This 5 year-old is nasty to grandparents

Posted by Barbara F. Meltz  February 19, 2010 06:00 AM

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Barbara,

My 5-and-a-half-year-old son stuck his tongue out at his grandfather and motioned as if he was hitting him.  The same day, which was a Valentine's party at my Mom's, he also motioned for his other grandmother to stay away from him.

This happened to both of my husband's parents and both called him, he did not come on this trip with us, that they think our son has anger issues and needs behavior interventions.

I think he was having normal feelings of wanting to play with his cousins and not with his grandparents.

Thoughts?

From: Meksen, Brighton
Hi Meksen,

Sure, there are all kinds of reasons you could rationalize why a 5 1/2 year old might not want to kiss and/or hug a grandparent when the cousins are beckoning. But to stick his tongue out? To motion like he might  hit them?  That's an over-the-top reaction. I have a feeling there is more to this story. Are there other incidents that might make them think he anger issues or needs behavioral intervention? Because it's hard to imagine they said that based on this one incident.

You asked for my thoughts so here they are:

I'm wondering: How good are you at setting limits and imposing consequences on your son? Sometimes bratty behavior has nothing to do with anger or behavioral issues but simply with a kid who is, well, bratty. And most kids who are bratty get that way because parents have not been consistent in setting limits or following through with consequences (they threaten that there will be a consequence but never bother to impose it.)

Was there a consequence when he stuck his tongue out at his grandparent? That would certainly be unacceptable behavior in my family, even if it was an inappropriate attempt by a child to be funny: "In our family, sticking out your tongue at someone is not OK. It's very bad manners."

I'm also wondering: Is it possible your son has a reason to be angry at his grandfather? Is it possible his grandparents think you are lax as disciplinarians and have reprimanded him when you aren't around,  perhaps even spanked him, and that's why he's hostile to them?

You asked for my thoughts and here they are: I think there's more to this story.

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27 comments so far...
  1. My step-grandson did the same thing, except it was to his great-grandparents. He was continually rude and once tried to punch his great-grandmother in the stomach.. We caught him before the punch connected and he totally freaked out that he wasn't allowed to hit GGG! My stepdaughter was not a good disciplinarian and it was my impression that the kid was just looking for some kind of boundary-setting. Now that he's in school and can't get away with that behavior anymore he's a nicer person but for the longest time any proposed family visits were really dreaded by most of us. One scary thought - his little sister started emulating his behavior and his Mom paid no attention. I think this letter writer has some avoidance or denial issues she needs to deal with. This is NOT normal behavior.

    Posted by Chameleon February 19, 10 09:09 AM
  1. That sort of disrespect toward grandparents should not be tolerated. Period. There doesn't have to be some big psychological reason for misbehavior. Kids don't come out of the womb knowing what proper manners are - they need to be taught. Sure, playing with cousins is more fun than playing with grandparents. But that doesn't mean you get to be rude to the grandparents. Apologies are in order, and consequences should be imposed for future bad behavior.

    Posted by BMS February 19, 10 10:42 AM
  1. If all the cousins were present, there might be a whole lot more going on than meets the eye. I have certainly witnessed grandparents exhibiting extreme favoritism to one grandchild, and another acting out as a result. Yes, sticking a tongue out can be rude (it could be done playfully too), and if so should be dealt with accordingly. But my sense it that there is probably a bigger issue at play here. It's hard to tell from the information in the letter. Let's not be so quick to condemn the LW.

    Posted by gastrogal February 19, 10 01:15 PM

  1. Here is what I think it boils down to. You may be too lax in your reactions to your child's behavior (in reality, or in the eyes of grandparents). It is likely that your husbands parents are more strict and firm with your son when they have him to themselves. So, when he is in your company and their company together, he sees it as an opportunity to snub his nose at the grandparents who do not discipline him in your presence.

    Of course, I've been around children who I don't really know that well who have acted nasty to me. Then I have to say, its simply because they are allowed to do it.

    Posted by lala February 19, 10 01:20 PM
  1. Some parents plain do not discipline and when a situation arises they make excuses such as “I think he was having normal feelings of wanting to play with his cousins and not with his grandparents.”

    There are some behaviors that are in the realm of acceptable and some that are not. It is our duty are parents to monitor those boundaries carefully. We are, after all, raising not only our darling children but future citizens of the world, and as citizen of the world and as such they will need to be able to co-exist with others, in hopefully a beneficial and favorable manner. The last thing we really need to be doing is to be sending off into the world more self-entitled, self-centered, heartless individuals. Showing disrespect for ones elders is a behavior that should be addressed, but to show violence towards one’s elders is a *definite* behavior that should be addressed regardless of the underlying excuse for said behavior.

    Parenting is not an easy job to do, it is far easier to hang and be pals with our kids but it is not doing them a service. Parenting them however, does not mean that the relationship has to be adversarial but it does mean that the relationship does have to be one based in respect, your respect of them, as children and your role as their parent and fostering their respect of you and others. If we do not teach through example and remain consistent in our expectations we do not do them any service at all..

    Posted by Cima February 19, 10 01:33 PM
  1. What a pain this kid must be! It's just what this world needs now.

    Posted by JPD February 19, 10 01:45 PM
  1. Your son was behaving in a rude and disrespetful manner, plain and simple. Stop it now, and stop this "my child is perfect and isn't he wonderful for expressing himself?" mentality.

    Posted by JD February 19, 10 02:01 PM
  1. Kids don't come out of the womb knowing what proper manners are -thats what belts are for.

    Posted by George February 19, 10 02:16 PM
  1. 9. George - belts are for holding up pants.

    Posted by Dev February 19, 10 03:07 PM
  1. There really is a lack of information here. Does he only act this way towards his grandparents, or is he like this at school, etc. as well? What were his grandparents doing to him at the time? Were you present for all of these altercations?

    No, it's never Ok for a child to motion as if to hit someone else. But the tongue-sticking out thing is a matter of opinion: if it's something you don't allow, discipline him for it. Why was he "motioning his grandmother away"? Was she telling him to tie his shoe, or demanding a hug? There's a difference.

    I think people, especially people of older generations, sometimes tend to forget that children are not possession or pets. They are human beings, and have certain rights to their own bodies as human beings. They should not be made to show affection when they don't wish to, for example. Was your son just protecting his own rights to his body, or was he nastily resisting something he needed (help, discipline, etc.)?

    There is just more to this than meets the eye...but evaluate your child's behavior as a whole, not based on one instance of misbehavior. Decide for yourself what limits you want to set, and don't allow outsiders (like grandparents, for instance) to overstep their bounds by disciplining in ways you don't approve of, for things you don't believe require discipline. This is YOUR child, not theirs, (or any of the other commenters on this board's!). Seeing him is a privilege for them, not a right. They DON'T get a say, no matter how much they'd like one. But be ready to stand by your decisions and discipline techniques--you do have to enforce.

    Posted by Amanda February 19, 10 04:02 PM
  1. I guess it's not only kids who can get nasty. Is this a forum for "parenting news and advice" or a place for people who dislike children to air their grievances?

    Posted by gastrogal February 19, 10 04:03 PM
  1. I like children. I liked being a child. I would never have dreamed of sticking my tongue out at my grandparents even when I wasn't enjoying being with them. The parents of this child seem to think they need to psychoanalyze their child when what is needed is simple discipline and clear behavior rules. Step one is an apology.

    Posted by ruth kepler February 19, 10 04:29 PM
  1. I agree, simple discipline from the parents is what is needed. Recently, I was at a store and a 4-5 year old kept hitting her Mom both with her fists and with items from the store. Clearly, the parents need to rethink their child rearing in such circumstances.

    Posted by Anonymous February 19, 10 06:30 PM
  1. #11, gastrogal, please re-examine your anger at people who love children enough to want them to behave.

    The undisciplined child grows up to be the undisciplined adult and guess what? No one hates the parent who was too narcissistic, or afraid to discipline. They hate the undisciplined resulting adult who has be bear the blame of his or hers parents' mistakes.

    #9, Dev, thank you so much for pointing out to #8 George who thinks flogging children with a belt with improve their behavior, "George - belts are for holding up pants".

    I know someone whose father whipped him with a belt. This victim told me the following: One fine day the victim found his father choking. The victim folded his arms, and while watching his hated father die, told the old man he knew exactly how to do a Heimlich maneuver, but chose to savor an evil person's death instead.

    Remember: Ista parentum est vita vilis liberis, ubi malunt metui quam vereri se ab suis.
    --- Consobrini

    (Children hold cheap the life of parents who would rather be feared than respected.)

    Posted by Kaz February 19, 10 09:12 PM
  1. Ever heard of spankings??

    Posted by K February 19, 10 10:56 PM
  1. Gastrogal asks " Is this a forum for "parenting news and advice" or a place for people who dislike children to air their grievances?"

    The false dilemma approach to a debate...

    There are many more things that this forum is. And I believe that the comments you're making this feeble effort to argue with are critical towards the PARENTS not the children.

    While one could argue whether the letter posted contains enough information for people to give advice, maybe one post on this letter was critical of kids - hardly enough to justify your statement quoted above.

    Posted by HBX February 20, 10 09:58 AM
  1. The child needed to be disiplined right away. Put in a time out and made to apologize for bad behavior. If not it will only get worse. The parents need to parent.

    Posted by dtiger February 20, 10 10:03 AM
  1. Amanda seems to have grandparent issues and obviously must have the perfect children because she obviously thinks everything is someone else's fault. I work in an alternative school. I'll be seeing people like Amanda on parents' day!

    Posted by Patches02 February 20, 10 11:49 AM
  1. Kaz, you need new friends. And I feel bad that your friend didn't go for help with his feelings while his father was still alive. My mother whipped me often with an extension cord, but I would certainly never stand by and watch her choke to death.

    Posted by Patches02 February 20, 10 12:30 PM
  1. 1.Kids don't come out of the womb knowing what proper manners are -thats what belts are for.

    Posted by George
    ----

    Your child-rearing philosophy is not only inappropriate, it's abusive. It begets abuse down the road - not to mention life-long depression and an anger at parents that will never subside.

    Why do you hate children so much, George?

    Posted by reindeergirl February 21, 10 01:18 PM
  1. Kaz, wow, you are friends with a person who "savored" watching his Father die? Sounds like your friend deserved the whippings. I don't know who is scarier, your murderer-by-inaction friend, or you, who thinks this is a peachykeen story to post on a parenting blog.

    Posted by Chameleon February 21, 10 06:27 PM
  1. Why do you need to write a letter to figure out if your kid needs to be disciplined? My six year old is in bed now because he didn't want to eat what was for dinner. That's the rule, you don't eat what's on the table then good night to you. I didn't have to write to a parenting consultant. I'm certainly not a perfect parent, but sometimes it's just not that hard.

    Kid sticks out the tongue, time out. Motions like he's hitting someone? Time to go home, or alone in another room until the party's over.

    Posted by dbug February 21, 10 06:35 PM
  1. dbug- you are a horrible parent. I can't beleive you make a 6 year old child go to bed just because he didn't eat what was for dinner. You FORCE FEED your poor kid? When is the last time you ate something you didn't like? WOW you are IGNORANT!!!

    Posted by HotMomma February 22, 10 01:14 AM
  1. The child should have been disciplined immediately for the rude sticking tongue out incident. The child knew the behavior was wrong - and that is why he did it.

    Posted by clovert February 22, 10 10:10 AM
  1. Hot momma,

    Okay first of all, I don't think you need to resort to name calling and using capital letters. Second, my "poor kid" didn't just say, Mother, I do not care for this evening's meal and I respectfully request another selection. He refused to wash his hands. He refused to sit at the table. When he realized there was only one meal, he had a temper tantrum. I don't run a restaurant, do you? I don't have endless funds either. I make one meal. Roast turkey, homemade mashed potatoes, squash - oh the horror of having to eat that! I made a nutritious meal and put it in front of him. Should I have just given him spaghetti-os, chicken nuggets or Froot Loops? That's what he wanted. I gave him a choice, calmly, and he made his decison. I didn't force feed him, that was the point.

    My parents made one meal for dinner each night growing up. We ate it because we were hungry, and guess what? I tried a lot of foods that I thought were "yucky", like beef stew, roast turkey, pea soup, squash, etc. and I not only survived, a lot of those foods are among my favorites.

    Having a different parenting style does not make one ignorant, nor does it make one a horrible parent. He was not locked in the basement in the dark, he was given a choice that I think a six year old is capable of making. Perhaps you are a parent who indulges their child. I am not. Luckily for us we live in America.

    Have a lovely evening. Oh, and guess what's for dinner tonight? Leftovers.

    Posted by dbug February 22, 10 05:23 PM
  1. Interesting comments.. My concern is with my 4 year old Grandaughter, she is out of control, her behavior is not normal. She started to hit me out of nowhere,screaming,throwing her food on the floor.. I talked to her nice but she wouldn't cooperate,I spanked her,took the TV away.. She cried but guess wat? Done! If I ever dare to do something like this in my lifetime,nor one of my children, no way I had a mouth right now! When you supposed to be scared of your Grandhildren? No way!

    Posted by Aida October 15, 11 02:11 PM
  1. The tips were great but I am giving them (8 y.o girl and 5 y .o boy a book for Christmas-little late but they were away.. I would like to tell them how much they mean to me, how beautiful and caring, just precious children, but not perfect by any means. I just want thrm to know how much I love them. I am 86 y.o.

    Thank you

    Posted by Mary MANKIN December 29, 13 03:54 PM
 
27 comments so far...
  1. My step-grandson did the same thing, except it was to his great-grandparents. He was continually rude and once tried to punch his great-grandmother in the stomach.. We caught him before the punch connected and he totally freaked out that he wasn't allowed to hit GGG! My stepdaughter was not a good disciplinarian and it was my impression that the kid was just looking for some kind of boundary-setting. Now that he's in school and can't get away with that behavior anymore he's a nicer person but for the longest time any proposed family visits were really dreaded by most of us. One scary thought - his little sister started emulating his behavior and his Mom paid no attention. I think this letter writer has some avoidance or denial issues she needs to deal with. This is NOT normal behavior.

    Posted by Chameleon February 19, 10 09:09 AM
  1. That sort of disrespect toward grandparents should not be tolerated. Period. There doesn't have to be some big psychological reason for misbehavior. Kids don't come out of the womb knowing what proper manners are - they need to be taught. Sure, playing with cousins is more fun than playing with grandparents. But that doesn't mean you get to be rude to the grandparents. Apologies are in order, and consequences should be imposed for future bad behavior.

    Posted by BMS February 19, 10 10:42 AM
  1. If all the cousins were present, there might be a whole lot more going on than meets the eye. I have certainly witnessed grandparents exhibiting extreme favoritism to one grandchild, and another acting out as a result. Yes, sticking a tongue out can be rude (it could be done playfully too), and if so should be dealt with accordingly. But my sense it that there is probably a bigger issue at play here. It's hard to tell from the information in the letter. Let's not be so quick to condemn the LW.

    Posted by gastrogal February 19, 10 01:15 PM

  1. Here is what I think it boils down to. You may be too lax in your reactions to your child's behavior (in reality, or in the eyes of grandparents). It is likely that your husbands parents are more strict and firm with your son when they have him to themselves. So, when he is in your company and their company together, he sees it as an opportunity to snub his nose at the grandparents who do not discipline him in your presence.

    Of course, I've been around children who I don't really know that well who have acted nasty to me. Then I have to say, its simply because they are allowed to do it.

    Posted by lala February 19, 10 01:20 PM
  1. Some parents plain do not discipline and when a situation arises they make excuses such as “I think he was having normal feelings of wanting to play with his cousins and not with his grandparents.”

    There are some behaviors that are in the realm of acceptable and some that are not. It is our duty are parents to monitor those boundaries carefully. We are, after all, raising not only our darling children but future citizens of the world, and as citizen of the world and as such they will need to be able to co-exist with others, in hopefully a beneficial and favorable manner. The last thing we really need to be doing is to be sending off into the world more self-entitled, self-centered, heartless individuals. Showing disrespect for ones elders is a behavior that should be addressed, but to show violence towards one’s elders is a *definite* behavior that should be addressed regardless of the underlying excuse for said behavior.

    Parenting is not an easy job to do, it is far easier to hang and be pals with our kids but it is not doing them a service. Parenting them however, does not mean that the relationship has to be adversarial but it does mean that the relationship does have to be one based in respect, your respect of them, as children and your role as their parent and fostering their respect of you and others. If we do not teach through example and remain consistent in our expectations we do not do them any service at all..

    Posted by Cima February 19, 10 01:33 PM
  1. What a pain this kid must be! It's just what this world needs now.

    Posted by JPD February 19, 10 01:45 PM
  1. Your son was behaving in a rude and disrespetful manner, plain and simple. Stop it now, and stop this "my child is perfect and isn't he wonderful for expressing himself?" mentality.

    Posted by JD February 19, 10 02:01 PM
  1. Kids don't come out of the womb knowing what proper manners are -thats what belts are for.

    Posted by George February 19, 10 02:16 PM
  1. 9. George - belts are for holding up pants.

    Posted by Dev February 19, 10 03:07 PM
  1. There really is a lack of information here. Does he only act this way towards his grandparents, or is he like this at school, etc. as well? What were his grandparents doing to him at the time? Were you present for all of these altercations?

    No, it's never Ok for a child to motion as if to hit someone else. But the tongue-sticking out thing is a matter of opinion: if it's something you don't allow, discipline him for it. Why was he "motioning his grandmother away"? Was she telling him to tie his shoe, or demanding a hug? There's a difference.

    I think people, especially people of older generations, sometimes tend to forget that children are not possession or pets. They are human beings, and have certain rights to their own bodies as human beings. They should not be made to show affection when they don't wish to, for example. Was your son just protecting his own rights to his body, or was he nastily resisting something he needed (help, discipline, etc.)?

    There is just more to this than meets the eye...but evaluate your child's behavior as a whole, not based on one instance of misbehavior. Decide for yourself what limits you want to set, and don't allow outsiders (like grandparents, for instance) to overstep their bounds by disciplining in ways you don't approve of, for things you don't believe require discipline. This is YOUR child, not theirs, (or any of the other commenters on this board's!). Seeing him is a privilege for them, not a right. They DON'T get a say, no matter how much they'd like one. But be ready to stand by your decisions and discipline techniques--you do have to enforce.

    Posted by Amanda February 19, 10 04:02 PM
  1. I guess it's not only kids who can get nasty. Is this a forum for "parenting news and advice" or a place for people who dislike children to air their grievances?

    Posted by gastrogal February 19, 10 04:03 PM
  1. I like children. I liked being a child. I would never have dreamed of sticking my tongue out at my grandparents even when I wasn't enjoying being with them. The parents of this child seem to think they need to psychoanalyze their child when what is needed is simple discipline and clear behavior rules. Step one is an apology.

    Posted by ruth kepler February 19, 10 04:29 PM
  1. I agree, simple discipline from the parents is what is needed. Recently, I was at a store and a 4-5 year old kept hitting her Mom both with her fists and with items from the store. Clearly, the parents need to rethink their child rearing in such circumstances.

    Posted by Anonymous February 19, 10 06:30 PM
  1. #11, gastrogal, please re-examine your anger at people who love children enough to want them to behave.

    The undisciplined child grows up to be the undisciplined adult and guess what? No one hates the parent who was too narcissistic, or afraid to discipline. They hate the undisciplined resulting adult who has be bear the blame of his or hers parents' mistakes.

    #9, Dev, thank you so much for pointing out to #8 George who thinks flogging children with a belt with improve their behavior, "George - belts are for holding up pants".

    I know someone whose father whipped him with a belt. This victim told me the following: One fine day the victim found his father choking. The victim folded his arms, and while watching his hated father die, told the old man he knew exactly how to do a Heimlich maneuver, but chose to savor an evil person's death instead.

    Remember: Ista parentum est vita vilis liberis, ubi malunt metui quam vereri se ab suis.
    --- Consobrini

    (Children hold cheap the life of parents who would rather be feared than respected.)

    Posted by Kaz February 19, 10 09:12 PM
  1. Ever heard of spankings??

    Posted by K February 19, 10 10:56 PM
  1. Gastrogal asks " Is this a forum for "parenting news and advice" or a place for people who dislike children to air their grievances?"

    The false dilemma approach to a debate...

    There are many more things that this forum is. And I believe that the comments you're making this feeble effort to argue with are critical towards the PARENTS not the children.

    While one could argue whether the letter posted contains enough information for people to give advice, maybe one post on this letter was critical of kids - hardly enough to justify your statement quoted above.

    Posted by HBX February 20, 10 09:58 AM
  1. The child needed to be disiplined right away. Put in a time out and made to apologize for bad behavior. If not it will only get worse. The parents need to parent.

    Posted by dtiger February 20, 10 10:03 AM
  1. Amanda seems to have grandparent issues and obviously must have the perfect children because she obviously thinks everything is someone else's fault. I work in an alternative school. I'll be seeing people like Amanda on parents' day!

    Posted by Patches02 February 20, 10 11:49 AM
  1. Kaz, you need new friends. And I feel bad that your friend didn't go for help with his feelings while his father was still alive. My mother whipped me often with an extension cord, but I would certainly never stand by and watch her choke to death.

    Posted by Patches02 February 20, 10 12:30 PM
  1. 1.Kids don't come out of the womb knowing what proper manners are -thats what belts are for.

    Posted by George
    ----

    Your child-rearing philosophy is not only inappropriate, it's abusive. It begets abuse down the road - not to mention life-long depression and an anger at parents that will never subside.

    Why do you hate children so much, George?

    Posted by reindeergirl February 21, 10 01:18 PM
  1. Kaz, wow, you are friends with a person who "savored" watching his Father die? Sounds like your friend deserved the whippings. I don't know who is scarier, your murderer-by-inaction friend, or you, who thinks this is a peachykeen story to post on a parenting blog.

    Posted by Chameleon February 21, 10 06:27 PM
  1. Why do you need to write a letter to figure out if your kid needs to be disciplined? My six year old is in bed now because he didn't want to eat what was for dinner. That's the rule, you don't eat what's on the table then good night to you. I didn't have to write to a parenting consultant. I'm certainly not a perfect parent, but sometimes it's just not that hard.

    Kid sticks out the tongue, time out. Motions like he's hitting someone? Time to go home, or alone in another room until the party's over.

    Posted by dbug February 21, 10 06:35 PM
  1. dbug- you are a horrible parent. I can't beleive you make a 6 year old child go to bed just because he didn't eat what was for dinner. You FORCE FEED your poor kid? When is the last time you ate something you didn't like? WOW you are IGNORANT!!!

    Posted by HotMomma February 22, 10 01:14 AM
  1. The child should have been disciplined immediately for the rude sticking tongue out incident. The child knew the behavior was wrong - and that is why he did it.

    Posted by clovert February 22, 10 10:10 AM
  1. Hot momma,

    Okay first of all, I don't think you need to resort to name calling and using capital letters. Second, my "poor kid" didn't just say, Mother, I do not care for this evening's meal and I respectfully request another selection. He refused to wash his hands. He refused to sit at the table. When he realized there was only one meal, he had a temper tantrum. I don't run a restaurant, do you? I don't have endless funds either. I make one meal. Roast turkey, homemade mashed potatoes, squash - oh the horror of having to eat that! I made a nutritious meal and put it in front of him. Should I have just given him spaghetti-os, chicken nuggets or Froot Loops? That's what he wanted. I gave him a choice, calmly, and he made his decison. I didn't force feed him, that was the point.

    My parents made one meal for dinner each night growing up. We ate it because we were hungry, and guess what? I tried a lot of foods that I thought were "yucky", like beef stew, roast turkey, pea soup, squash, etc. and I not only survived, a lot of those foods are among my favorites.

    Having a different parenting style does not make one ignorant, nor does it make one a horrible parent. He was not locked in the basement in the dark, he was given a choice that I think a six year old is capable of making. Perhaps you are a parent who indulges their child. I am not. Luckily for us we live in America.

    Have a lovely evening. Oh, and guess what's for dinner tonight? Leftovers.

    Posted by dbug February 22, 10 05:23 PM
  1. Interesting comments.. My concern is with my 4 year old Grandaughter, she is out of control, her behavior is not normal. She started to hit me out of nowhere,screaming,throwing her food on the floor.. I talked to her nice but she wouldn't cooperate,I spanked her,took the TV away.. She cried but guess wat? Done! If I ever dare to do something like this in my lifetime,nor one of my children, no way I had a mouth right now! When you supposed to be scared of your Grandhildren? No way!

    Posted by Aida October 15, 11 02:11 PM
  1. The tips were great but I am giving them (8 y.o girl and 5 y .o boy a book for Christmas-little late but they were away.. I would like to tell them how much they mean to me, how beautiful and caring, just precious children, but not perfect by any means. I just want thrm to know how much I love them. I am 86 y.o.

    Thank you

    Posted by Mary MANKIN December 29, 13 03:54 PM
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