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  • Posted 02/13/2012 10:04:37 EST

    My question is: why did you two move in together? Was it financial? Are you both contributing equally? My instincts tell me that the living arrangements are convenient (or necessary for him) and he is more »

  • Posted 11/23/2010 12:03:40 EST

    What's 'sexist' about saying someone can't dance? more »

  • Posted 12/03/2009 09:55:17 EST

    I think there's more going on here than maybe the LW realizes and that is what is making potential 'firsts' nervous. It's just not believable to me that you've 'very much wanted' to take the next step more »

  • Posted 12/02/2009 10:38:20 EST

    The problem with telling someone off is that what it really does is show that person how much you do care, how much they did get under your skin. It nearly always gives them the upper hand. While I ha more »

  • Posted 10/23/2009 09:53:41 EDT

    Younger women -- and since you mention school, I assume she is -- sometimes make the mistake of being overly kind to a guy they know is interested, thinking that will spare his feelings. Of course it more »

  • Posted 10/19/2009 11:54:29 EDT

    This is a question that confuses those of us older than 23. What are you looking for? You want to meet someone who says 'I am only interested in serious, long term relationships'? Do people go around more »

  • Posted 10/16/2009 03:05:03 EDT

    Having disliked (and been disliked by) a boyfriend's family in the past, I made a concerted effort with my husband's family. There are a lot of holidays in life. It turns out I like most of them very more »

  • Posted 10/15/2009 02:16:57 EDT

    Aside from all the speculation and filling in of the blanks, all that we actually know is that after 2 1/2 years in a relationship, the LW is hurt because it ended. And it's more painful because of th more »

  • Posted 10/13/2009 12:01:50 EDT

    There was a red flag I learned to look for with guys I was dating: 'My ex was wonderful.' Sometimes it would be the ex from when they were 17 and in high school, sometimes it would be the one from 6 m more »

  • Posted 10/08/2009 12:21:15 EDT

    Summa - don't bring it up. Sure, if he asks you can tell him. If he was concerned or wanted to know, he would. If things are going well between you two, he doesn’t care. Wary, it's hard to tell if y more »

  • Posted 10/06/2009 02:43:26 EDT

    I think the answer here depends more on the things we don't know -- how included was he in the decision? If he wasn’t, then it’s a lot to expect him to find a new job in a new city. Work on making more »

  • Posted 09/24/2009 10:55:01 EDT

    If you want to say it, say it. Overthinking or playing waiting games is foolishness. Not that it isn't hard to open yourself up to rejection; it is. But since you feel it, you already have. Just be su more »

  • Posted 09/14/2009 10:51:31 EDT

    Willie, I'm sorry that I'm late to the party but I wanted to comment.  When I first met my now husband, it was great at first -- in the fun casual stage -- and then we got out of sync.  He was pushing more »

  • Posted 09/14/2009 10:32:03 EDT

    I remember what it was like to be 18/19 and in a relationship.  It was always so dramatic and your friends are no different.  But life is typically not all that dramatic in reality and making it so is more »

  • Posted 08/25/2009 11:22:18 EDT

    You mention you are happy with the relationship but is this someone you would marry? That's not to say marriage need be the goal but is this someone with whom you have enough in common for the long ha more »

  • Posted 08/18/2009 12:39:49 EDT

    In Response to Re: OT-How should I/we handle this?: In Response to Re: OT-How should I/we handle this? : No, went to Northeastern. It was an interesting course though. I am still not as comfortable as more »

  • Posted 08/18/2009 11:41:56 EDT

    I (a woman) have to say I don't consider it such a big deal. You could say that the realtor got it wrong but it was a fun mistake and you went with it, not figuring you'd see her again. But since you more »

  • Posted 06/11/2009 04:42:48 EDT

    You feel insecure about your smile and maybe your insecurity is impacting how women perceive you.  I knew a guy once who was outright ugly but as I got to know him, he was confident and fun and I stop more »

  • Posted 06/11/2009 04:33:28 EDT

    How old is this person?  It sounds like he's still interested but instead of being an adult and saying something directly, he makes himself sound like a deranged teenaged girl pining away after one of more »

  • Posted 04/20/2009 12:01:53 EDT

    I'm at 24 weeks now and for the most part we have switched to mornings because I cannot seem to stay awake past 9:00.� Granted I get up very early in general but since getting pregnant, I can't even p more »

  • Forum Post: Midwives

    Posted 10/16/2008 09:45:38 EDT

    You might want to check with your area hospital. I chose to have my baby at MGH and hadn't really thought about the midwife/MD route. I just assumed I'd have a Ob since I was at a hospital. As it turn more »

  • Forum Post: Constantly hungry

    Posted 07/04/2008 05:41:55 EDT

    [Quote]I have twins, born in April a monthe early.  Though prematurity showed in lack or nail dvelopment, lots of little things, they were not low birthweight -  together, 12 pounds.  But where my 5 l more »

  • Forum Post: Constantly hungry

    Posted 07/04/2008 05:32:36 EDT

    [Quote]Are you using a pacifier at all?  It was very helpful with my son when he was an infant.  Sucking is a natural stress reliever for babies.  Try to swaddle real tight and help her with the pacif more »

  • Forum Post: Constantly hungry

    Posted 07/03/2008 12:37:37 EDT

    Hi, I'm hoping someone has some insight for me.  My daughter is 6 weeks old and exclusively breastfed.  She is constantly showing hunger cues, no matter how recently she has been fed.  Of course, my f more »

  • Posted 02/01/2008 12:00:40 EST

    Because of how I feel about showers, my husband jokes that the theme of mine should be 'The Ides of March'.� What would the decorations be for that?� Cutlery?

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