Our son's first trip was to California when he was six months old. In a borrowed car on a dusty road north of Marin, he cried and cried and even stopping and feeding, changing and rocking him didn't help. Finally, out of desperation we began to drive again and recite the words to his favorite book ("Suppertime for Frieda Fuzzypaws" -- I still know it by heart). It worked like magic. We've been traveling together ever since.
Question: Vacation! We went away for a weekend with our 17 month old son. He HOWLED and would not nap. We even had a full size crib for him, similar to home. We are heading off for vacation for a week soon. I am nervous that he won't nap all week and will be so overtired that it won't be fun. What else can we do besides bringing his sheet, music, etc, to vacation with us and keeping to his same schedule?? thanks
From: Lynn, Boston
I wish I had some encouraging words but, honestly, it sounds like you did everything right. Wait, here is one encouraging thought: Sometimes it's harder on children to go away for a weekend than it is for a week or more. With a longer period of time, they have a chance to adjust.
Keeping to the same schedule, including nap schedule, is the single most important ingredient to a successful vacation with a child. In fact, the more you can manipulate the days so they cater to your child's agenda, the happier everyone is likely to be, even though it can mean sacrificing what you would like to do.
Your son happens to be at a particularly difficult age for tolerating change of any kind to his routine. But it will get easier. In the meantime, give him a little advance warning. ("We're going to grandma's house on the lake; you'll have your own bed there, and your favorite sheets from home, and we'll read a bedtime story every night just like we do at home.") Do all the things you did before, keep the routine as familiar as possible, and hope for the best! You might get lucky.
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