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  • Posted 06/13/2013 09:39:41 EDT

    So, you kept in touch loosely through Facebook, never met his wife, but the moment she dies you have a strong need to fly out there and tell him he's not alone. Hmm. I think you are a sweet, caring pe more »

  • Posted 03/22/2013 09:52:25 EDT

    There's a lot that you need to do, including all the therapy stuff people have mentioned, but I'd say a simple actionable thing that can actually make a difference is that next time she sits down to p more »

  • Comment on: I have a soul mate

    Posted 03/14/2013 09:31:20 EDT

    Although LW is an adult (I think). How about: "Like two solitary birds flying the great prairies by celestial reckoning, all of these years and lifetimes we have been moving toward one another.” Rob more »

  • Comment on: He disappeared

    Posted 03/13/2013 09:22:35 EDT

    Ugh, a closure letter. LW, people who drop off the face of the earth are usually people who dislike confrontation and don't have the courage to face someone's hurt feelings. Trying to track them down more »

  • Posted 03/06/2013 03:02:43 EST

    Jail-Time, fair question, but "co-" wouldn't mean that she would be clingy too. Often you hear this term when referring to couples where one is an alcoholic. So, if Mary is the alcoholic, and if John more »

  • Posted 03/06/2013 09:26:38 EST

    This is just speculation on my part, but having seen a co-dependent relationship up close and personal, I'm thinking her "break" is -- "I need a break from this co-dependent guy. He's smothering me ev more »

  • Posted 03/01/2013 09:12:32 EST

    Instead of thinking of his online friends as relationships you should feel jealous of, think of them as his entertainment. You wouldn't feel jealous of the characters on TV shows that he watches, woul more »

  • Posted 02/06/2013 09:54:16 EST

    I don't think its fair to the LW to belittle wanting to have children, and to boil that want down to baby vomit and Thomas the Tank Engine. Having a baby is about having a baby, raising that baby to b more »

  • Posted 04/12/2012 07:07:01 EDT

    Trulia -- cool real estate app. You can be anywhere, pull up a map, and see what the houses around you are going for. Visible Body 3D Human Anatomy Atlas -- you can see inside your body, from any angl more »

  • Posted 03/30/2012 09:17:46 EDT

    My knee-jerk reaction is she's feeling very sophisticated and grown-up since she's getting so well wined and dined by you and doesn't want to break the illusion by saying "thank you" -- which may, in more »

  • Comment on: I'm bad at dating

    Posted 03/09/2012 09:13:53 EST

    I think Swingers has to be required watching for everyone trying to get in the dating game but who feels less than confident: "These claws and these fangs! You're looking at your claws and your fangs. more »

  • Posted 03/05/2012 09:29:54 EST

    Meredith asked for ways to train her brain. Here's one. A text comes in from the mom. Imagine instead it is a toddler calling from the bathroom that he needs to have his butt wiped and that either you more »

  • Posted 03/05/2012 09:19:10 EST

    Jealous much? You are essentially asking him to set aside his children's well-being (in the form of two parents who are making time to get the minutiae of child-rearing right) to appease your irritati more »

  • Posted 02/28/2012 09:07:42 EST

    That is a maddening situation -- kids out of control, parents don't take responsibility. Much good advice has already been given. I just wanted to say a few words about the other part of your frustrat more »

  • Posted 02/20/2012 03:01:55 EST

    Since it was an invitation to you and your two children from a very old friend makes me think less "dinner party" (which, to me, implies just adults, somewhat formal, kind of an occasion) and more "di more »

  • Posted 01/24/2012 09:13:59 EST

    This is akin to the whole "we come from different faiths" thing. If it isn't a big deal, it isn't a big deal. If it is a big deal, it is a big deal. You are saying it is a big deal that he doesn't mak more »

  • Posted 01/20/2012 09:16:39 EST

    Dear LW, Step 1: Watch "Swingers." Great movie, and there might be some lessons in there for you. Step 2: I'm actually not sure what Step 2 is. I'd like to say, "Calm down!" but saying it won't make i more »

  • Posted 12/22/2011 09:21:02 EST

    You've had months to ask her out, and now that she's two days into dating someone else, you think now is the time? Dude. That just sounds kind of lame to me. Go find someone else you like, and possibl more »

  • Posted 12/20/2011 09:14:40 EST

    At this point, why do you even want to try to fix things with him? The clincher for me was that he's asked you many times to move out. The fact that you find creditor calls "embarrassing" makes me thi more »

  • Posted 12/09/2011 09:15:29 EST

    "We signed the papers and I hoped for the best." LW, you are in a messy, complicated situation, one that you helped create, as Meredith said. I agree with all her advice. Yet, that phrase really stuck more »

  • Posted 12/07/2011 09:18:17 EST

    In this little algebra story, you are proposing that z-y=x. I actually think if you go that route, it will end up being z-y=x-x. In other words, you are going to end up single and with neither one of more »

  • Posted 03/25/2011 09:13:26 EDT

    Meredith, file this one under "meddling" and re-use this response each time. Kind and actionable and brilliant. Better yet, trademark it and sell it to all other advice columnists when they need the p more »

  • Posted 03/22/2011 09:10:12 EDT

    "I know inside that most likely I will want to start a family someday and certainly would leave Charlie behind for that..." And I'm pretty sure that you maybe definitely don't know exactly what you wa more »

  • Posted 03/15/2011 09:14:23 EDT

    Who wants a single dad? A single mom, that's who. Probably not a single non-mom; if she wants kids, she'll probably want her own, and if she doesn't, she doesn't want yours either. But single moms? If more »

  • Comment on: I want kids

    Posted 01/13/2011 09:16:53 EST

    Let me just add that it isn't necessarily a "her or a baby" equation. It is a "her or another woman AND a baby." I get that you love this woman, and that things are otherwise great....but there is not more »

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