I have a four year old daughter who is still having accidents. She can sometimes go up to 12 days without accidents yet she can have 3 days in a row with an accident [each day]. She still wets the bed three or four times a week, sometimes even twice [a night]. I have tried everything I can think of to stop them from potty charts, ignoring it, punishing it etc. At the moment if she has accident, she doesn't get a story at bed time. It upsets her a little but she still has the accidents. I wondered if you had any ideas.
From: Sarah, Hartlepool, UK
Sometimes these problems are the result of an immature urinary system and they go over time as a child grows. On the other hand, there could be an underlying problem of some kind, either a stress that waxes and wanes in her life, or a medical problem such as a urinary tract infection or an over-active bladder. To be on the safe side, I'd ask her pediatrician if he thinks it's worth consulting with a pediatric urinary specialist. Meanwhile, I would stop imposing consequences for the accidents until you know what's going on. If it causes distress in the family (especially if she is upset to have the night-time accidents), suggest that she wear a pull-up for now at night. You'll have to re-adjust your attitude so you can do this in a totally non-judgmental way; otherwise she'll never go for it, because she knows how unhappy you are about this.
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