just sayin.. methinks most are ready for the solo locker room and on the field thing, but lets get really real for a sec. the real issue is the whole lifestyle and partnership thing. he's open so he can rightfully live his life out of the closet. if there's a team function where Gisele gets to show up or some charity event, y should Sam not be able to bring his boyfirend, hold hands, kiss and do all the PDA things straight guys do? are we ready for that?
this kid has a lot of Tedy Bruschi, Freeney and even Alden smith in him. if he lives up to that potential, they will be featuring his loved one in the stands. r we ready for that? what if he adopts a kid or does a Big Brother program? would you want him to mentor your straight kid?would you let your son wear his jersey?
in college, happened to rent a house with a guy who was gay (4 of us in total, he wasnt my direct roomie). i had no beef with it in theory, BUT... things got real when i came in one night from partying with my gal at the time and heard noises coming out of his room and knew it was him with his partner. totally ruined the mood for my gal and subsequently with me. same with walking in with him on his partner's lap, engaging in acts us heteros do all the time. yes, even i had a double standard and was really queasy and i think i am "enlightened". let's just say the experiment did not last too long on a personal, hanging out level.
but when elected my last year as Student senate VP and chair of all the clubs on campus as a result, one of my first moves was to finally approve the first Gay Club on campus, plus i give them full funding and legitimacy in every public way. i however never went to a single meeting or event and made sure to keep a certain distance i did not do for most other clubs and organizations. well, i never went to any events of the Black Student Union either. i was not a PERSONAL fan of special interest type groups.
however, with time and maturity, i have come to learn that you must not only accept folks publicly but you must learn to do it personally as well. i have been to a few gay weddings since graduating in the 90s and have also been a member of a few racial and gender interest groups for i now get that being a power minority is a special circumstance. us heteros, christians, caucasians, males and so forth are beneficiaries of privilege and can afford to just ignore certain things and have functional default positions that we naively just assume are universally true for everyone everywhere.
hope this kid makes it and that acceptance OFF the field happens rapidly as well but it will be tough. tony dungy has hinted at "reforming" Sam's gayness and presenting "the other side" rather than truly accepting the kid for what he is. religion makes many lose their common sensical ability to question or challenge any default orthodoxy or orientation. has anyone talked about reforming the "hetero" out of those straight peeps?
FTR, goody has a bro who happens to be gay as well. ditto with tagliabue before him. methinks this gives him a special sensitivity to the issue. he won't put up with a lot of open discrimination in that area. football may be the perfect sport for this experiment. Cowherd thinks they are more educated, broader and ready for true diversity than say baseball where its all about tradition and guys have the least education and tend to come from the smallest towns rather than more urbane enviros.