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What's the Difference Between Raising Boys and Girls?

Posted by Kara Baskin  July 10, 2013 07:20 AM

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I'd like to know: Which is harder? More difficult? And, most importantly — which gender is less likely to abandon you in front of Everybody Loves Raymond reruns after you turn 65? I'm sure both genders are rewarding for different reasons, but I'm asking because yesterday I got a totally out-of-the-blue text congratulating me on my nonexistent pregnancy.

Someone from a mystery number texted to congratulate me on my new baby girl (news to me!) and included this poem:

A son is a son until he takes a wife;
A daughter is yours for the rest of your life

So, in addition to wondering if someone saw me in a swimsuit during my vacation last week and got the wrong idea, I began to wonder: Are moms less connected to their sons? Where does this sentiment even come from? The poem makes boys sound like a consolation prize. I briefly envisioned Andy running off with a cheap hussy and mailing me packets of cat food every six months, then texted back: "And who might this be?"

Turns out the text was a big misunderstanding: I'm not pregnant with a daughter or otherwise, and the texter was trying to reach a friend of mine. But the message still stood. Is there something somehow more special, different, more close about a mom having a daughter? Was this (admittedly retro-sounding) poem written by a lady with nine unloving boys and a very needy girl who just won't move out?

I'd love to know your thoughts on which gender is easier to connect with. I know each kid is different, but are there any general rules of thumb that you've experienced?

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Kara Baskin (@kcbaskin) is a Boston-based writer, editor, and mom to Andy. She thinks Sriracha and garlic make everything tastier. She loves Steely Dan and "Murder, She Wrote." Her More »

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