Re: A Happy Fan ... because I can be one
posted at 2/21/2013 7:42 PM EST
In response to SinceYaz's comment:
Interesting book. Interesting outlook as well.
A couple of points that really ring true to me as a Sox fan, or as a fan period.
What constitutes being happy? An insight is that we should all be ecstatic, perhaps even the poorest of us(not the destitute, but not monied either), simply because of all of the jaw dropping conveniences we have compared to the lives of our forefathers a few generations back. Instead, we take them for granted and expect more. We always want more and hardly enjoy the mundane things that we take for granted â¦ electricity, running water and indoor plumbing, fast travel, convenient heat and air conditioning, safe foods and safe ways to preserve foods, advanced medical care and so on â¦.
Instead we want more. The plumbing has to now have two sinks per bathroom, a shower in its own environment and a bath tub that is a spa â¦ (Donât get me wrong, I like the ideaâ¦ used to design houses as a hobby and love conceptualizationâ¦)
We donât want grandmaâs fridge â heck, we donât want LAST seasonâs model â¦
And so it goes.
Can we be happy â¦ not with less, but with the great state of existence we already have? I donât have to hunt down a caribou with a flint topped spear and if lucky enough to bag one, skin it and dress it â¦
How does that fit as a fan?
Just being a fan, is a luxury, of sorts. To have a distraction, a hobby is a plus. To have the nearly ethereal connection many of us have with the Red Sox is also a plus. And it has been, whether the Sox were winning, losing, going to heart stopping and heart breaking pinnacles â¦ and then when the two World Championship seasons of recent history became a part of our history â¦ a new level was developed. Expectation of succeeding â¦
Second point â¦ we can be happy in our situation just because we are in it. Absent of expectations. Expectations â and I can hear screaming at this point â can become the determining factor of our pleasure and happiness.
Going to Fenway with Dad and friends was in and of itself a great moment.
When the Sox lost, was it a bummer? Yeah. But it never removed the pleasure of being a Sox fan. We always looked forward to the next game, no matter what.
I know it takes setting goals to become a top notch athlete â¦ one always strives for more, or he goes no where.
But does being a fan require one to only have winners to be happy? Surely not.
That is the kind of attitude that we consider entitlement. How often have we railed against that?
I am happy to be a Red Sox fan. If more comes out of it, all the better. If not, than I am not going to blame the team for my inability to enjoy this hobby, this pleasure.
I hope the Sox âengineerâ a great season. But I will be happy to hear the first pitch call of the season and then follow the next 162 or more games with pleasure. I will not enjoy loss, but I will enjoy being a happy Red Sox fan â¦
Well, SinceYaz, I guess you haven't read the retort to Engineering Happiness. It's by Georom Mitch Softlaw, 806 and Danny Cater Galehouse. it's entitled, Engineering Misery. Here's an excerpt:
What constitutes being miserable? An insight is that we should all be troubled, perhaps even the richest of us, because of all of the inconveniences we have to suffer that we shouldn't tolerate. Instead, we remain content and expect less. We always expect less and extol the virtues of the mundane things that we should take for granted â¦ electricity, running water and indoor plumbing, fast travel, convenient heat and air conditioning, safe foods and safe ways to preserve foods, advanced medical care and so on â¦.
How does that fit as a fan? Draw your own conclusions.