Dear madam Barbara,
My son is 6 years old and he is bit lazy. He always depends on me for his daily routine. He is fussy in eating and gets angry for a silly reason. He always sleeps late at night and wake late in the morning. He goes to school and takes lot of time to learn his subjects. Sometime he lies and if I show care and love he responds to me. His father is so caring, loving, and he listens to him. Due to my son's nature, sometimes I feel a bit upset. Please suggest an answer to overcome this. Thank you very much madam Barbara.
From: MADHUMATHI NP, UDUPI, INDIA
Dear Madhumathi NP,
Children at the age of 6 tend not to be lazy by nature or stage of development, so I'm wondering if (1) your expectations for him are too high; (2) if you are doing a good enough job of setting limits and following through with consequences; and (3) if there is enough consistency in routines and schedules in your home.
I am sure that there are cultural differences between India and the US surrounding all of these issues, so while the routines themselves might vary from culture to culture, the need for the routines -- that is, the sense of comfort and security a child derives from the existence and predictability of routines -- is a human need that cuts across all cultures.
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