day,. so I want all kids to know whats up. Everybody gotta do their part in the innner city and they dont. Living in a nice suburb with 2 parents is luxury not afforded to most kids who grew up in the city.