My son was born in early August. He turns five this year, and I expect him to attend kindergarten in the fall. I get a lot of questions about whether I am holding him back. One mom even went so far as to say that she respected my decision since everyone else would probably hold their child back. I have talked to his pre-K teachers and they think he will do fine. I have seen a lot of change in him over the past few months and expect more before the fall. I am not sure I like the practice of holding back children so they will be older, bigger, etc. I would be curious to see what your view is. Kindergarten registration is around the corner.
From: JennR, Westwood
I absolutely agree with you! Holding back has become fashionable for all the wrong reasons, like thinking it will give a child an athletic or academic edge. When this came up two years ago here, I advised predicating ready-or-not on a social/developmental yardstick, rather than academic on: Can he follow directions? Sit in a circle for story time and not pester his neighbor? Put on his boots by himself?
I would put a lot of weight into the opinion of his current teachers, assuming they aren't all teaching for the first time, because they have a basis for comparison on what makes a child ready or not.
It also helps to find out what your school system's expectations are for kindergarten. The best way to do that is to visit a K classroom. It's impossible to imagine what your child will be like a year from now, but you can get an idea.
My best advice is always to go with your gut, not with the crowd.
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