I have a 3.5 year old boy who is not potty trained. We have tried everything, including bribery, to no avail. I try not to pay much attention to it, but just ask him once in awhile if he would like to go. He has gone twice and was rewarded, but that was over two months ago. My question to you is, should we force the subject, or wait until he lets us know he is ready? He is still in diapers and wears pull ups occasionally but still makes no effort to go.
Any info would be appreciated.
From: Stephanie, Hingham, MA
Back off entirely. Don't talk to him about it. Period. Boys are often late to train and, while 3 1/2 is on the "late" side, it's not cause for worry. Just cause to make you crazy!
There are seven signs of readiness, according to pediatrician T. Berry Brazelton and it's not enough to see one or two signs, you need to see all seven:
(1) He's able to sit still and concentrate on a task;
(2) He has enough language to understand instructions and follow through on them;
(3) She has the ability to make her own decisions, for instance, she knows when she's ready to pee or poop;
(4) She's knows where things belong, like her toys or your slippers. What's this got to do with potty training? Brazelton writes, "She is getting ready to use her potty as an appropriate place for her 'products.'"
(5) She imitates your behavior;
(6) His body functions happen at predictable times;
(7) He's aware of his body, can label body parts, and verbally identify body functions.
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