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  • Posted 05/29/2015 12:00:38 EDT

    Val, he is not calling it a day. He is creeped out enough to take the time and write for advice, so obviously this is not something he's shrugging off easily. I'm suggesting a couple of ways he can de more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 11:58:53 EDT

    Guru, your advice to get a lawyer and threaten to sue seems more likely to make this a mountain than seeing a therapist privately to talk about how the situation makes you feel. (And I say this while more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 11:42:49 EDT

    Why does someone who would secretly videotape another person and use that information against them "deserve" a "nice, simple life"??? more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 11:41:40 EDT

    I imagine you feel violated, no matter what is on the tapes. Consider seeing a lawyer, to find out if you have cause to sue this person. You could feel better for having explored this option. You will more »

  • Posted 05/28/2015 03:00:46 EDT

    Your need to see people as good/bad is getting in the way of seeing that you two are not a good match. Be true to yourself. Find a guy who appreciates you exactly as you are -- and whom you appreciate more »

  • Posted 05/22/2015 09:37:01 EDT

    LW, I think you should listen to yourself -- the answer is clear. You said in your letter that you're in a "critical environment," that your boyfriend has "complaints" about you and wants you to chang more »

  • Posted 05/22/2015 09:30:40 EDT

    He decided to evaluate you during what sounds like a stressful, tragic time in your life? And his evaluation was that you're not good enough for him?

    Why do you want to stay?

    You can do better. more »

  • Posted 05/21/2015 09:12:30 EDT

    If you think you can handle the ups and downs of marriage and child-rearing with someone who is just OK, you're crazy. You need someone with whom you really want to have those experiences, because lif more »

  • Posted 05/21/2015 09:11:09 EDT

    Your girlfriend deserves someone who thinks she is amazing, not someone who will do because no one better came along by a made-up deadline. more »

  • Posted 05/20/2015 09:19:09 EDT

    I had a relationship with someone who insisted I cut off contact with friends who were exes. Turned into just one in a long string of efforts to control me. Whether or not that is what is going on her more »

  • Posted 05/19/2015 09:09:35 EDT

    Also, if you have panic attacks that cause you to behave like a teenager (dumping someone via text), you need to make sure you're getting help for that. That is not long-term relationship behavior. more »

  • Posted 05/19/2015 09:08:14 EDT

    So he went on a couples camping trip without you, with some other woman? That sounds odd. Why didn't he tell you this was occurring at the time? At the very least, he has a different idea of what he i more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:07:40 EDT

    She doesn't specify what kind of struggle was involved. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:06:36 EDT

    I don't understand her anxiety about this, given that it takes maybe 6 months to a year for a divorce to be finalized if it's not messy. What is the rush??? more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:05:02 EDT

    Maybe the guys who don't want to date you because of your legal status are picking up on your own ambivalence about dating before the divorce is final. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:03:53 EDT

    Of course it's not a bad thing. Just a rare thing -- that it's truly platonic and not about hoping for something more on one side or other of the friendship. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 08:59:45 EDT

    You sound conflicted. Your avoidance of men willing to date you (when you say you're ready to date) reminds me of the saying, "I refuse to belong to any club that would have me as a member." Stop over more »

  • Posted 05/15/2015 04:52:13 EDT

    Some suggestions: 1. See a therapist and sort out WTH you were thinking for taking a decade break from dating or relationships. That was a huge overreaction, and you can't assume you're fine now and r more »

  • Posted 05/13/2015 10:14:36 EDT

    Wow, this headline was really misleading.

    How about: "Cheated on My Husband: Should I Stay or Should I Go?"

    I feel sorry for your husband. more »

  • Posted 05/11/2015 09:05:01 EDT

    Have that third dinner, but be prepared that telling him you're separated will lead to questions -- such as, are you getting divorced? If you're not sure about the answer to that question, slow down. more »

  • Comment on: I Squish

    Posted 04/29/2015 08:53:20 EDT

    I admire you for taking her letter so seriously and offering real advice. You are more patient than I am feeling this morning. more »

  • Comment on: I Squish

    Posted 04/29/2015 08:52:27 EDT

    I admit it, I thought "squishing" was some new slang for a topic that I expected to be For Adults Only.

    Had no idea this letter was actually going to be for the high school set. more »

  • Comment on: He Gets Agitated

    Posted 04/28/2015 09:58:16 EDT

    You need to leave.

    For whatever reason, he is a ticking time bomb. He lashes out at you at slight provocations. He is manipulative about his feelings. Why try to make this work? You can do better. more »

  • Comment on: I Text My Ex

    Posted 04/27/2015 08:33:37 EDT

    You sound like you are still hung up on your ex.

    Maybe you should stop pretending to be friends with the ex and focus on your current gf. more »

  • Posted 02/07/2015 10:38:09 EST

    Mere's advice is solid. To the producers of the video: please lose the "whimsical" music that implies there is something comical happening. If you're going to use music, use something that doesn't und more »