My son turned 3 a few months ago. He is not interested in potty training. We tried it over a few days and he was hostile, had tantrums, and refused to sit on the potty and peed on himself.
How is the best way to handle this? Some books I have read say to do it when he communicates interest. Is this the best approach? Should I be concerned that he isn't interested at this stage? He is in preschool but isn't required to be potty trained, nor is it required for his camp program. However, I don't want to start "too late" and have future issues. He transitioned to his bed fine but he had communicated interest in the a bed. Should this be a similar approach? What's best?
From: Lisa, Newton, MA
Yes, I agree that it's best to wait until a child communicates he's ready. When a child is ready, it will happen quickly and easily.
(1) He's able to sit still and concentrate on a task;
(2) He has enough language to understand instructions and follow through on them;
(3) She has the ability to make her own decisions, for instance, she knows when she's ready to pee or poop;
(4) She's knows where things belong, like her toys or your slippers. What's this got to do with potty training? Brazelton writes, "She is getting ready to use her potty as an appropriate place for her 'products.'"
(5) She imitates your behavior;
(6) His body functions happen at predictable times;
(7) He's aware of his body, can label body parts, and verbally identify body functions.
One of the signs (out of seven) that a child is NOT ready is showing "any resistance whatsoever" to using the potty.
So yes, I'd back off. So he's 3; boys are often late to train.
Be grateful your preschool and camp aren't applying pressure, and simply tell your son, Tell him, "You're in charge of your body. When you're ready to use the potty, we can try again." Leave the potty in the bathroom, but drop the subject. Really.