In response to redsoxdirtdog's comment:
Who among us does not have a screw-up brother, child, uncle, sister, whatever!????? Who among us ever thinks said "screw-up" is going to KILL SOMEONE????
NONE OF US!!!!
Do we all know they are capable of doing something crazy? SURE!
None of us!
That being said........ He had been violent!
That's the time ALL CO-Dependance should end! No more help until that relative gets SERIOUS HELP!
In retrospect..... That's where the TWO FAMILIES failed this young woman!!!!! The Remys never should have asked her family to drop the ????? Charges, restraining order, ..... Whatever it was........ & her family was (in retrospect) foolish for not pushing her kendo whatever it took to keep him behind bars! It's very sad, as both families will be forced to live with that for the rest of their lives. God!!! How incredibly sad!!!! Who knows???? We may find that she was pushing back againthe her own family's wishes to keep him locked up? Either way....... It seems that Jerry & family certainly made a tragic mistake in asking her family to back off????? TRAGIC!!!!!!
What a needless tragedy! A guy would have to hit my daughter ONCE before he was forced out of the picture! PERIOD! End of story! NO EXCEPTIONS! NO CHOICES!
Having said all this....... It's still appropriate to express sympathies toward BOTH families.