A South Dakota mom named Stephanie Metz ranted about helicopter parenting on her blog "The Metz Family" last month and the world took notice.
The post was inspired by her little boy who wanted to bring an action figure to school for show and tell but then decided otherwise because he was worried his teacher would think the figure too violent. The 29-year-old mom of two boys ages four and two said she encourages her kids to entertain themselves, wants her boys to be boys and be able to play with toy guns without being labeled a threat, and writes that not too long ago, kids who were bullied "brushed it off and worked through it."
Modern parenting and thinking makes me crazy. The young generations of today (yes, I sound old. I realize I'm only 29 years old.) are being taught that they shouldn't have to ever put up with anything doesn't make their hearts feel like rainbow colored unicorns are running around pooping skittles onto piles of marshmallows. Modern parenting is creating a generation that's not going to be able to function in society.
Here are a few of the more than 900 comments readers posted. Some agreed with her and others thought she missed the mark.
From Becca Kelly, a teacher:
As a teacher, I see many of the problems you mention about "modern parenting" - the sense of entitlement, the hand-holding, the lack of parental willingness to allow their kids to do anything confrontational themselves (I rarely had a student talk or email me about a problem or question... always the parent), the lack of accountability given to the student.
From Don Laqua:
You are taking a practical approach and realistic approach to raising your kids. They will appreciate it all their lives. Parents tend to over protect children to the point that they cannot function in the real world.
From Shannon and Jeff Miller:
We SHOULD be teaching our children to exist in the "real world," but I feel like you don't really get it. There are REAL problems that are being put front in our faces because of the media - social media, tv, internet, etc that existed behind closed doors in years past. We need to tackle these problems in many different ways in order to change our world for the better. Problems are not solved by trying to re-create the "good ole days".From Sarah Thompson:
There are some good points that were made but I think Stephanie really missed the mark on how real bullying does effect some kids.
What do you think of Stephanie's point of view?
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Kristi Palma, Boston.com Moms producer, is the mom of a first grader and a preschooler. She is a writer who enjoys cooking her grandmother's Italian recipes (when her son isn't launching paper airplanes into them). Follow her on Twitter @kristipalma.