My son, now 18, has always had trouble fitting in with his peers. He does not like sports or playing board games or even video games. He's very verbal and loves to debate. He's a bit on the feminine side in his mannerisms but don't think he's gay. He does very well in school, although he's better in English than in math. I think his problem is that he has not found a way to "play" that he enjoys. He loves to be with his peers, but is usually left out. As a result, he's had trouble with minor depression and anxiety, which he takes some mild medication for and gets counseling for.
I'm looking for advice on how he can further develop his social skills so he can form deeper lasting friendships.
From: Sally, Austin, TX
I'm glad your son is in counseling. At 18, he needs to figure these things out for himself. My best suggestion is for you to be supportive of his efforts, whatever they might be, and, perhaps, to seek some professional counseling yourself (not the same person as your son.) I'm wondering if you're carrying around some guilt (that you didn't get him help soon enough? That you are somehow responsible?). Obviously, I'm fishing around here and I'm trying to be gentle, but I can see only benefits for both of you getting professional help.
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