I hope you can answer this quickly!!
In the wake of the Marathon bombings, our 9 year-old son has told us that he "absolutely will not go" to Red Sox games. We always go to at least one afternoon game with my dad and my wife's dad and my two other children, one younger, one older, all sons, it's a boys' day out. The middle boy, I'll cal him T, announced this at dinner, in front of his sibs on Wed night. There was an immediate hush at the table. My wife and I were both stricken, I have to admit. (The conversation, btw, had not been about the Marathon or about the Red Sox. He said this out of the blue.) The first one to speak was the oldest (13) who said, "No way am I letting these jerks stop me from having fun." Pause. "Right, dad?" The youngest (7) typically takes his cues from his oldest brother and said, "Yeah!" But they all looked at me.
Honestly, my wife and I had already been thinking about this. Even though we know, intellectually we can't let fear rule our lives, who can say what's right for any given family? Our job is to protect our children!
The conversation shifted, the meal went on, but my wife and I know this will come up again. T is a quiet boy, he's cautious, not fearful, but tenacious and more serious.
Please, I'd like your thoughts. BTW, both grandfathers have already said, over the phone so not in front of the boys, life goes on, don't even think about us not going to our game. Hmm. Now that I type that, maybe they are projecting my reaction? Maybe I've projected that onto T?
What to do?!
From: Peter, west of Boston.