My 19-month-old son is having a hard time transitioning to his new school. He is used to a small class environment and having an abundance of one-on-one time with the teachers. He is eating and sleeping, but today was day 3 and the brakes came on at the door and he was peeled from my arms. I place him in the teacher's arms tell him it's OK and walk out. Any suggestions?
From: Tonya, Athens, TX
There are two "rules" for parents for daycare drop-off: Don't drag it out, and always say goodbye.
Sounds like you are doing a good job on both counts. What also helps is having a ritual for the drop-off; that itself becomes a source of security for a child. Even though my son has just graduated from college, I can still remember how difficult drop-off was when he first started preschool! But teachers assured me that as soon as I left, he would become engaged in an art activity, so part of drop-off success depends on us, as parents, being able to trust that a teacher -- it helps if it's the same teacher each day -- is responsive to your child and helping to settle him or her. Having a goodbye ritual definitely makes it easier, but it might take a week or more to get that ritual established. Transition objects help, too: Give your child something of yours, especially something that has your perfume scent, and tell him, "Hold this is you miss me. It will help you." And it really will!
Readers, what are some of the rituals you developed with your child to ease the daycare separation?
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