Could this potty struggle have a medical cause?

Posted by Barbara F. Meltz  February 6, 2012 06:00 AM

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I have twin boys, one of them is potty trained, the other one is not. Every time I ask him to go to the bathroom is a battle, I have been forced to put diapers back on him since he won't go on his own or tell me or the teacher he has to go. I put him back in underwear and he just pees and poops in them and doesn't even tell me!!! I have NO IDEA what and how I am supposed to handle this . No one in his class is in diapers except for him...
any suggestions will be more than welcome!!!!

From: Maggz, Los Angeles

Dear Maggz,

Have you had your son checked out by a pediatric urologist to rule out a possible medical problem? Some children have underlying conditions that impede training.

Beyond that, please read my previous Q&A on this topic, here.

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