When the Tooth Fairy forgets

Posted by Lylah M. Alphonse  May 8, 2009 11:53 AM

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There has been a rash of Tooth Fairy sightings around the web lately -- or, more accurately, non-sightings. The kids dutifully slip their baby teeth under their pillows, cuddle down and go to sleep and, in the morning... the tooth is still there.

Used to happen at our house all the time.

The sleep-deprived Tooth Fairy has left the dollar at the breakfast table instead of under the pillow, forgotten to take the tooth away, scrounged around the couch for lost quarters at 3 a.m., left dollar coins that were too big for the kids' piggy banks, and scrawled notes in squiggly handwriting explaining why she slipped up. Each time, the kids gleefully accepted the Tooth Fairy's excuses -- and her (or his) money, of course.

Speaking of which: the Tooth Fairy has gotten awfully expensive. I know kids who get $5 per tooth -- a far cry from the quarter I was glad to receive back when I was a kid. (What's the going rate for teeth in your neck of the woods? At my house, baby teeth are worth $1.)

At No Child Left, Patti Hartigan is torn about the Tooth Fairy tradition. "I’ve had little debates with myself over why we do this," she writes. "They go something like this: We teach them not to lie. But it’s magic. We teach them to know the difference between their imagination and reality. But they’re so innocent. It’s a giant lie, constructed by adults. But it makes them so happy. And on and on."

So, should we cut the Tooth Fairy some slack -- or cut her out entirely? How do you recover from a Tooth Fairy slip-up?

Lylah M. Alphonse is a Globe staff member and mom and stepmom to five kids. She writes about juggling career and parenthood at The 36-Hour Day and blogs at Write. Edit. Repeat. E-mail her at lalphonse@globe.com.

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35 comments so far...
  1. One time when we forgot to leave money under the pillow in the middle of the night, I quickly grabbed a quarter (we do State quarters for collecting--still cheap but makes it more exciting), hid it in my palm, and asked if my son had looked under the bed. I crawled way under, in to the corner, and said it must have fallen down there when he was sleeping. Worked like a charm!

    Posted by eandmsmom May 8, 09 12:39 PM
  1. In our house it was $1, unless the dentist had to take your tooth out and then (and only then) is was $5. It made the process of having teeth removed less scary when you had something to look forward to.

    Posted by Rachel May 8, 09 01:15 PM
  1. I agree. We should cut out all of this baby crap and treat kids like adults.

    Posted by tony May 8, 09 01:24 PM
  1. $1 in our house too. I use the 'gold' 1$ coins. I went to the bank and got $10 worth of them so we have them in stock.

    Posted by steveg May 8, 09 01:29 PM
  1. I always got $1. The tooth fairy forgot me once. I had lost a tooth while at a friend's house. I don't remember if I even told my parents that I had lost a tooth. I was probably in 3rd grade. Not having the Tooth Fairy come that time clued me into Santa and the Easter Bunny, too. Luckily I was old enough to not be devastated. I also found an envelope in my mother's dresser with all my teeth in it, but that was later on. Now I have a baby and I look forward to making some magic for him!

    Posted by JB May 8, 09 01:30 PM
  1. LOL I can't tell you how many times the Tooth Fairy has failed in her duties at our house...I'm glad I'm not alone. My stand-by excuse is that I have to e-mail her to let her know that a tooth has been lost and if I don't get the message to her early enough, she's already out for the night and will get to it the next day. I'd rather the error be on my end than hers. FWIW, it's $1 per tooth at our house too. I keep it going until the kids either ask me point-blank or tell me that they know. Like Santa and the Easter Bunny, I go along with whatever they believe for as long as they want to believe.

    Posted by Jen May 8, 09 01:35 PM
  1. The tooth fairy forgot to visit my nephew once...my sister, thinking quick when he came downstairs crying, said to him "Well it's Sunday, honey, so the tooth fairy has the day off."

    Posted by M May 8, 09 01:37 PM
  1. My husband and I have yet to have children but have debated this topic before. I found out about Santa at a really early age from a friend, I remember the day vividly and at 5 one of my first questions to my mother was, "why did you lie to me?" As a five year old I felt betrayed that my parents had kept a 'huge' secret and 'played a trick on me.' I would want to educate my kids about peoples beliefs in Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny (that one always boggled my mind). My husband sees no harm in it, he thinks it's fun and had a very different experience as a child. I guess we'll decide when the time comes...hopefully we'll agree.

    Posted by ZurisMom May 8, 09 01:44 PM
  1. With millions of kids in the world losing teeth, the tooth fairy can only do so much in one night. She is very tiny and gets tired easy, I'm sure she'll be here tomorrow!

    I found explaining why the fairy forgot much easier than explaining why some other kids got $20 for a tooth and my kids only got $2 and of course then I had to explain to my mom why my kids got $2...that's spoiling them.

    Maybe it is best if the tooth fairy does become extinct!

    Now my daughter can't believe I could slip under her pillow and not even wake her up. We were just laughing over that. They don't remember the little flub ups...Thank God for that!

    mom to two

    Posted by mom to two May 8, 09 02:00 PM
  1. The Tooth Fairy has forgotten to visit our home too, more than once. Usually it is because she has a large number of children she visits that evening and she cannot get to everyone before sunrise. She always comes, usually the next evening and will leave a bit more change than is typically. The cash amount varies with every tooth and is again usually based on the number of children to visit that evening -- she can only carry so much change at one time. Our Tooth Fairy typically leaves between two and eight quarters. If she misses, then she will leave up to sixteen quarters. Sometimes my children hope she has a busy evening. :-)

    I too struggle with the magic of the Tooth Fairy, Santa and the Easter Bunny.
    I frequently remind my children that I do not lie to them so they should always be truthful with me. I then think about these three important figures in our lives and wonder "So what happens when they find out there is no (fill in blank here)?" I worry I will lose all credibility. A bridge to cross at a later date, hopefully a much later date. But of course, all our stuffed animals and favorite dolls are "alive" with deep feelings as well, so maybe/hopefully my children will cut me some slack when the time comes. I just hope it is later rather than sooner...

    Posted by alp May 8, 09 02:13 PM
  1. The tooth fairy is busy. She doesn't get around to every tooth the first night. She will give you a dollar or a piece of gum. Her feelings get hurt very easily and if you complain she might not come at all next time.

    My big question is, what do I do with the teeth?

    Posted by QMLB May 8, 09 02:14 PM
  1. $1 in my house, my youngest is now 11 so the Fairy has left the building.
    The Fairy has forgotten, usually the kids have gotten up and also forgotten, giving the Fairy a minute to catch up. I've even gone in with money hidden in my hand and "searched around" for it and just left it during the search. I don't think the kids are damaged by the big lie. My daughter once swallowed a loose tooth while sleeping and the Fairy still came. Have fun, it's all over before you know it!

    Posted by allforcharity May 8, 09 02:17 PM
  1. Cut her (the tooth fairy) some slack!!! Life is short, and kids should be allowed to be kids. For some reason, there seem to be way too many people who want kids to grow up too fast! There is plenty of time and childhood should be enjoyed.

    Posted by bv May 8, 09 02:19 PM
  1. $5 for the very first tooth lost and a buck thereafter. Fortunately my son slept in the morning we forgot about his second tooth! As long as he wants to believe we'll play along. Last year we even captured a picture of Santa eating the cookies that we had left out! There's plenty of time for him to be an adult!

    Posted by LeeG May 8, 09 02:27 PM
  1. My eighteen year old high school senior recently had his wisdom teeth removed and asked for the teeth for the tooth fairy! I think it was the percocet talking, but I thought it was pretty funny. As a child, he got $1.00 a tooth, and the tooth fairy also left $5.00 at Grandma's every tooth! (Funny how that happened....)
    Let them enjoy this harmless fantasy while they're small. They grow up so fast!

    Rraser1156, that's hilarious! -- LMA

    Posted by rraser1156 May 8, 09 02:45 PM
  1. We want our children to have a childhood: make room for tooth fairy !
    My inquisitve middle daughter wrote letters that she left with her teeth under her pillow, asking what the tooth fairy does with the teeth. I crafted fanciful responses about: using them to rebuild coral reefs for the fish; to give to her guardian angel, who adds the tooth to her necklace of teeth for all of the children she watches over, etc. I used a nifty cursive font on the print-out, I did not dare write it and risk a handwriting comparison.

    If you forget the tooth fairy one night, just explain that your child must have tossed and turned and the tooth fairy could not find it. Put it in a slightly different place for the next night: no harm no foul! And, instead of breaking the bank, , get hold of some of those gold 'dollar coins'.

    Posted by cheesewhiz May 8, 09 02:48 PM
  1. The Tooth Fairy is the only supernatural being I have ever believed in! I'm just naturally skeptical, I guess, and while Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and, for that matter, God all seemed a bit far-fetched to me, I never doubted the Tooth Fairy until my baby teeth were long gone.

    One of the funniest memories of my childhood is when my younger sister, envious of the tooth payola I was getting, stole my tooth out from under my pillow while I slept, and put it under her own. When my mother found it a few days later, we put it back under my pillow and the tooth fairy came for it.

    Posted by Ms Kyle May 8, 09 03:07 PM
  1. The best was the night I put $5 under the pillow - particularly harrowing, messy tooth loss - then then my husband in his just-waking -up-after-fallling-asleep-in-the-chair delirium put all the cash he had under the pillow. My daughter woke up to $16. Very ugly precedant. The worst was she was telling friends at school, who were going to their parents complaining about how little they got. Pretty funny, but she feels very cheated when she only gets $3 or so...
    And yes, we have on occasion forgotten. The "she's busy" story works every
    time.


    time,

    Posted by Kathy May 8, 09 03:22 PM
  1. QMLB-- I loved your comment about the tooth fairy having easily hurt feelings. I'm going to remember that now that my oldest has his first wiggly tooth!

    Posted by hot-tomato May 8, 09 03:45 PM
  1. My Nana made my sister and I special "tooth" pillows with a pocket so we could put our tooth in them. (Must have made it extra easy for the Tooth Fairy to find at night.) Our Tooth Fairy was always on time and left us $1 in quarters. My parents used to love watching my sister or I come downstairs with our tooth pillow stuffed with quarters. Those are memories of my family I will treasure for the rest of my life. All kids should have the opportunity to make those kind of memories at home. Keep em young as long as you can!!

    Posted by badcats May 8, 09 04:11 PM
  1. I tell my daughter that the toothfairy has a lot of teeth to collect and sometimes it takes her a few days to get to our house. I don't know what to do with the teeth either. I've been keeping them in my jewerly box. Is it really necessary to keep them? I don't think I would care to see my baby teeth.

    Posted by soccer mom May 8, 09 04:12 PM
  1. Oh, pooh to all you worried about "the big lies." Really -- how damaged are you as a result of what you were told as a child. Get over it! We have a foster child who had been in a residential facility until she came to live with us. She was 10 just before Christmas. She still believes in the guy in the red suit. I will tell you -- both she and we had about the best Christmas ever!!! "Let it be....."

    Posted by Bugaboo May 8, 09 04:14 PM
  1. one time we forgot to put $1 dollar under my daughter's pillow. She came down the following morning and said that the tooth fairy forgot! Since it was flu season. I said that the tooth fairy emailed me to let me know she had the flu! you should have seen my daughter's eyes!! she told everyone at school about it. about a week later we had our parents conference with her teacher. her teacher told us about the tooth fairy having the flu. She said that everyone in the class was very interested in knowing how the tooth fairy got sick and all of it. it was very funny!

    Posted by ECS May 8, 09 04:20 PM
  1. We have forgotten many times too. Usually an apologetic letter the next night was accepted. After being forgotten again, our oldest daughter, 9 or 10 at the time, had figured out the truth and asked "Does the tooth fairy know Santa Claus?" We had to laugh and answered "Intimately".

    Posted by This Mom May 8, 09 06:13 PM
  1. We forget all the time. Our daughter just thinks that she has a forgetful fairy!

    Posted by emody May 8, 09 06:15 PM
  1. We give $1, but we give a dollar coin to make it more special. Our 7 yo daughter loves to receive this special coin which is rarely seen

    Posted by Pippin August 26, 09 08:44 AM
  1. the tooth fairy is forgetting evey night

    Posted by bob December 13, 09 01:56 PM
  1. Hope everyone's husbands were more understanding than mine...I'll never forget again because I"m a flunky because I didn't get to it because our 6 month old had a fever of almost 103. Apparently He's not to blame because he was out using the snow blower.I explained to my daughter that there's so much snow maybe she couldn't fly because of the bad weather.

    Posted by Rae February 6, 10 06:30 AM
  1. I am a child and you can't tell me that santa, the easter bunny and fairies. I saw santa.. I swear on you people!!!!!!! What the heck! You are so mean

    Posted by SEDER February 9, 10 04:26 PM
  1. The tooth fairy forgot 2 nights in a row in our house...that is how I found myself on this website!!! Now I will have to pull out ALL the stops. Write a letter in little squiggly handwriting explaining that she just got over the flu. We leave a dollar for the number of tooth that is lost, we are on 3 right now. I might have to even get fairy stickers as an extra apology. The look of dissappointent was enough to kill me and then she said "the tooth fairy doesn't even care about me" SO SAD!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by Michele September 26, 10 10:27 AM
  1. I just signed up to your blogs rss feed. Will you post more on this subject?

    Posted by Schlage Keypad December 27, 10 07:00 AM
  1. I forgot one night and felt worse than my child. I went online and thanks to someone's story, my child was happy the next day. Hopefully this will save you too,,,Thanks to whoever thought this up!

    The tooth fairy was in a little boys room getting his tooth. His room was a terrible mess and she slipped on a toy truck and broke her wing and was out for a few days! Whew, thanks for saving me!

    Posted by Leigh May 10, 11 08:08 AM
  1. I have just forgotten last night. My husband did too. :(
    thanks to everyone for the great ideas !!
    Have a Great Thanksgiving !!!

    Posted by Andrea November 21, 11 10:27 AM
  1. I have just forgotten last night. My husband did too. :(
    thanks to everyone for the great ideas !!
    Have a Great Thanksgiving !!!

    Posted by Andrea November 21, 11 10:29 AM
  1. It is $2 at my house, and if the tooth fairy is late than $4-$5. The tooth fairy was just late two days(for the first time) so I explained that she might be sick, because she visits so many kids and some of them have flu :). My son was listening so carefully and asked me if I have her phone number so we could ask her how is she feeling right know; I thought it was so nice of him to think that way. So tonight must be $5 for being so caring! I think that it is perfectly fine for kiddos to believe in magic while the world around is so cruel and they will have enough time to be adults. I even typed the letter to him from the tooth fairy and found a nice picture of her on the internet and attached it to the letter. He still keeps this letter. Also I told my kids that tooth fairy uses magic to turn their teeth into money.

    Posted by Aleksandra October 7, 12 10:58 PM
 
35 comments so far...
  1. One time when we forgot to leave money under the pillow in the middle of the night, I quickly grabbed a quarter (we do State quarters for collecting--still cheap but makes it more exciting), hid it in my palm, and asked if my son had looked under the bed. I crawled way under, in to the corner, and said it must have fallen down there when he was sleeping. Worked like a charm!

    Posted by eandmsmom May 8, 09 12:39 PM
  1. In our house it was $1, unless the dentist had to take your tooth out and then (and only then) is was $5. It made the process of having teeth removed less scary when you had something to look forward to.

    Posted by Rachel May 8, 09 01:15 PM
  1. I agree. We should cut out all of this baby crap and treat kids like adults.

    Posted by tony May 8, 09 01:24 PM
  1. $1 in our house too. I use the 'gold' 1$ coins. I went to the bank and got $10 worth of them so we have them in stock.

    Posted by steveg May 8, 09 01:29 PM
  1. I always got $1. The tooth fairy forgot me once. I had lost a tooth while at a friend's house. I don't remember if I even told my parents that I had lost a tooth. I was probably in 3rd grade. Not having the Tooth Fairy come that time clued me into Santa and the Easter Bunny, too. Luckily I was old enough to not be devastated. I also found an envelope in my mother's dresser with all my teeth in it, but that was later on. Now I have a baby and I look forward to making some magic for him!

    Posted by JB May 8, 09 01:30 PM
  1. LOL I can't tell you how many times the Tooth Fairy has failed in her duties at our house...I'm glad I'm not alone. My stand-by excuse is that I have to e-mail her to let her know that a tooth has been lost and if I don't get the message to her early enough, she's already out for the night and will get to it the next day. I'd rather the error be on my end than hers. FWIW, it's $1 per tooth at our house too. I keep it going until the kids either ask me point-blank or tell me that they know. Like Santa and the Easter Bunny, I go along with whatever they believe for as long as they want to believe.

    Posted by Jen May 8, 09 01:35 PM
  1. The tooth fairy forgot to visit my nephew once...my sister, thinking quick when he came downstairs crying, said to him "Well it's Sunday, honey, so the tooth fairy has the day off."

    Posted by M May 8, 09 01:37 PM
  1. My husband and I have yet to have children but have debated this topic before. I found out about Santa at a really early age from a friend, I remember the day vividly and at 5 one of my first questions to my mother was, "why did you lie to me?" As a five year old I felt betrayed that my parents had kept a 'huge' secret and 'played a trick on me.' I would want to educate my kids about peoples beliefs in Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny (that one always boggled my mind). My husband sees no harm in it, he thinks it's fun and had a very different experience as a child. I guess we'll decide when the time comes...hopefully we'll agree.

    Posted by ZurisMom May 8, 09 01:44 PM
  1. With millions of kids in the world losing teeth, the tooth fairy can only do so much in one night. She is very tiny and gets tired easy, I'm sure she'll be here tomorrow!

    I found explaining why the fairy forgot much easier than explaining why some other kids got $20 for a tooth and my kids only got $2 and of course then I had to explain to my mom why my kids got $2...that's spoiling them.

    Maybe it is best if the tooth fairy does become extinct!

    Now my daughter can't believe I could slip under her pillow and not even wake her up. We were just laughing over that. They don't remember the little flub ups...Thank God for that!

    mom to two

    Posted by mom to two May 8, 09 02:00 PM
  1. The Tooth Fairy has forgotten to visit our home too, more than once. Usually it is because she has a large number of children she visits that evening and she cannot get to everyone before sunrise. She always comes, usually the next evening and will leave a bit more change than is typically. The cash amount varies with every tooth and is again usually based on the number of children to visit that evening -- she can only carry so much change at one time. Our Tooth Fairy typically leaves between two and eight quarters. If she misses, then she will leave up to sixteen quarters. Sometimes my children hope she has a busy evening. :-)

    I too struggle with the magic of the Tooth Fairy, Santa and the Easter Bunny.
    I frequently remind my children that I do not lie to them so they should always be truthful with me. I then think about these three important figures in our lives and wonder "So what happens when they find out there is no (fill in blank here)?" I worry I will lose all credibility. A bridge to cross at a later date, hopefully a much later date. But of course, all our stuffed animals and favorite dolls are "alive" with deep feelings as well, so maybe/hopefully my children will cut me some slack when the time comes. I just hope it is later rather than sooner...

    Posted by alp May 8, 09 02:13 PM
  1. The tooth fairy is busy. She doesn't get around to every tooth the first night. She will give you a dollar or a piece of gum. Her feelings get hurt very easily and if you complain she might not come at all next time.

    My big question is, what do I do with the teeth?

    Posted by QMLB May 8, 09 02:14 PM
  1. $1 in my house, my youngest is now 11 so the Fairy has left the building.
    The Fairy has forgotten, usually the kids have gotten up and also forgotten, giving the Fairy a minute to catch up. I've even gone in with money hidden in my hand and "searched around" for it and just left it during the search. I don't think the kids are damaged by the big lie. My daughter once swallowed a loose tooth while sleeping and the Fairy still came. Have fun, it's all over before you know it!

    Posted by allforcharity May 8, 09 02:17 PM
  1. Cut her (the tooth fairy) some slack!!! Life is short, and kids should be allowed to be kids. For some reason, there seem to be way too many people who want kids to grow up too fast! There is plenty of time and childhood should be enjoyed.

    Posted by bv May 8, 09 02:19 PM
  1. $5 for the very first tooth lost and a buck thereafter. Fortunately my son slept in the morning we forgot about his second tooth! As long as he wants to believe we'll play along. Last year we even captured a picture of Santa eating the cookies that we had left out! There's plenty of time for him to be an adult!

    Posted by LeeG May 8, 09 02:27 PM
  1. My eighteen year old high school senior recently had his wisdom teeth removed and asked for the teeth for the tooth fairy! I think it was the percocet talking, but I thought it was pretty funny. As a child, he got $1.00 a tooth, and the tooth fairy also left $5.00 at Grandma's every tooth! (Funny how that happened....)
    Let them enjoy this harmless fantasy while they're small. They grow up so fast!

    Rraser1156, that's hilarious! -- LMA

    Posted by rraser1156 May 8, 09 02:45 PM
  1. We want our children to have a childhood: make room for tooth fairy !
    My inquisitve middle daughter wrote letters that she left with her teeth under her pillow, asking what the tooth fairy does with the teeth. I crafted fanciful responses about: using them to rebuild coral reefs for the fish; to give to her guardian angel, who adds the tooth to her necklace of teeth for all of the children she watches over, etc. I used a nifty cursive font on the print-out, I did not dare write it and risk a handwriting comparison.

    If you forget the tooth fairy one night, just explain that your child must have tossed and turned and the tooth fairy could not find it. Put it in a slightly different place for the next night: no harm no foul! And, instead of breaking the bank, , get hold of some of those gold 'dollar coins'.

    Posted by cheesewhiz May 8, 09 02:48 PM
  1. The Tooth Fairy is the only supernatural being I have ever believed in! I'm just naturally skeptical, I guess, and while Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and, for that matter, God all seemed a bit far-fetched to me, I never doubted the Tooth Fairy until my baby teeth were long gone.

    One of the funniest memories of my childhood is when my younger sister, envious of the tooth payola I was getting, stole my tooth out from under my pillow while I slept, and put it under her own. When my mother found it a few days later, we put it back under my pillow and the tooth fairy came for it.

    Posted by Ms Kyle May 8, 09 03:07 PM
  1. The best was the night I put $5 under the pillow - particularly harrowing, messy tooth loss - then then my husband in his just-waking -up-after-fallling-asleep-in-the-chair delirium put all the cash he had under the pillow. My daughter woke up to $16. Very ugly precedant. The worst was she was telling friends at school, who were going to their parents complaining about how little they got. Pretty funny, but she feels very cheated when she only gets $3 or so...
    And yes, we have on occasion forgotten. The "she's busy" story works every
    time.


    time,

    Posted by Kathy May 8, 09 03:22 PM
  1. QMLB-- I loved your comment about the tooth fairy having easily hurt feelings. I'm going to remember that now that my oldest has his first wiggly tooth!

    Posted by hot-tomato May 8, 09 03:45 PM
  1. My Nana made my sister and I special "tooth" pillows with a pocket so we could put our tooth in them. (Must have made it extra easy for the Tooth Fairy to find at night.) Our Tooth Fairy was always on time and left us $1 in quarters. My parents used to love watching my sister or I come downstairs with our tooth pillow stuffed with quarters. Those are memories of my family I will treasure for the rest of my life. All kids should have the opportunity to make those kind of memories at home. Keep em young as long as you can!!

    Posted by badcats May 8, 09 04:11 PM
  1. I tell my daughter that the toothfairy has a lot of teeth to collect and sometimes it takes her a few days to get to our house. I don't know what to do with the teeth either. I've been keeping them in my jewerly box. Is it really necessary to keep them? I don't think I would care to see my baby teeth.

    Posted by soccer mom May 8, 09 04:12 PM
  1. Oh, pooh to all you worried about "the big lies." Really -- how damaged are you as a result of what you were told as a child. Get over it! We have a foster child who had been in a residential facility until she came to live with us. She was 10 just before Christmas. She still believes in the guy in the red suit. I will tell you -- both she and we had about the best Christmas ever!!! "Let it be....."

    Posted by Bugaboo May 8, 09 04:14 PM
  1. one time we forgot to put $1 dollar under my daughter's pillow. She came down the following morning and said that the tooth fairy forgot! Since it was flu season. I said that the tooth fairy emailed me to let me know she had the flu! you should have seen my daughter's eyes!! she told everyone at school about it. about a week later we had our parents conference with her teacher. her teacher told us about the tooth fairy having the flu. She said that everyone in the class was very interested in knowing how the tooth fairy got sick and all of it. it was very funny!

    Posted by ECS May 8, 09 04:20 PM
  1. We have forgotten many times too. Usually an apologetic letter the next night was accepted. After being forgotten again, our oldest daughter, 9 or 10 at the time, had figured out the truth and asked "Does the tooth fairy know Santa Claus?" We had to laugh and answered "Intimately".

    Posted by This Mom May 8, 09 06:13 PM
  1. We forget all the time. Our daughter just thinks that she has a forgetful fairy!

    Posted by emody May 8, 09 06:15 PM
  1. We give $1, but we give a dollar coin to make it more special. Our 7 yo daughter loves to receive this special coin which is rarely seen

    Posted by Pippin August 26, 09 08:44 AM
  1. the tooth fairy is forgetting evey night

    Posted by bob December 13, 09 01:56 PM
  1. Hope everyone's husbands were more understanding than mine...I'll never forget again because I"m a flunky because I didn't get to it because our 6 month old had a fever of almost 103. Apparently He's not to blame because he was out using the snow blower.I explained to my daughter that there's so much snow maybe she couldn't fly because of the bad weather.

    Posted by Rae February 6, 10 06:30 AM
  1. I am a child and you can't tell me that santa, the easter bunny and fairies. I saw santa.. I swear on you people!!!!!!! What the heck! You are so mean

    Posted by SEDER February 9, 10 04:26 PM
  1. The tooth fairy forgot 2 nights in a row in our house...that is how I found myself on this website!!! Now I will have to pull out ALL the stops. Write a letter in little squiggly handwriting explaining that she just got over the flu. We leave a dollar for the number of tooth that is lost, we are on 3 right now. I might have to even get fairy stickers as an extra apology. The look of dissappointent was enough to kill me and then she said "the tooth fairy doesn't even care about me" SO SAD!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by Michele September 26, 10 10:27 AM
  1. I just signed up to your blogs rss feed. Will you post more on this subject?

    Posted by Schlage Keypad December 27, 10 07:00 AM
  1. I forgot one night and felt worse than my child. I went online and thanks to someone's story, my child was happy the next day. Hopefully this will save you too,,,Thanks to whoever thought this up!

    The tooth fairy was in a little boys room getting his tooth. His room was a terrible mess and she slipped on a toy truck and broke her wing and was out for a few days! Whew, thanks for saving me!

    Posted by Leigh May 10, 11 08:08 AM
  1. I have just forgotten last night. My husband did too. :(
    thanks to everyone for the great ideas !!
    Have a Great Thanksgiving !!!

    Posted by Andrea November 21, 11 10:27 AM
  1. I have just forgotten last night. My husband did too. :(
    thanks to everyone for the great ideas !!
    Have a Great Thanksgiving !!!

    Posted by Andrea November 21, 11 10:29 AM
  1. It is $2 at my house, and if the tooth fairy is late than $4-$5. The tooth fairy was just late two days(for the first time) so I explained that she might be sick, because she visits so many kids and some of them have flu :). My son was listening so carefully and asked me if I have her phone number so we could ask her how is she feeling right know; I thought it was so nice of him to think that way. So tonight must be $5 for being so caring! I think that it is perfectly fine for kiddos to believe in magic while the world around is so cruel and they will have enough time to be adults. I even typed the letter to him from the tooth fairy and found a nice picture of her on the internet and attached it to the letter. He still keeps this letter. Also I told my kids that tooth fairy uses magic to turn their teeth into money.

    Posted by Aleksandra October 7, 12 10:58 PM
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