[Letter has been condensed by BFM]
My question is about how to handle my brother-in-law who is so incredibly over-stimulating/shows poor judgement when interacting with my toddler son (almost 3 years old).
We don't see my brother-in-law frequently, but when we do, his interactions with my son include repeated forced tickling, throwing/dropping my son, and other physical play that he thinks is funny but is bordering on abuse in my/my husband's opinions.
... In the past, I have intervened and told my brother-in-law to stop, as has my sister (his wife) and my mother. My brother-in-law will only briefly stop, but whatever he does next will be equally objectionable.
My son is a very sociable, resilient kid. And these play sessions tend to involve lots of shrieking, laughing, and screaming on my son's part, which I am assuming my brother-in-law thinks means he is having fun. But after my BIL leaves, my son is SO over-stimulated, and he usually has a giant melt-down/tantrum which is just painful to watch. Sometimes my son will tell my brother-in-law to stop what he is doing, but he usually will only listen if an adult tells him to stop.
My brother-in-law shows very poor judgement in general, even with adults. As a result of this, he has been the cause of repeated minor injuries to himself/other people and property damage. Adults are frequently asking him to stop inappropriate behaviors, and he has trouble listening to adults as well.
It has gotten so that my husband and I can barely stand to be around my brother-in-law, due to his behavior with our son. Any suggestions for how to handle this?
Thank you so much in advance!
From: Over-stimulated in Hamilton (state not included)