My husband and I are planning to have a third child. Assuming I conceive quickly (as with my prior two pregnancies), #3 would arrive when our daughter is almost four and our son is two years old. Our son and daughter would need to share a room initially, as the infant would have his/her own room (our long-term plan is to renovate an existing space into a bedroom so all would have their own space within the next few years). Do you have any suggestions on how to best handle the transition - of the addition of a third child as well as having our kids share a bedroom? Also, our son would need to come out of his crib at that time (another transition). I'd welcome your perspective on this. Thanks!
From: KK, Melrose
It's always best to make the transition from crib to bed far enough in advance of the baby's birth so that the child being moved (as well as an older sibling!) can't "blame" the move on the baby. The same advice would apply for moving the two siblings in together: Do it far enough in advance that they won't think it happened to ''make room'' for the baby.
Moving siblings into the same room presents challenges with individual bedtime routines as well as with when those bedtimes are; there's enough of an age difference that I assume they don't/won't go to bed at the same time. Also, don't forget to factor in that, in the beginning at least, this could be party time for them. That can often be a positive, if they have fun together, but it can also mean that they don't stay in bed or that one keeps the other one up. Whatever you do, keep the two events separate!
Sometimes, thinking this through ahead of time will only make you crazy because you can't anticipate exactly how it will play out. Know there will be challenges and then go for it. But keep this in mind: If you do this when you are pregnant and potentially exhausted yourself, it may be even more of a challenge!
As for the addition of another child, whether you're going from one to two or two to three, it's always best to talk with children about what will stay the same as opposed to what will be different. It's also best to remind them that babies aren't so much fun in the beginning, all they do is eat and sleep and poop and cry. Your older child, of course, will have a reference point ("Remember, when X was born, all he did was....And now, as he's getting bigger, you two have so much fun playing in the sand box together....").
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