My daughters, 9 & 11, are at the same over-night camp, the older one for second year, the young for the first. The younger is unhappy and seeks out her sister for comfort. How do I know this? Not from the 9 year old! The 11 yr old wrote me a letter, complaining! I was so surprised that she felt it was a burden; they are usually very close. What should I do?
From: RT, Orange, NJ
Have you spoken with the camp? Presumably, they know your younger daughter is homesick and are helping her through that, but that also need to know it's affecting the older girl, too. That your older daughter doesn't like being the big sister in the camp setting? You're thinking she's being mean to her sister? Uh uh. Don't go there. Much more likely, she's not sure how to help her sister and she's looking to you for guidance. Tell her, via return mail, to get the help of appropriate counselors, and thank her for being a good sister. It's lovely that the younger one would turn to the older, but the older should not be made to feel burdened by her sister or responsible for her.
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