My son-in-law has been deployed to Afghanistan. My daughter and I are wondering how we can help her son (my grandson), who is 8 and knows his father is defending our country in a war. He tends to be anxious. Everyday, he asks, "Did we win the war yet?"
From: myheartaches, Brockton
Mine does, too.
The best you can do for your grandson is to be honest in an age-appropriate way. When he asks, "Did we win yet," answer him truthfully but without getting into a lot of detail: "Not yet, but your father and all the other soldiers and the President are working really hard so soldiers can come home and this war will be over as quickly as possible."
You might also want to read this article, by Wheelock College professor Diane Levin, on the toll this war is taking on children. Page 5 offers strategies for helping them.
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