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  • Comment on: He Gets Agitated

    Posted 04/28/2015 09:58:16 EDT

    You need to leave.

    For whatever reason, he is a ticking time bomb. He lashes out at you at slight provocations. He is manipulative about his feelings. Why try to make this work? You can do better.

  • Comment on: I Text My Ex

    Posted 04/27/2015 08:33:37 EDT

    You sound like you are still hung up on your ex.

    Maybe you should stop pretending to be friends with the ex and focus on your current gf.

  • Posted 02/07/2015 10:38:09 EST

    Mere's advice is solid. To the producers of the video: please lose the "whimsical" music that implies there is something comical happening. If you're going to use music, use something that doesn't und more »

  • Comment on: Dating a musician

    Posted 05/08/2014 08:51:22 EDT

    "Date the person who she is now, not the person that you'll hope she'll be. "

    I wish I could "like" this more than once. Excellent advice. more »

  • Comment on: Dating a musician

    Posted 05/08/2014 08:46:16 EDT

    "Can I expect her to eventually mature and put a reasonable level of effort that would align closer to mine?" Her level of effort doesn't necessarily have anything to do with her maturity. This may ju more »

  • Comment on: Happy Thanksgiving

    Posted 11/28/2013 11:39:45 EST

    The letter (and your response) which introduced the idea of "grilled cheese" as a sexual metaphor. 

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  • Comment on: His mother is sick

    Posted 09/27/2013 03:58:27 EDT

      LW, I think you should talk to your husband about being a team, not a leader and a follower. Emphasize that teamwork is essential for you two to get through this stressful time as calmly as possible more »

  • Comment on: Dating a stoner

    Posted 09/19/2013 04:21:49 EDT

    I feel like I stumbled onto the Ask Beth column. That said, LW, you should break up with this guy. Find someone you don't feel the need to change. Find someone who you delight in and who delights in y more »

  • Posted 08/14/2013 11:26:59 EDT

    OK, LW, more important than most of your letter is the way you found some random guy telling you he wanted you to stay home F/T with babies to be some sort of swooningly hot proposition. YOU HAVE NO I more »

  • Posted 08/14/2013 11:18:56 EDT

    Look at you! Caught up to the young'uns and throwing it right back at them! Love this. Nice to know I was not the only scratching my head at her use of brand names as verbs (not to mention her choices more »

  • Posted 08/14/2013 10:58:51 EDT

    I know. I thought this was just gross. And kind of pathetic. 

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  • Posted 08/14/2013 10:57:39 EDT

    LW, you're so modern and hip with your mention of Ubering a car, yet you never thought to duck into the ladies' room and use your smartphone to google Mr. Wonderful? How much trouble could you have sa more »

  • Posted 07/10/2013 10:52:09 EDT

    She sounds like she's feeling broken-hearted and hopeless, not committed to unhappiness. No one wants to have their spouse say such devastating things to them.  I think she and her husband got preoccu more »

  • Posted 07/10/2013 10:42:24 EDT

    Dear LW,  You said,"Divorce is not an option." I admire that you take your marital commitment seriously. But, does your husband?  His statements indicate total dissatisfaction and unhappiness with you more »

  • Posted 07/08/2013 11:27:55 EDT

    I agree. I don't consider "we never fight" to be a GOOD thing. I think it's a red flag that someone either doesn't care or is burying every contradictory feeling. Not good. 

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  • Posted 07/08/2013 11:26:11 EDT

    Sorry, LW, but I don't see this working out well. Sarah is #1 on your list of priorities, while you are #3 on hers (after her family and after her new job).  I think you should try to find someone who more »

  • Posted 05/24/2013 11:31:06 EDT

    Pierce, you made me laugh. Shame on you.

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  • Posted 05/24/2013 11:29:47 EDT

    Dear LW,  I agree with those who have said talk to a therapist on your own, first, before doing anything else.    I also agree with those who have said you are misplacing your anxiety and guilt -- you more »

  • Posted 05/22/2013 12:37:21 EDT

    This feels like a letter that should have been sent to "Ask Beth." I know this LW is young, but WOW this letter is so.... young. So very young. 

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  • Comment on: How to be friends

    Posted 05/21/2013 02:06:01 EDT

    I like your advice, except for the part where you say the woman in question is smart. No, she's not. She pursued him and pushed for more. Now, she's facing the reality of the distance and the fact tha more »

  • Posted 05/20/2013 08:30:20 EDT

    Sheesh, Henry Rollins, no need to yell... we're all right here; we can hear you just fine. 

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  • Posted 05/20/2013 11:33:01 EDT

    LW, a couple more suggestions... You and your husband need to spend more time as a twosome, doing something you both enjoy. You need to put a little fun back into your marriage (and I don't mean s*e*x more »

  • Posted 05/20/2013 11:20:51 EDT

    Dear LW,  Your husband does not respect you. Perhaps he resents how hard he works and the kind of work you do is invisible to him, so he feels like you are sponging off of him. He sounds really checke more »

  • Posted 05/14/2013 12:18:41 EDT

    I wish the Globe had done a better job of summarizing the NYT op-ed. Here it is, for as long as the Globe leaves it up: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ MY MOTHER fought cancer for almost a decade and died a more »

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