My daughter is 14. The girls in her school are so mean to her; they say hateful stuff to her start rumors about her. She is a very beautiful girl, and the boys in that school all seem to like her, but she stays away from them because she is afraid of the drama she will have with the girls.
Recently they took her basketball shoes out of her locked locker and hid them the day before her game. So she did not have them on game day, and these are upper classmen high school girls; she is in junior high (same school). One high school girl told her she saw the two girls do it and made her promise she wouldn't tell. She showed her where they hid them. Is this considered bullying and theft? What to do?
From: Cat, Canon City, CO
They got into her locked locker? Sounds like theft to me. I'd report it to the school authorities.
However: I would never do this without some discussion with your daughter. She needs to be on board with whatever you decide. In my mind, the best scenario would be for her to recognize that there are procedures and protections in school that deal with behaviors like this (assuming there are). That takes some bravery for a 14-year-old girl. Because here's the other hand, will there be blow back to her afterward? Will it escalate to cyber-bullying? This needs to be part of your discussion. Many high schools have organization/clubs, organized by students themselves, to help students deal when they are targets of bullies. Will she consider checking that out? If she were to get involved in such a program, that might protect her against escalated intimidation.
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