Is it appropriate for young boys to shower together? My son and his friend, both almost 8 years old, took a shower together at my house after playing in the mud. It was my son's idea, but both were excited about it.
I received a call for his mother the next day expressing her dissatisfaction with this action. She and her husband and mine too felt it was completely inappropriate. I thought it was completely innocent at his age. I asked his friend if he was comfortable with it before the shower and he said yes. The boys seemed to enjoy it. It seemed non-sexual and just fun.
Was I completely off base? I certainly will not do this in the future without checking with the parents first.
Thank you very much.
LImom, Sayville, NY
I'm with you. The boys were muddy. They needed to get clean. Showering together was a novelty. Fun. Boy-bonding. It's human nature for children to be curious about each other's bodies. Do these adults really think that it encouraged or condoned homosexual exploration? Ask them to think back on their own childhoods. Boys are naked together in shower rooms all the time. Do these folks want to put an end to that, too?
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