My 14-year-old daughter has a lack of confidence. Every time she needs encouragement; she is not cooperative with her sister and brother. She had cleft palate when she born, then she was operated on twice, but the speech is not clear. This makes her very quiet. She said in her class teachers and classmates can't understand her. Most of the time she sits alone and quiet and does not take care of herself. Her personality is not developing. I spend lots of time with her I am not satisfied with her behaviour. I am afraid in later life she will have problems. What you suggest?
From: Sabeen, Dubai
After cleft palate surgery, children often need speech and language therapy.
Meanwhile, is there any extra curricular activity in which your daughter has shown an interest or a talent? Music lessons? Some kind of craft or art? Chess? Something athletic? If there is something about which she feels passionate, and in which she can develop a talent or skill, she will feel better about herself. In addition, she might meet some new people and make new friends. The combination could help her develop self-confidence as well as competency.
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