Parenting should be an Olympic sport
Like most people, I've been glued to the Olympics for days now. And while watching world records fall and medal counts rise, I'm thinking that parenting should qualify as an Olympic sport.
It's definitely an endurance challenge -- much more so than cross-country skiing in the most adverse winter conditions. As your kids get older, you encounter more obstacles than a competitor on a slalom course. If you have a partner then you have to work on coordinating your routine perfectly, and if you don't then you're skating every part of every routine by yourself.
Competition is fierce because everyone qualifies automatically, whether they intend to or not, and the field is crowded. The opening ceremonies involve ice packs in odd places, sleep deprivation, and new bodily functions. (The fireworks were spectacular, but they technically came before the games began.) There are coaches everywhere, but their advice is often contradictory. There is no training -- or, rather, you train as you perform and the athletes who think they are most prepared are often not actually in the competition (though some are more than willing to judge anyway).
If you do win some sort of award at any point for any event, it's hard to know for sure because signs change depending on what event you've won. (Newborn division? The sound of success is contented silence. Preschool event? The medals are fingerpainted, sometimes directly onto your clothing. Elementary-level competition? A hug in front of your child's friends is more precious than gold. Tweens and teens? You're doing it right if you hear "You're the meanest Mom/Dad EVER!"). Adult children? You've won if they call and apologise for anything they did or said during high school.
You're going for a record number of gold medals every single day, no matter what event you're in, how many times you've already competed, and not merely once every four years -- and you don't have a booster team, high-tech uniforms, special equipment, or a high-level endorsement deal to fall back on. And the stakes are high: In the parenting Olympics, if you're successful, your kid is the one who wins and you, the parent, become obsolete.
On second thought, maybe it shouldn't be an Olympic sport after all. It's harder than anything else out there -- but its much more rewarding.
Lylah M. Alphonse is a Globe staff member and mom and stepmom to five kids. She writes about juggling career and parenthood at The 36-Hour Day and blogs at Write. Edit. Repeat. E-mail her at lalphonse@globe.com.

That's why my BLOG is called MOMATHLON.COM - The ultimate endurance sport!!! Infinite events, no finish line.
I'm not even a mom...but I love your article today! You go girl! Your gold medal would be well-deserved!
Thanks, Chrysty! I'm glad you liked it! -- LMA
with all the glory, and spectacle, i think the olympics are like the births and graduations and performances and games and weddings, etc. much of the rest of it - like parenthood - the unglamorous but necessary slog of training, where you've got to show up and show up and show up.
or - if you have to pick a event, definitely endurance, not sprint. and there is plenty of judging!
LMA: Agreed. You missed one point though: standing on the victory podium with hands raised saying "I did it, I did it" ... although the rest of the world (well most) has done it too. Especially rubbing it in the face of those who haven't done it. Just saying [LOL].
Hmmm.... hadn't thought about that one. Cheering for qualifying or for winning, once you've figured out whether or not you've won? -- LMA
Not to mention those of us who parent a child/children with disabilities. Talk about Special Olympics! Makes the "typical" Olympics look like playground fun.
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