My younger sister (who is 16 now) is questioning her sexuality. She told me that she sometimes gets crushes on girls and that she is afraid of it because she doesn't know what to do.Our parents and our family in general is very unsupportive and we never had a bisexual or gay/lesbian person in our family or friend circle. She said that she didn't sleep with a girl but that she would if she was in love with one. I've tried to tell her that it's okay to feel that way and that she shouldn't worry about anything yet because the feelings might change. But even if they don't, I will still be there for her, supporting her no matter what. My question is - Is it normal for her to feel that way? She said that she likes 60% of boys and 40% girls and it's been like that since she was really young. Does this mean she's bisexual? or bi-curious?
From: Loreen, Nottingham, UK
You sound like a wonderful sister! Since she's had these feelings for so long, they may well reflect her future orientation. [I edited the previous sentence to clarify my meaning, in response to the comment from CMF, below. BFM] Then again, they may not. Forty percent of 14-year-old girls experience a sexual feeling for another girl and that doesn't mean 40 percent of girls become lesbians, psychologist Lynn Ponton writes on daughters.com, . She says a girl's sexual orientation is more likely determined in early childhood. Ponton is author "The Sex Lives of Teenagers: Revealing the Secret World of Adolescent Boys and Girls ")
Everything you said to your sister is right on target. Fingers crossed that your parents can learn to be more supportive, no matter what your sister's orientation ends up.
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